ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson’s Home

Hello Folks..I have unpacking..my family and I moved out of the state..So I pray all has been well with everyone..

I am truly not suprised that illegal drugs were found..I am however disappointed that his family was not able to intervene to save him..

Coyfee signing off…

 

Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson’s Home

By Howard Breuer

Originally posted Thursday August 27, 2009 07:20 PM EDT

Michael Jackson Photo by: Carlo Allegri / Getty

Marijuana and numerous empty drug bottles were found by police officers at Michael Jackson’s home shortly after he died, according to search warrants unsealed on Thursday.

Two bags of marijuana, a bottle of temazepam (used to treat sleeplessness), empty bottles of the sedatives lorzaepam and diazepam were discovered during the search. They also found four other empty pill bottles with no indication as to what may have been in them.

Detectives were concerned that, when Jackson died, he had “received injection of an unknown medication, prior to his death,” the warrants say. Other documents revealed that Jackson’s doctor, Conrad Murray, had been giving the singer the anesthetic propofol intravenously.

The search warrants were served on June 29, four days after the singer was pronounced dead at UCLA Medical Center, where Murray was less than forthcoming. Murray, according to documents, left the hospital “against the objections of the investigating officers” and they were not able to talk with him in the days that followed.

The warrant also says that, on the day of Jackson’s death, as investigators were at the house, “family members of the decedent notified Los Angeles County Coroner’s Assistant Chief Ed Winter that they had located a quantity of tar heroin in [Jackson's] bedroom on the second floor of the residence. Winter notified LAPD detectives of the found evidence.” There is no mention in the warrant if the evidence really turned out to be heroin.

Winter told PEOPLE on Thursday that he cannot discuss the evidence or say when the results of Jackson’s autopsy will be revealed.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point View: What is True Love?

Hi Guys and Gals..

I have been pondering the same thing.  This peace submitted by one of my close friends is an interesting topic. LOVE..I must be honest and share that I think I have been chasing it all of my adult life. LOVE..someone to hold me when I am scare..someone to caress me when I am lonely..someone to assure me that all will be well when I am uncertain..someone to be amazed by every inch of me..adoring the very dimples on even my thighs..(I am a big girl) smile..

I have hoped that one day a man will enter my life and be the missing link but until then I live..to the fullest..not down trotten..not angry..not forgetting to every breath as a gift from God. I will live everyday to the absolute fullest..if that MAN never arrives..I will have lived everyday to the absolute extreme..AND Love should it tarry will be a welcome guess in my home…

For now the LOVE of GOD is usual and eternal. He never stops loving us even when we forget that He is there..

Coyfee signing off…

What is True Love?

Posted on August 6, 2009 by theoraclemag

What we could use in the world today more then anything else is love. True love, real love. If mankind had authentic love for one another, war, world hunger, homelessness, abuse, crime and so on would all come to an end. Love begins and ends with GOD. He is the author. It was created by him and out of his nature. When we, as Christians were filled with the Holy Spirit, he gave us the spirit of love as a gift. It is his desire that we share this gift with all that we come in contact with. We are most like GOD when we show love. In truth The Bible records the greatest love story ever written, GOD’s unconditional love for his that sent his “Sun” to die on the cross (John 3:16; 1 John 4:10).

Love is more then attribute of GOD. It is in fact apart of his nature (Dueut. 7:7-8). According to the Bible “GOD is love,” that is he is the personification of love (1 Jn 4:8, 16). This type of love out reaches human understanding (Eph. 3:19). The love of GOD is everlasting (Jer. 31:3), free (Hos. 14:4) sacrificial (Jn 3:16), and enduring to the end (Jn 13:1).

In GOD’s Word there are two different Greek words that mean “to love.” The word phileo means “to have ardent affection and feeling,” a brotherly love. This is why Phillidphia is known as “the city of brotherly love.” The word “agapao” means “to have esteem or high regard”

GOD blessed Each of us with spiritual gifts. Shamefully many of us use these gifts to glorify ourselves. According to 1 Corinthians 13:2 this has nothing to do with love. But then in verse 3 of the same chapter Paul teaches that giving with out true love is pointless. If we give to feed our pride, we are giving in vain!

Remember we said “GOD is love” and love is his nature. 1 Cor. 13: 4-7 list the Characteristics of love which so happen to be the characteristics of GOD. Love “is patient,” meaning it suffers long with people.; no matter the evil and the injury done by a person; no matter the neglect from a loved one, without anger. Love “is kind,” meaning it is good, helpful and giving. It does not hurt. Love does not envy; it does not get Jealous. Love does not boast; does not brag or seek honor or recognition. Love is not proud or arrogant and conceited. It’s not about thinking your better then others. Love is not rude. It is full of order and control. It does not shame itself. Love is not self seeking, meaning its not selfish. It seeks to serve. Love is not easily angered, not ready to take offense. Not “touchy.” Love keeps no record of wrongs, does not consider the wrong suffered. It suffers the evil done to it and forgets it Love does not delight in evil or take pleasure of the sin of others Love rejoices when the truth is rooted and grounded in a person and among all people. Love Protects and bears all things. The Word protects or bears means both to cover all things and to bear up under all things. Love always trusts. It is completely trusting. It accepts and believes the very best about a person Love always hopes; it never stops hoping. It expects the good to eventfully triumph. Love always preserves. The word preserves is a military word meaning to stand against the attack of an enemy. Love is strong and full of fight.

But are you full of Love?

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Fairy-Tale: Gulf War penpals get married after Facebook encounter 19 years later

Ladies, miracles still happen. Read below..I thought some joy was needed in light of all the violence we see in today’s society.  Kinda makes me still hope a little for Mr. Right..or Mr. Wrong with a change of heart..smile…

Coyfee signing off…

 

Gulf War penpals get married after Facebook encounter 19 years later

BY Stephanie Gaskell
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER

Tuesday, August 4th 2009, 12:42 PM

Jaime Benefit and Jeremy Clayton met as pen pals during the 1991 Persian Gulf War. 

They reconnected this year over Facebook and were married July 15 on the beach in Charleston, S.C.

 

It started with a letter – and ended in a wedding.

Nearly two decades ago, 13-year-old Jaime Benefit wrote a letter addressed to “Any Soldier” during the Persian Gulf War, expressing her support for the troops as they prepared to invade Iraq.

The letter made its way to Pfc. Jeremy Clayton, a 19-year-old soldier from Charleston, S.C., who was serving with the 3rd Armored Cavalry Regiment.

The two became pen pals, writing back and forth about sports, high school and their families.

“Just stuff to keep their minds off of what was going on and keep their spirits up,” said Benefit, 32.

After the war ended, the two stopped writing, but Benefit always wondered what happened to Clayton.

“I’d always kept his letters,” she said. “I had them wrapped in a red-white-and-blue ribbon.”

Earlier this year, she searched his name on Facebook and sent him a short note: “Were you in Desert Storm?”

Clayton, 38, now out of the Army, saw the message and had one reaction: “Shock and awe.”

“I just knew I had to find out what she was doing,” he recalled.

The two agreed to meet in March, and their fate was sealed.

“It took my breath,” Clayton said of seeing his one-time pen pal in the flesh. “I was actually shaking and I’m a pretty strong man. I just said to myself, ‘You have to do whatever you can to make sure you spend the rest of your life with this woman.’”

Clayton proposed not long after, and the two got married July 15 in a simple ceremony on the beach in Charleston.

“It was fate that I got her letter,” he said. “And her finding me 19 years later was fate.”

The Internet may have brought the newlyweds together, but they still rely on good old pen and paper to keep their bond strong.

“She writes me notes every morning and puts them in my lunch,” he said.

sgaskell@nydailynews.com

ConversationswitCoyfee presents In Black Church:Pastor’s Ex Reveals “Life After The Down Low”

This is Coyfee attempting to share about the below subject.  I am not comfortable commentating on this. I will only add that Ingrid is not alone.  It has become as infectious as the Swine Flu.

 

What? Pastors-Men in leadership..taking the innocence away of not only our daughters but our sons also..It is a shame and a disgrace..But what of the women and families that these men (pastors) leave behind to wear the garment of shame..Please pray for the families that are left to pull the shredded fabric together to attempt to design cloaks that will once again cover them..

Coyfee signing off..

Pastor’s Ex Reveals “Life After The Down Low”

By Sheeri Mitchell May 14, 2009 2:39 pm

 

Nearly two years ago, Ingrid Michelle was leveled by the shocking truth. Her then-husband of 12 years revealed that he had engaged in oral sex with a young man they both knew. The problem? Apart from being her spouse at the time of the “incident” her husband had been a youth pastor at a thriving church. And the young man? A former member of the flock. After recovering from the initial shock, Ingrid would be confronted with mounting evidence and eyewitness testimony that she had married not only a man who had been living life on the down low, but who was also an accused pedophile.  Shocked and disgusted to her core, Ingrid would have to pick up the pieces of a shattered life and begin again.  It would get much worse before it got better.

Below is her story in her own words:

I’ll never forget May 27th 2007 for as long as I live. Maybe I should, but right now it sticks out like a sore thumb. Contrary to it being the day of the greatest catastrophe in my personal history, the Southern California morning sun was in rare form. It was perfectly warm with a delicious hint of a Sunday breeze. The day started off as any day would. We went to church and came home to enjoy a quiet relaxing afternoon while Bobby grilled ahi tuna, fresh green onions and garlic. The salad that would be birthed was one we had mastered and my mouth watered anticipating the taste. We grubbed as if the last supper and lay around the remainder of the day. Devan tuckered out long before our expected television marathon and Bobby and I nestled into our king sized bed on either side of him with remote in hand to watch our favorite line up – Desperate Housewives and Brothers and Sisters. Just after the credits rolled, Bobby turned the television off. My initial thought was to slide under the covers and turn the lights out but I heard him take a deep breath as if he wanted to say something. I thought nothing of it, but it was when he faced me that things felt a little weird. We had just finished chuckling and trying to figure out who did what on Wisteria Lane and suddenly the mood instantly became serious.

“Okay! I have something to tell you,” he said.

There was a pregnant pause. There was something slightly eerie about this particular silence. It wasn’t anything that I had ever felt. The once smile that graced my face became a little disconcerted. I carefully made eye contact with him. I could feel the palpitations of my heart. His stare was drenched with garden of Gethsemane typed anguish. I knew it was something bad.

“Okay!” He took a deep sigh. “So…I’ve been smoking weed for a while now and I exchanged oral sex with Elliott.”

There it was; a massive head on collision. In the spirit, I could see the carnage as it lay in wake and embarrassed for him, I could no longer gaze his way. My head instantly became a fog as I drifted. It felt like an out of body experience where my entire life seemed to flash before me. I kept thinking to myself, did he just say he and Elliott had sex? Elliott? Elliott? Is this the same Elliott that we once mentored in our youth ministry? The same Elliott who was molested as a young lad and then was subsequently emasculated by his domineering mother? Was this the Elliott that Bobby spoke of? The Elliott whose dancer’s body enticed a number of young girls and had adult women yearning? Was this the same person? ‘Please God!’ I pleaded within me. He was someone that Bobby was supposed to have been keeping accountable to his walk with Christ, particularly as it related to his sexual confusion. Was he saying to me that the very person he led as youth Pastor and mentored, he slept with?

As I tried to wrap my mind around what he had just disclosed about him and Elliott, I kept thinking, ‘damn it!’ This m’fer was in my house somewhere giving and receiving a blow job from a young man that was just shy of being a minor and I’m out in the hot ass sun selling hand-painted t-shirts trying to make a dollar out of fifteen cents while fulfilling our supposed dream. Was he serious? Elliott was supposed to have visited us for a collective visit to see the Dance Theatre, not to be in bed with my husband smoking marijuana together like some out of control high school sex fiend. My head was spinning. I couldn’t think. I stared at the wall for what felt like hours. I couldn’t really grasp what my “husband” had just revealed to me. Was this really happening to me? This was something that I would read about. This was an Ebony article, not my life an Oprah story, not my life. What in the hell was I to do with this…

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Ask The Black Man:Can A Woman Be In Love With Two Different Men?

Greetings..

Here’s an age old topic, that’s sure to stir some discussion.  TBM was recently asked if “Can a woman Be In Love With Two Different Men?”. What do you think? I personally think it is possible and not just based on sexual attraction.  I think in life we as people need different things from different people but saying that mouthful. Should we(women) establish and maintain a relationship with two different men? Well please tell me how you feel about this topic..I thought it might lessen the week long blahs for those of us that continue to sadden by continued violence against our children.

This is Coyfee signing off…Now to the “Ask The Black Man”

Can A Woman Be In Love With Two Different Men?

Posted Aug 3

Dear Blackman,

Can a woman be in love with two different men? -LT

 The Blackman: Hi LT, That circumstance would be a rare one but I believe anything is possible in life. I feel that you can have love for two people but can only be in love with one person. It’s very important to have a clear distinction of your feelings, not only in love but in lust. For example, some people think that they may be in love with someone but it is only pure sexual attraction. When the sexual attraction wears off then they feel they are not “in love” with that person anymore. It was never love in the first place. In conversations that I’ve had with many women, I’ve found that in regards to relationships their emotions get very wrapped up in a person that they are involved with (as anyone’s emotions should), so I would see it being difficult to have those same emotions towards two people at the same time. I think you can be in love with someone and can be extremely compatible with someone else. One must be clear on their feelings and what being “in love” really is. I feel being in love with two men at the same time is a very rare occurrence. That’s my 99 Cents worth. TBM

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point Of View: Exploring The Concepts of Polyamory – Open Relationships

Would you Consider an Open Marriage? What’s Your Opinion? Do you Think it’s Wrong? How do You feel?

Salutations!

I have new topics just bubbling around in my head to share with you. The one for today is: Would you consider an open marriage

I was reading a part of a bio from JujuMama.  I will read almost anything even if I don’t agree with it.  So as I read her bio..she shared her story about how she made peace with the idea of her husband’s choice and eventually hers.

An open marriage ..well the road to this new type of relationship seemed bumpy almost not possible but her husband was very persistent.  He had a soo much love that he wanted to share it with another as well with the promise that it would not take away from his love for her.  Check out her story ..it’s quite interesting..

So after reading that story I knew I had to find out what the men I knew felt about this subject. So I went deep undercover and began my research..One of my friends, we will call him ‘T’ for short.  T was not even open to his wife flirting with other mens. Calm down ladies I am not saying that I agree or disagree with him.  However, I was joking around with one of my male friends and so I thought he would be my test subject.  Of course he has no idea that he is..shhhhs – Don’t tell, okay. 

Is it wrong to share your husband/wife with a secondary partner? Well I was honestly shocked that a man (member of the male species) would not like the idea of having sex with multiple women in the open. He stated that it would not be good to live this lifestyle with his wife knowing and he definitely would agree to his wife having a secondary partner.  I had to know more so I push a little more.  I wanted to know why not? I mean most married men have cheated at least once on their wife.  He remarked that it wouldn’t be the same if she(his wife) knew.

Well that was shocking but when I asked what if your wife wanted to embrace the lifestyle?  Well that was a definite NO. NO. No…No. So ladies, if your going to marry a guy like this …You won’t be able to have two men for if that’s your flavor..

Now if you have a personality that you have hidden from your girlfriend/boyfriend or fiance.  Now’s the time to discuss it with your partner before you solidify the arrangement.  Most people have two personalities and some are hard to hide? Well it takes a long time to share all of yourself with anyone..

Tell me your opinions about this topic? Talk2Me..

This is Coyfee signing off…..

 

 

 

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Scorned Women Seek Revenge on Three-Timer

Ladies and gentle the cost of infedility is growing higher and higher. In some cases the lost of life and in others embarassing bonding(Krazy glued) taking place. The below story is one that at first seems comical but after I got up off the floor and stopped laughing. I realized that someone’s heart was broken in fact, four women’s hearts were broken.  This man really should offer careful thought to what made him crush the hopeful hearts of these four women. I know someone is wondering why do I continue to count four when the report only states that there were three women. I have chosen to included his wife. Oh yes, she is the one who told the other women.

This is Coyfee signing off….

 

Scorned Women Seek Revenge on Three-Timer

Police Say Women Attacked Man, Applied Krazy Glue to Sensitive Parts

By ANDREA CANNING
Aug. 1, 2009

If you mess with one scorned woman, you’re bound to get burned. If you mess with two, things could really get ugly. Share Three women allegedly attack man who dated each of them while he was married. But what happens when you mess with three? An unidentified married Wisconsin man who was dating three women at the same time found out the hard way that it can only mean trouble.

 

After finding out that the same Casanova had been courting them all simultaneously, Michelle Belliveau, Wendy Sewell and Therese Ziemann allegedly lured the man to a local motel room to seek revenge. Police say Ziemann kicked off the plan, convincing the man to voluntarily agree to be bound and blindfolded with the promise of a massage. But instead, police say, she cut off his underwear and sent a text message to the other women to enter the room. Related Cold Feet Cost Hubby-to-Be $150kWATCH: Broken Heart Means Big PaydayWATCH: Man Pays for Bout of Cold Feet District Attorney:

 

Women Conspired to Allegedly Attack “This wasn’t a spur of the moment type of event in that all of the participants in the complaint and in the information provided were part and parcel of this plan,” said Ken Krantz, the district attorney of Calumet County, Wis. When the women came into the room, they allegedly attacked him and applied Krazy Glue to sensitive body parts. Reports show that they asked the victim which woman he loved more, which one he wanted to grow old with, slapped him in the face and then said, “Can you handle that?” The man was finally released after he started screaming, and police say the women fled with his cell phone, wallet and car. So, how did the trio find out about each other? Police say it was the man’s wife who informed them of the love quad.

 

According to the Appleton Post-Crescent newspaper, an arrest warrant was issued Friday for Tracy M. Hood-Davis, the victim’s wife, who also faces a charge of being a party to false imprisonment.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Finding Hope: A Homeless Community Under A Bridge

This story seems like the fate of many Americans. When both partners loose their jobs and they extend their savings a shelter maybe the next downward step.  I have wondered why the utilities are aloud to rise. Why is the cost of gas allowed to rise? Food to rise in cost? Tuition to rise? Basically everything has been allowed to rise in cost and price accept aid to families. The below community is organized and has a written code of conduct. Should the government recognize communities like this one? Should these communities get stimulus money to help its members get back on their feet? Talk2Me..tell me how you feel

Coyfee signing off….

  

Finding Shelter and Community Under a Bridge

By DAN BARRY

Published: July 30, 2009

Timothy Webb, 49, left, and Bruce, 59, live in a tent city, dubbed Camp Runamuck in Providence under an overpass stretch of Route 195 that is scheduled for demolition. More Photos >

 

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Stephanie Proulx, 19, above, washing her hair near the camp’s bathroom. Residents of the tent city, who obey a written compact and vote on issues concerning them, share tasks and usually gather for supper at 6 p.m. More Photos »

The chief emerges from his tent to face the leaden morning light. It had been a rare, rough night in his homeless Brigadoon: a boozy brawl, the wielding of a knife taped to a stick. But the community handled it, he says with pride, his day’s first cigar already aglow.

By community he means 80 or so people living in tents on a spit of state land beside the dusky Providence River: Camp Runamuck, no certain address, downtown Providence.

Because the two men in the fight had violated the community’s written compact, they were escorted off the camp, away from the protection of an abandoned overpass. One was told we’ll discuss this in the morning; the other was voted off the island, his knife tossed into the river, his tent taken down.

The chief flicks his spent cigar into that same river. There is talk of rain tonight.

Behind him, the camp stirs. Other tent cities have sprung up recently around the country, but Rhode Island officials have never seen anything like this. A tea kettle sings.

A heavily pierced young person walks by without picking up an empty plastic bottle, flouting the camp compact that says everyone will share in the labor. The compact may be as impermanent as this sudden community by the river, but for now it is binding. The chief speaks, the bottle is picked up.

The chief, John Freitas, is 55, with a gray beard touched by tobacco rust. He did prison time decades ago, worked for years as a factory supervisor, then became homeless for all the familiar, complicated reasons.

Layoffs, health problems, a slip from apartment to motel room. His girlfriend, Barbara Kalil, 50, lost her job as a nursing-home nurse, and another slip, into the shelter system. A job holding store-liquidation signs beside the highway allowed for a climb back to a motel, but it didn’t last.

Weary of shelters, the couple pitched a pup tent in Roger Williams Park, close to a plaque bearing words Williams had used to describe this place he founded: “A Shelter for Persons in Distress.” But someone complained, so Mr. Freitas set off again in search of shelter. The March winds blew.

Down South Main Street he went, past the majestic court building and the upscale seafood restaurant, over a guardrail to a gravelly plot beneath a ramp that once guided cars toward Cape Cod. Foul-smelling and partially hidden, a place of birds and rodents, it was perfect.

He and Ms. Kalil set up camp with another couple in early April. Word of it spread from the shelters to Kennedy Plaza downtown, where homeless people share the same empty Tim Hortons cup to pose as customers worthy of visiting that doughnut chain’s restroom. The camp became 10 people, then 15, then 25. No children allowed.

“I was always considered the leader, the chief,” Mr. Freitas says. “I was the one consulted about ‘Where should I put my tent?’ ”

By late June the camp had about 50 people. But someone questioned the role of Mr. Freitas as chief, so he stepped down. Arguments broke out. Food was stolen.

“There was no center holding,” recalls Rachell Shaw, 22, who lives with her boyfriend in a tidy tent decorated with porcelain dolls. “So everybody voted him back in.”

The community also established a five-member leadership council and a compact that read in part: “No one person shall be greater than the will of the whole.”

It is now late afternoon in late July, a month after nearly everyone signed that compact. The community remains intact, though the very ground they walk on says nothing is forever. Here and there are the exposed foundations of fish shacks that lined the river long ago.

Some state officials recently stopped by to say, nicely but firmly, that everyone would soon have to leave. The overpass poses the threat of falling concrete, and is scheduled for demolition. The officials have shared the same message with a smaller encampment across the river.

For now, a game of horseshoes sends echoing clanks, as outreach workers conduct interviews and raindrops thrum the tent tops. The chief lights another cigar and walks the length of the camp to tell residents to batten down, explaining its structure as he goes.

Here at the end, nearest the road, are the tents of young single people and substance abusers; this way, rescue vehicles won’t disrupt the entire compound.

Here in the center are a cluster of couples, including two competing for the nicest property, with homey touches like planted flowers. Here too are the food table, the coolers, the piles of donated clothes — what can’t be used will be taken by camp residents to the Salvation Army — and the large tent of the chief. Plastic pink flamingos stand guard.

Farther on, the recycled-can area (the money is used for ice and propane); the area for garbage bags that will be discreetly dropped in nearby Dumpsters at night; and, behind a blue tarp hung from the overpass, a plastic toilet. The chief says the shared task of removing the bags of waste tends to test the compact.

Finally, near some rocks where men go to urinate, live a gay couple and some people who drink hard. Timothy Webb, 49, who says he used to own a salon in Cranston called Class Act, cuts people’s hair here. Then, at night, he and his partner, Norman Trank, 45, sit at a riverside table, a battery-operated candle giving light, the moving waters suggesting mystery.

“It’s what you make of it,” Mr. Trank says.

Dark clouds have brought night early to Providence. Heavy drops thump against tarp. Water drips from the overpass, onto the long table of food.

In the last couple of hours the chief has resolved a conflict about tarp distribution, hugged a pregnant woman who mistakenly thought she had been kicked off the island, conferred with outreach workers and helped with dinner preparations. He is also thinking about tomorrow.

Tomorrow, an advance party for the chief will leave to claim another spot across the river that turns out not to be on public property. Many in the camp will decide it’s time to move on anyway, to a spot under a bridge in East Providence. Camp Runamuck will begin its recession from sight and memory.

At least tonight there is a communal dinner: donated chicken, parboiled and grilled; donated corn on the cob; donated potatoes. People line up with paper plates.

The rain falls harder, pocking the river’s gray surface, surrounding the dark camp with a sound like fingers drumming in impatience. The chief hears it, but what can he do? He finishes his dinner and lights another cigar.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s version of The Dating Game

Hello Ladies!

I have the newest email from Chrisitian Carter. He speaks about the type of men that we attract. I must be honest that I often feel like this alot. I could be in a room with 100 guys. They could all be from different backgrounds all good guys except one. I would be drawn to that one.  So I am checking out what he has to say. Well I must admit it can’t hurt..So check it out and let us know about your successes…

This is Coyfee signing off…

Stop Attracting The Wrong Men

Tired of being single and not having the kind
of love in your life you know is possible?

How would you like to hear about the quickest
and easiest way to meet a great guy, know that
he’s truly good “relationship material” for you,
and start a new relationship that could end up
being the one that lasts forever?

If you’re looking to finally find the right kind
of man, while at the same time making sure you
end your own pattern of wasting your time with
all the wrong guys… then it’s time you made
good use of your energy. The very best way to
find and attract the right man to you starting
today is right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FindingLoveOnline Hey, 

 I’m going to throw out a few
situations that come up with men that you might
be wondering how to handle.

    Then I’m going to show you what to do in
these situations.

    Let’s get started…

    Here are some of the most common questions,
statements, and scenarios that women I’ve talked
to and helped in my seminars and programs talk
about…

    See if you identify with any of these:

-”I don’t have a problem meeting men, but I
seem to attract all the WRONG GUYS. Why is this?”

-”I’ve been hurt before, and I don’t feel like
getting back out there and dating again. How do
I get myself to a place where I can open up to
a man again and go about this?”

-”I’d love to be with a great guy and enjoy a
close and loving relationship… but there don’t
seem to be any good single guys around. Where can
I meet a genuinely good guy?”

-”The moment I finally do see or meet a great
guy, I get nervous and uncertain and I don’t
really know what to do or say to get his
attention and interest. What should I do, and
how do I know if a guy is interested?”

-”I’ve heard that other women have met their
boyfriends or husbands online, but online dating
is not for me.” Or… “I tried online dating and
it didn’t work for me.”

    Let’s get right to the first scenario and
the question that goes along with it-

Scenario #1:

    “I don’t have a problem meeting men, but I
seem to attract all the WRONG GUYS. Why is this?”

    If I had a nickel for every time a woman
shared this experience with me… then I’d be
VERY well off.

    The fascinating part is that almost every
woman who shares this experience seems to believe
she’s one of the only “unlucky” women around
who has this problem.

    Meanwhile… TONS of other women have this
exact same problem of dating all the “wrong
men.”

    What’s going on here?

    Let’s break the situation down and take a
closer look.

    I’ll start from the very beginning…

    You meet a guy, you feel a strong level of
chemistry and connection for him, and you get
involved with him.

    Then comes your first mistake-

    Only AFTER THE FACT, once you’ve already
become sexual and intimate with him, do you
start to find out who he REALLY IS and what
he REALLY WANTS-

    He wants his “freedom.”

    Or…

    He’s not looking for a “serious relationship”
right now.

    Or…

    “It’s not you, it’s him. He’s just not ready.”

    Of course, hearing this AFTER you’ve already
spent time with a man, become intimate, and grown
more and more ATTACHED to him is a total WHACK
upside the head for you.

    I’m betting at least one of these reasons a
man can give for NOT wanting to be with you
sounds strangely familiar.

    If you’ve had this happen to you with a man,
and perhaps had it happen more than once… the
question is how come this kind of thing is so
common with men?

    How come a man will PULL AWAY even when you
really hit it off and there’s a great relationship
right in front of you both?

    And why do so many men so often use these same
“excuses”?

    Is it because men really and truly are
AFRAID OF RELATIONSHIPS?

    Or is there something else going on?

    Something a little deeper than a man suddenly
pulling away out of fear, or for no good reason
at all.

    I’m going to suggest to you that there is
in fact something else going on at a deeper level.

    The best place to start is to address the
idea or belief that way too many men are afraid
of relationships.

    I have a very different perspective on this
than you might have heard before.

    I DON’T believe that men are afraid of real
relationships.

    Not at all.

    I believe that men simply don’t care much
about relationships until they feel and experience
that intense flood of EMOTIONS that takes over
their body and mind.

    And that flood of feelings and emotions that
takes over a man’s thoughts and desires, and is
capable of literally causing a man to do a
complete 180 degree turn away from his prior
wants and beliefs, is commonly referred to as
ATTRACTION.

    Of course, when I’m talking about this kind
of powerful and transformative force… I’m not
just talking about your run of the mill “Physical
Attraction.”

    A man can experience that 3 times a day
simply by laying eyes on a woman.

    This kind of Physical Attraction has very
little to do with WHY a man will want a REAL
RELATIONSHIP with a woman (although it is also a
necessary component).

    In other words, there’s something else a man
must experience with a woman that goes DEEPER
than just that PHYSICAL ATTRACTION.

    And if you don’t know what this other thing
is, how it works, and how to create it inside a
man once you’re getting to know each other and
“dating”… then it’s going to be VERY DIFFICULT
for a close, loving, and lasting relationship to
come together.

    To put it bluntly, without this “other level
of attraction”… a man just isn’t going to feel
it for you in a way that will have him pursuing
you for more and wanting to get even closer to
you.

    Instead, he’ll simply be satisfied with
spending time here and there with you on a
“casual” basis… and he won’t have much interest
or desire to get much closer to you in love and
a relationship.

    This is how a man works.

    If he doesn’t FEEL IT with you… then no
amount of TALKING to him about opening up or
COMMITTMENT is going to move things along.

    In fact, if you try and talk your way into
a relationship with a man “logically”… odds
are it’s going to completely BACKFIRE and he’s
going to become increasingly DISTANT and
eventually pull away altogether.

    You’ve seen this happen before.

    Don’t keep making the same mistake so many
other women make trying to CONVINCE a man to
engage in a relationship… when the only way
a man truly gets involved and STAYS with a woman
is when the emotional experiences he’s having
with a woman (the deeper attraction) tells him
that this is the one woman for him.

    Luckily, if you don’t have the right man in
your life right now, and you don’t know how
this “other attraction” works, I’ve got some
very GOOD NEWS…

    I’ve taken the time to put together an entire
in-depth program that shows you what this “other”
deeper and more intense and lasting attraction
is… and I show you exactly how it works and
how to create it with the man in your life.

    You can learn all about that “other attraction”
that will keep a man both physically AND
emotionally bonded to you and get free tips on
how this works right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA 

    And if you’re single and just starting off
with “dating” and meeting new men… it’s a
whole different situation than when you’re
already with a man and you want to take the
attraction and connection between you to the
next level.

    In that case, you need to know how to find,
identify, and capture the RIGHT MAN’S attention
and interest… and then you need to know how
the dating process works with a man.

    Once you learn all this, moving from first
meeting to the first few dates to a growing
and thriving relationship becomes easy… as
you know all the steps along the way and can
easily move from one to the next with the man
in your life.

    Don’t let the common “traps” that other women
fall into with dating get in your way.

    For the ultimate guide to meeting a great
guy and getting things started off right, and
to get to the very bottom of the things that
keep getting in your way of creating a truly
loving and lasting relationship from the start…
you need to check out my “Meeting The One”
program.

    In the letter I’ve written with all the
details and samples from this program, I share
the single most important thing you need to
know as a single woman dating a man that will
INSTANTLY TURN OFF the right man and cause him
to suddenly pull away.

    If you don’t know what this is, and why so
many women make this same mistake, then you’re
bound to keep messing things up and pushing the
man who could be the right one for you away.

    Go to the link below to learn this, along
with exactly what it is you can say and do that
will quickly have a man knowing you’re “the one”
for him and carrying your relationship forward
in a fun and easy way for you.

    Don’t wait. Go here now:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne 

    Oh… and if you’re single and having
a hard time meeting good guys…

    Then I want to share with you the absolute
quickest and easiest way to find a great guy,
make sure he’s true “relationship material”,
and start to connect with him on a deeper level
right away.

    It’s right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FindingLoveOnline

 

 

 

 

 

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point Of Veiw

Good Morning folks!

 

This is Coyfee. I have been busy seeking out interesting topics for our discussions. I think the one below posted by theblackman is a great start. I would love to know how guys feel about the below story. How would you handle it if it were you? Would you still be able to remain in a marriage like the one described below?

 

We are all aware that the Bible instructs married men and women to only commune with one another. So we know what the christian concept is, however, what has caused this beautiful black successful woman to stray from her vows? What has created this unfillable void in her that has pushed her into this lifestyle? Will her husband be able to remain in their marriage? Many times it is the woman that is the one being cheated on, not this time.

 

Guys tell our readers your opinions on this topic?

That’s it for now..Coyfee signing off…Much Luv To Ya!!!

 

Talk to me let me know how you really feel? Talk2Me..We want your comments…

 

Ask The Black Man

 

Right here is where you can get an objective view on love, relationships, sex, career and social issues from a Black Man’s perspective. Email your questions to asktheblackman@gmail.com.

I Am A Young,Newlywed Wife That Cheats On My Loving Husband. Please Help.

Dear TBM,

I am a newly wed (I have been married about two months) and from the outside it seems like I have it all. I am 22 years old. I just graduated college and getting ready to enter law school. I am beautiful,successful, and just bought a new house. You name it, and I’ve got it; But yet still I am unhappy. I have been to therapy, counseling, etc… I’ve read self help books, and I meditate. There is still a void which leads to my problem. To fill this void, I tend to seek male attention, and then have affairs. I love my husband, but I can not seem to stop sleeping with other men. I know it’s wrong. I know better but I do it anyway. Can you give me some advice on this?

-Candy

The Blackman:

Hi Candy,

I find this interesting scenario because you always hear about the husband cheating on the wife and now you are hearing about the wife cheating on the husband. I am not trying to point you out but wives cheating on husbands is just as commonplace in marriage and it is not because their husband cheated on them.

My first thought is to know what your relationship is like with your father. Sometimes when a relationship between a father and daughter is not good and the daughter may feel not accepted by her father, they tend to try to fill that void with other men. So getting attention from men and satisfying them is a common way to try and fill that void. It is only temporary so that is why a woman will go from one man to the next.

Another possibility is timing. You are 22 years old. You are young and perhaps you are just not ready to settle down. You may truly love your husband but you may not be ready for marriage. Women can want to sow their wild oats as well. You just not might not be ready for a commitment.

You should really look into the situation with your husband and ask yourself these questions.. Does he give you enough attention? Does he please you sexually? Does he really make you happy? If all of these answers are yes, then I would say then you may not be ready to be in a committed situation. If the answers are no, then that is the reason why you are trying to fill the void because there are elements missing in your relationship. You would need to figure out if you both could really move forward together and you should be upfront with him about your feelings.

The last thing possibility could be that if this is just a sexual thing. If you are fully content with your husband but you just like to have sex with other people at times then you may want to look at the option of an open marriage. Some couples have a great relationship/marriage but they just like to be physical with other individuals at times. Nothing more than that. Both parties really have to be on the same page for that.

Definitely figure out what it is and be honest with yourself about it. If this happening two months into a marriage this is only going to get worse, cause drama, and people will get their feelings hurt in which one of those people could be you.

Good luck with your situation.

TBM

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Life In Jamacia

Gays In Jamacia Live in Fear

Hey Guys! This is Coyfee and as always, I was surfing and ran across this story.  I won’t offer much comment on the topic.  Accept I do not believe in cruelty to the homosexual community because first of all they are people.

Now concerning my beliefs, those are private unless you ask me. I will not make this post about me or my beliefs.  I will offer this Biblical verse as a scriptural reference. Romans 1:20-Romans 2. 

18For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness;  19Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them.  20For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:  21Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.  22Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,  23And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things.  24Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves: 25Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. 

 26For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:  27And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.  28And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;  29Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,  30Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,  31Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:  32Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

 I will however direct your attention to the post. I was shocked at the below advertisement. Read below ..Battyman(Jamacian word for homosexuals).

By Associated Press July 20, 2009 9:17 am

Even now, about three years after a near-fatal gay bashing, Sherman gets jittery at dusk. On bad days, his blood quickens, his eyes dart, and he seeks refuge indoors.

A group of men kicked him and slashed him with knives for being a “batty boy” — a slang term for gay men — after he left a party before dawn in October 2006. They sliced his throat, torso, and back, hissed anti-gay epithets, and left him for dead on a Kingston corner.

“It gets like five, six o’clock, my heart begins to race. I just need to go home, I start to get nervous,” said the 36-year-old outside the secret office of Jamaica’s sole gay rights group. Like many other gays, Sherman won’t give his full name for fear of retribution.

Despite the easygoing image propagated by tourist boards, gays and their advocates agree that Jamaica is by far the most hostile island toward homosexuals in the already conservative Caribbean. They say gays, typically those in poor communities, suffer frequent abuse. But they have little recourse because of rampant anti-gay stigma and a sodomy law banning sex between men in Jamaica and 10 other former British colonies in the Caribbean.

It is impossible to say just how common gay bashing attacks like the one against Sherman are in Jamaica — their tormentors are sometimes the police themselves. But many homosexuals in Jamaica say homophobia is pervasive across the sun-soaked island, from the pulpit to the floor of the Parliament.

Hostility toward gays has reached such a level that four months ago, gay advocates in New York City launched a short-lived boycott against Jamaica at the site of the Stonewall Inn, where demonstrations launched the gay-rights movement in 1969. In its 2008 report, the U.S. State Department also notes that gays have faced death and arson threats, and are hesitant to report incidents against them because of fear.

For gays, the reality of this enduring hostility is loneliness and fear, and sometimes even murder.

Andrew, a 36-year-old volunteer for an AIDS education program, said he was driven from the island after his ex-lover was killed for being gay — which police said was just a robbery gone wrong. He moved to the U.K. for several years, but returned to Jamaica in 2008 for personal reasons he declined to disclose.

“I’m living in fear on a day-to-day basis,” he said softly during a recent interview in Kingston. “In the community where my ex-lover was killed, people will say to me when I’m passing on the street, they will make remarks like ‘boom-boom-boom’ or ‘batty boy fi dead.’ I don’t feel free walking on the streets.”

Many in this highly Christian nation perceive homosexuality as a sin, and insist violence against gays is blown out of proportion by gay activists. Some say Jamaica tolerates homosexuality as long as it is not advertised — a tropical version of former President Bill Clinton’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy for the U.S. military.

Jamaica’s most prominent evangelical pastor, Bishop Herro Blair, said he sympathizes with those who face intolerance, but that homosexuals themselves are actually behind most of the attacks reported against them.

“Among themselves, homosexuals are extremely jealous,” said Blair during a recent interview. “But some of them do cause a reaction by their own behaviors, for, in many people’s opinions, homosexuality is distasteful.”

Other church leaders have accused gays of flaunting their behavior to “recruit” youngsters, or called for them to undergo “redemptive work” to break free of their sexual orientation.

Perhaps playing to anti-gay constituents, politicians routinely rail against homosexuals. During a parliamentary session in February, lawmaker Ernest Smith of the rulingJamaica Labor Party stressed that gays were “brazen,” ”abusive,” and “violent,” and expressed anxiety that the police force was “overrun by homosexuals.”

A few weeks later, Prime Minister Bruce Golding described gay advocates as “perhaps the most organized lobby in the world” and vowed to keep Jamaica’s “buggery law” — punishable by 10 years — on the books. During a BBC interview last year, Golding vowed to never allow gays in his Cabinet.

The dread of homosexuality is so all-encompassing that many Jamaican men refuse to get digital rectal examinations for prostate cancer, even those whose disease is advanced, said Dr. Trevor Tulloch, a urology consultant at Andrews Memorial Hospital.

“Because it is a homophobic society, there’s such a fear of the sexual implications of having the exam that men won’t seek out help,” said Tulloch, adding Jamaica has a soaring rate of prostate cancer because men won’t be screened.

The anti-gay sentiment on this island of 2.8 million has perhaps become best known through Jamaican “dancehall,” a rap-reggae music hybrid that often has raunchy, violent themes. Some reggae rappers, including Bounty Killer and Elephant Man, depend on gay-bashing songs to rouse concert-goers.

“It stirs up the crowd to a degree that many performers feel they have to come up with an anti-gay song to incite the audience,” said Barry Chevannes, a professor of social anthropology at the University of the West Indies.

Brooklyn-based writer Staceyann Chin, a lesbian who fled her Caribbean homeland for New York more than a decade ago, stressed that violence in Jamaica is high — there were 1,611 killings last year, about 10 times more than the U.S. rate relative to population — but that it is “extraordinarily” high against gays.

“The macho ideal is celebrated, praised in Jamaica, while homosexuality is paralleled with pedophilia, rapists,” Chin said. “Markers that other people perceive as gay — they walk a certain way, wear tight pants, or are overly friendly with a male friend — make them targets. It’s a little pressure cooker waiting to pop.”

In 1996, when she was 20, Chin came out as lesbian on the Kingston UWI campus. She said she was ostracized by her peers, and one day was herded into a campus bathroom by a group of male students, who ripped off her clothes and sexually assaulted her.

“They told me what God wanted from me, that God made women to enjoy sex with men,” recalled Chin, a poet, performer and lecturer who closes her just-published memoir “The Other Side of Paradise” with her searing account of the attack.

Even in New York City, anti-gay Jamaican bigots sent her hate-filled e-mails after a 2007 appearance on Oprah Winfrey’s TV talk show to discuss homosexuality.

Chin said she doesn’t know if she would have the courage to come out now as a lesbian in Jamaica.

“The tensions are higher now. People are feeling very much that they have to declare camps,” she said.

Jamaican nationalism has always been tied in deeply with bugbears about masculinity, making for a “potent brew” where those who violate accepted standards of manliness are easy targets, said Scott Long of Human Rights Watch.

Long, head of a gay rights program at the New York-based group, pointed out that most other English-speaking islands in the region have tiny populations, where gays don’t come out and visible activism is limited.

“(But) what stands out about Jamaica is how absolutely, head-in-the-sand unwilling the authorities have been for years to acknowledge or address homophobic violence,” he said. “Most notably, three successive governments have completely, utterly, publicly refused even to talk about changing the buggery law — which expressly consigns gay people to second-class citizens and paints
targets on their backs.”

Prominent Jamaican political activist Yvonne McCalla Sobers noted that social standing still protects gay islanders, especially in Kingston, where a quest for privacy and the fear of crime has driven many to live behind gated walls with key pad entry systems, 24-hour security and closed-circuit television monitoring. People with power and money who are not obviously gay are often protected, she said.

“My thought is there are far more men having sex with men in this country than you would ever think is happening,” Sobers said.

Many gays from poorer areas in Jamaica say they congregate in private to find safety and companionship. Once a month, they have underground church services at revolving locations across the island.

Sherman, meanwhile, is simply trying to move on with his life. But he said he will always remember how, after his attack, patrolmen roughly lifted his bloodied body out of their squad car when a man admonished them for aiding a “batty boy.” A woman shamed them into driving him to a hospital; they stuffed him in the car’s trunk.

“Being gay in Jamaica, it’s like, don’t tell anybody. Just keep it to yourself,” he said evenly, with a half smile.

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ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Version Of the Dating Game

What If He Doesn’t Call

I was browsing a online dating site and ran across this piece. I must admit it was an interesting read.  So I thought I would share it with you.  Let me know how you feel about..

The author’s name is Christian Carter. I have included his links below. Check out his site. What if he is right? What if Carter’s concept really works..then it could really shed light on the mysterious “Man”. I know from experience the mysterious “Man” has confused me along the way. Guys often say we(women) are confusing..most of them(guys) never studied themselves..Smile

Let me know if you would like more info on dating and single life?

On to Carter’s advice..Coyfee signing off..  

 

Note: When a man doesn’t call you much, or he
stops calling altogether, he’s sending a clear
message about his feelings and about what he
thinks of you. But most women don’t know what
this message means… and what to do about it.
If you’ve dated a man and he suddenly stopped
calling after a few great dates, and you didn’t
know what to do about it, then read THIS:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/CommunicationSecrets 

Ever wonder why the man you’re dating and
having an amazing time with doesn’t call you
very often?

 Or worse… stops calling altogether?

If you’ve ever had this happen to you with
a man, then you know how FRUSTRATING it can
be when a man just suddenly stops calling
for what seems like no good reason…

And you’ve spent more time than you’d like
to admit wondering what happened and what YOU
might have done wrong.

Most women in this situation fall into a
kind of trap that seems to work against them…

 Instead of recognizing that the man not
calling is an important signal in of itself,
they become obsessed with wanting to know what
he’s thinking and WHY he’s acting this way.

But most women also know on an intuitive
level that coming out and actually asking a
man why he’s acting this way wouldn’t bring
about anything good.

And guess what?

Their intuition is right.

With most men in this situation, if you
want to connect with a man and grow closer,
then the answer is NOT to try and get him to
talk about his thoughts and feelings.

It’s time you learned what it really means
if a man isn’t calling… and what to do
about it to quickly “turn the tables” in your
favor so that he’s the one calling and asking
you out.

I’ll share this with you, but first I want
you to read this email I got recently from a
reader about this exact kind of situation. 

**QUESTION FROM A READER** 

First of all I think you are great and have
learned a lot from reading your book. I am
divorced and have been dating a widower for about
a month. We get together once or twice a week – I
don’t expect more than that – as he lives about
half an hour away from me. Our dates are great and
there is a definite physical attraction on both
sides. My problem is that in-between dates I don’t
hear from him. I know that he works hard and is
bringing up 3 children on his own – but how long
does it take to pick up the phone and ask me how
I am? Am I asking too much? Is it too soon to
expect anything? I don’t want to complain and
frighten him off, as I really like him. What do
you suggest?

Looking forward to hearing from you
R.J. from Illinois

**MY RESPONSE**

Ok, let me get the facts straight here…

You’ve been out with a man for an entire
month. (Not long at all, and effectively NO
TIME in a man’s mind)

You’ve seen each other once or twice a week
or so for 3-4 whole weeks. (Not even enough for
a man to see you as “dating”)

    And you know he is busy and raising three
young children on his own. (His attention and
focus is admittedly elsewhere.)

But in just a few dates you’ve already become
disappointed and “bothered” by the way he’s
being… and you’re wishing he would CHANGE.

DANGER.

This is bad for YOU, and for him.

The approach and mindset you have right now
is almost guaranteed to make this man see you
as too demanding and “needy” to want to be with
you, when it’s just a few weeks in.

So I hope you haven’t started talking
about all your feelings of disappointment with
him yet.. because it wouldn’t go over well
with the way you’re looking at things.

But here’s the worst part of all this…

You already have my eBook and you’re still
asking me for the “easy” answer on this, as
though there is some magic pill I can give you
that will make a man act the way you want or
expect him to be.

I’d like to be able to lie and tell you
that I could change a man for you.

But I can’t… and you know it.

The truth is, I’ve only got YOU to work
with… and you’ve only got YOUR OWN thinking
and your own behavior that you can use to
make a difference.

It’s time you started thinking about how
you can take RESPONSIBILITY for creating the
RESPONSE you want in a man…

Instead of sitting around frustrated that
he hasn’t met YOUR EXPECTATIONS you have for
him. (Especially when he doesn’t even know
what these are.)

You need to open up my eBook and go to
page 32. There I want you to read the section
called “Initial Thoughts” at least twice
and think about what’s going on there.

I want you to think about the 2 types
of people I talk about… and the kind of
“magic mindset” that’s going to help you
naturally start creating great situations
in your life.

Then I want you to think about how this
relates to the idea of COMMUNICATING with
a man in a way that creates ATTRACTION
inside of him.

As opposed to communicating with a man in
the way that KILLS the attraction he might
be feeling for you.

Once you’ve thought about this, I want
you to go to page 36 and read the section
on “How To Be Honest About What You Want.”

Pay attention here to the 4 important
questions you need to ask yourself BEFORE
you get involved with a man, or start talking
about your relationship with him.

And make sure you learn and understand
what I call “a unique habit of happy people.”

If you could apply this one simple habit
to your love life, I know it would immediately
give back to you the kind of understanding
and satisfaction you’re seeking but not meant
to get yet from the man you’re dating. (Hint -
there’s a reason why you and he aren’t totally
“connecting” yet, and it’s NOT all about him.)

 And by the way, you can download a free
trial copy of my eBook at the link below right
now, and be reading it in just a few minutes

Download and read my eBook here right now:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/eBook 

Now, you’ve also asked a great question in
your email…

 ”Am I asking for too much from him?”

Simply put – YES. You’re asking for too
much because you shouldn’t be ASKING HIM for
what you want and then hoping that he “meets
your demands.”

This is a LOSING APPROACH that will 100%
guarantee that a man won’t want to give you
what you’re looking for.

 Why?

Well, it’s not because you actually are
asking for too much.

It’s OK to know that you’d like a man in
your life who you’re involved with to call
you more.

But this isn’t about whether this is ok
for you to ask for.

No. This is all about THE WAY you ask,
and the emotions and expectations a man will
see that you’re holding onto when you open
your mouth and you’ve been going through a
whole lot of disappointment and frustration
with him… while he’s thinking that you’ve
been out on a few fun dates and everything is
fine and dandy.

WHY ISN’T HE CALLING MORE?

Here’s something you might not have thought
about…

Men often communicate and show their
feelings in less “direct” ways than simply
saying and expressing how the feel.

In fact, most men are a whole lot more
conscious of DOING things than they are of
how they effect and relate to others on an
emotional level.

So… when a man doesn’t call, it’s often
NOT an indication of something else going on
for him that he might want to talk to you
about.

Often times it’s simply an indication that
he doesn’t actually FEEL like spending more
time around you.

So he simply doesn’t call.

In other words, when it comes to men and
dating, it’s best to look at a man’s ACTIONS
and BEHAVIORS as the only TRUE INDICATION of
how they really feel inside.

As a woman, you can probably spin your
wheels dreaming up all kinds of incredible
and elaborate ideas and scenarios for why
a man isn’t calling and what it means about
his feelings and your situation.

 But, if you’re interested in doing more
than analyzing and trying to figure out things
in your own mind… then it’s best to “read”
the men you’re dating early on by what they
DO… and NOT what they SAY.

 Which means… a man not calling you often,
or at all, is an important signal in and of
itself.

 If a man is spending time with a woman
he “likes”, but he isn’t sure if he would want
much more than a few casual dates with her…
then here’s what he does…

He only calls her every once in a while to
keep the “connection” open… making sure not
to let the connection die, but also making
sure not to spend too much time with a woman
or show her too many signs of interest that
might indicate he’d want a more serious
relationship.

And yes, some men actually think this way
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ConversationswitCoyfee presents Poverty and The Single Mother

 

Poverty and The Single Mother

This essay is a brief of a story that I read in college. I must be honest and share that I am at lost on the author but the feelings reflected thru the writings are truly life altering…please read and reflex..lastly repositon your own thoughts,prejudices, and fears about the subject of homelessness…..by Coyfee from ConversationswitCoyfee

The thought of poverty woke up fears inside of me that I have harbored for years. The fear that as a single parent myself and my children might end up homeless. I have cried many nights when there seemed like the life she describes so vividly, would be a reality for us, again. Watching a homeless person while she brought me into her world. I could smell the stink she she mentioned. I could see the decay on her teeth. I could feel the shame as her hope crawled out the window leaving her desperate and in deep despair. Please my friends as we watch our president make his way to other countries that have starving and homeless mothers everywhere,please do not turn a blind eye to the ones in your very own cities, your neighborhoods, the subway or train stations, the bus stations, the resturants..Please I plead with you..lay the judgement and prejudice down..pick up the commandment to love thy neighbor as thyself.

 Can you see her skin aging prematurely because of the constant emotional pain. I do not want to imagine the valley of decision she had to live in. She never slept because she had to always stay awake to fight the roaches away from her kids. Can you imagine having to give your children sour milk because the refrigerator does not work? Could you imagine the smell of urine on the mattress where you have to sleep and without any sheets on it. I believed she was pleading with us to look at those afflicted with poverty thru an angry heart, anger that will help you help her and others like her. She reminds us that the poor are always silent.

She begs us not to be silent any longer. She is pleading with us to bring attention to this peculiar institution of poverty, not to allow the world to turn a blind eye to those who are silent.   The purpose of this writing is to bring national attention to the injustice of poverty. I believe does an excellent job of inviting you into her world. She is so descriptive about the smells of urine and sour milk, that you have to smell the stink. Her world is one of dread and pain. Her world is desperate and has little hope for change. This story made me realize that no matter how hard it seems it is not as hard as her life was. I am still blessed and my children are fortunate to have a home with clean linen. They are blessed to have hot meals and clean clothing. We must focus on irradiating poverty, this should be one of the many issues before the state legislators. Our government needs to address this peculiar institution, the institution of poverty. If we will ensure success in our country and improvement in our economy we must address the poverty.

My friends as I think about our role in society, in our neighborhoods, in our entertainment venues, in our places of work and lastly in our places of fellowship; why are their families still homeless? Why are single mothers still having to decide to work or take care of their children. We have saw several cases where young mothers must leave their children home alone to go to work. If they do not work, they do not eat. Why? I desire to stir up your spirit and possibly push you off of yuor comfortable chairs and into a place I call “do something”. What should do? I am so glad you asked. There hundreds of agencies that need volunteers. I am certain that some of neighbors could use extra pampers or maybe milk. Food. Clothing. I do encourage donations but often the red tape between the agency and the family is far to lengthy.  Just give a little something..just a lit..I promise you will feel better the moment you do..

Can I share with you that myself and my children were in a shelter for about three to five months. It was embarassing, shameful, and really difficult. My now ex husband had become abusive and he had choked me in front of my children. I will be somewhat opague about the happenings that drove my family and myself to a shelter. I believe that we as people often pre-judge a person by what we see. So now understand when people found out that we lived in a shelter; they of course thought maybe I was on drugs, or alcohol. Maybe I wouldn’t pay my bills or I was just a lazy mother that sat around and waited on the government to take care of me. Maybe I had decided to get pregnant to keep getting more money from the government. None of that was true. My job at a fortune 500 company had ended and my children and myself were living off my unemployment. Their dad would not pay the support that had been ordered. I must share with you that it is dreadly challenging to go from $1400 dollars every two weeks to $1000. Please keep in mind that when we were married we accumulated quite a bit of debit that was left for me to deal with. I think should also include the fact that I am the proud but single mother of five amazing teenagers, age 18.5 to 12.5.

The shelter was crowded. There were two families to each room. I did make friends and created some lifelong friendships but the fact remains that when we listed the shelter as our address we were looked at differently. Landlords would not rent to us easily. Agencies gave us the damaged donations and were quite hurtful in counseling sessions. This was one of the most painful experiences that we (my family) has had to walk thru. I only share this in hopes that the next time you see a mother and her child(ren) you will allow the Spirit of God to usher in a sense of compassion and not judgement.

Lastly wanted to share this cartoon, though not completely about women and children. I believe it is a clear reflection of America …

Talk2Me>>>Tell me how this story possibly changed your opinion of homelessness? If not tell me why you believe it didn’t?

Please leave comments…

Conversations wit Coyfee presents A Man in the Mirror-The B-Fade Story

A Man in the Mirror-The B-Fade Story

Hello family!

This is Coyfee from ConversationswithCoyfee. I wanted to take a bit of your time and introduce you to another amazing lyricist. Who? Yeah, I got you curious now.. Andre Woods aka B-Fade born September 21, 1976… His story of pain and struggle as he made the decision to embrace Christ will awaken a new compassion for the new convert. His life has been seen by some as failure but I will expose the constant attacks of the enemy on his life, his ministry, and of course Matrimony.

Before we jump right into this interview and his story, I encourage you to take some time and remember who you were before Christ. For many of us who we are right now was not who we were while seeking Christ. How many times have we fallen (in secret of course) to bitterness, unforgiveness, drugs, alcohol, pornography, fornication, adultery or even pride. Please if this is where you are ..stop now and confess these things before our Lord Jesus Christ..Are you done? Great now there is absolutely nothing between you and the Lord Jesus Christ.

For those of that have never accepted Jesus..well I would never leave you out..ponder about making this life changing commitment to Jesus as I share this man’s struggle to walk in the paths of righteousness ..

Now to the interview::::

ConversationswitCoyfee: Hello B-Fade. We are very excited to have you as one of our featured artist. Can you tell us how did you come up with the name B-Fade?

B-Fade: COZ (my best friend) and I used to rap together before we got saved and I was known as Fade back then before conversion. After my conversion I became known as Brother Fade. COZ was known as KOZY-K before conversion and just changed the name. GOD’s Child was already working as a Gospel rapper. We were all members of the same church. So we started the group called the ‘Soldiers of Righteousness’. Shortly after this the group seperated and a group was formed with COZ and myself called ‘Christian Brothas.’ I was promoting an event called Soul Saver 2004 on the World Hit Gospel Show (106.1 KMEL), the number 1 radio station in the Bay Area..The DJ, Tinka was really the one that branded me with name B-Fade. I had a passion to be transformed into what God called me to be. B-Fade chosen this meaning to express his goal for his life and ministry-Be Faithful And Dedicated Eternally

ConversationswitCoyfee: Wow! That’s a very powerful name. I would think that the enemy has tried the persona that the name represents.

B-Fade: Yes, indeed. More than you know

ConversationswitCoyfee: Tell the readers about some of the challenges you have had to walk thru before your conversion?

B-Fade: Man, where do I begin? I guess at the beginning, I was raised in a family where alcohol, violence, and partying were normal. I really had not seen any other type of life. As a child at parties, I would drink the drinks that were left on tables by the adults. I didn’t know that then but that would open doors to a constant struggle with Alcoholism. I grew up in that life doing just what everyone else did, you know. Rapping, drugs (selling and using), fighting, women and just wilding out. Just doing whatever with no thought of tomorrow.

October 1994 I found myself in prison. I got in a fight and I beat the guy so bad. I still didn’t understand all that was in me, the anger. During that fight, I broke almost every bone in his body. While I was waiting in jail to go to court for this issue, other crimes came up and after a lengthly jury trial I was sentenced two years. After prison, you would have thought I would change but no; not yet.

ConversationswithCoyfee: Tell me what really made you change?

B-Fade: I had started using cocaine and alcohol together. This was definitely not a good choice. Even though the cocaine was a recreational drug. My drug of choice was alcohol. During this time I noticed that I was more anxious than usual. However, I kept drinking. Soon I noticed that the anxiousness turned into full blown panic attacks. This was a bit hard to handle for me. I began thinking about stopping but every time I tried to stop..the attacks would worsen. I felt trapped. If I keep drinking then the next day I would have a hangover and a panic attack would start. If I tried to quit ..the panic attack would start..

ConversationswitCoyfee: That must have been a really hard place to be in. What happened next?

B-Fade: I knew Elder Derrick Mann from before, back in the day. EIder Mann was holding a Bible Study in this ladies house near where I used to sell drugs. So I went to Bible Study and the topic was ‘Not being promised to wake up the next day. Everybody was leaving and it seemed like I was all alone. Suddenly a panic attack began and I started to run back to the house where the Bible Study had been held. I started beating on the door but no one answered. I thought I was having a heart attack ..I was sure I was dying. I begin “praying Lord please, just let me live ..I promise to change..I promise to change my life and live for you.” So I started running toward uncoming traffic. I was trying to stop anybody that could help me. One of my homeboys’ girlfriend stopped and dropped me at the hospital. However, the doctors did not find anything physically wrong with me. I contacted Elder Mann he took me to his church called Church Of Jesus Our Lord. This Church was what they called a word church. The teaching was straight out of the word. The pastor’s name is Elder Phillip Tindsley. I was learning a lot about the new life that had been made available in Christ Jesus. The teaching was raw and uncut; easy to understand.

I was still rapping with folks in the secular industry even though I had accepted Christ Jesus. Elder Mann who was into Gospel Rap, taught us how to use our talent for the Kingdom of God. He eventually became a producer in the Gospel Rap genre. He was so persistent and he really labored with us. He never gave up on us. Elder Mann taught us what being saved was all about. He helped us learn how we could have Rap and Jesus. During all of this I was invited and I did perform with the Ying Yeng Twins in a club. I was still learning about my new relationship with God.. I was still having difficulty changing my lifestyle and didn’t want anyone to know. So I hid it… I pretended that I was straight..I wasn’t comfortable with sharing my weaknesses with anyone.

Our church was full of so much love that one time when I didn’t have any food. A guy at my church offered to get me some food. I thought he would bring like bread and peanut butter or something like that. But he decked our kitchen out. He brought steaks, and everything. I mean my kitchen was butt naked before he blessed me. The guy filled the house up with food. Accolades go out to Elder Marcus Brown for being the hands of God.

ConversationswitCoyfee: I remember you mentioned that your family wasn’t saved when you were young. How did your conversion affect your relationship with your family?

B-Fade: When I was a new convert and I had just started attending church. I lived with my dad. My dad was still drinking and told me if I didn’t drink I had to go. He did kick me out because I wouldn’t drink with him anymore. Now I was thinking this Christian thing must not be that good, cause I am homeless and this I didn’t do anything wrong. But God came thru as I would soon he always does. A couples days later, I got a job with Home Depot. A church member rented the studio in the back of her house for $400.00. I started to begin to believe that God really did hear me. But one thing was missing; a wife and family. I was often lonely and sought to find the woman that had been set aside for me. I battled with lonliness and worked hard to keep my thoughts clean. However, I would fine myself involved in sexual immorality.

Please read parts 2 & 3 for the continuation of this controversial interview.

Conversations wit Coyfee presents A Man in the Mirror-The B-Fade Story-Part 2

Greetings Family

We have been spending time with Andre Woods AKA B-Fade. He is an extraodinary person as well as a minister of the Gospel. He has been sharing with us how his life was before Christ and even of the very personal struggles he faced after he accepted Christ as his Lord. When we left off he was sharing his feelings with us about times of lonliness and the struggle to abstain from sexual immorality. B-Fade was honest to expose his life as a new convert with all of the challenges he faced with money, shelter and also in relationships.

A Man in the Mirror-The B-Fade Story-Part 2

Let’s pick up where we left off with B-Fade telling us about how his first marriage began.

ConversationswitCoyfee: So B, I know you eventually got married. Tell us about how that all came about?

B-fade: The saint, who had rented me the studio, had two daughters. One of the young ladies, would bring me food. She knew I didn’t have a stove and I was impressed with her kindness. At this time, I was still searching for the woman who had my rib. Well, she was extremely kind and I again was lonely. I longed for a women to minister to me, in and out of bed. The thoughts would open the door to a relationship of fornication.

Late one night she came over and the events of that evening changed the nature of our relationship. Now in the meantime, I was still attending services, still seeking God for direction, but sneaking around with her. We had become comfortable with our relationship and would be out in the public often. So we would come up with these elaborate tales to cover the tracks which would often lead to spouts of fornication. However, after the dust would settle she would rush to tell the Elder what we had done. I however, was still sticking to tale we created. If she wasn’t in place they would assume she was with me. She seemed to want to get closer to God but after a few of her confessions, the Elder thought that I was the deterent. That I just didn’t care about the right way to do things. I really didn’t want to disobey them or the Bible but it was so hard not do it. Almost impossible to just abstain. I mean I got most of the blame but even when I would try not to be with her; she would want to. Then afterward she would go back to the Elder and confess for both of us. Then the Elder would come straight to me, telling me to leave her alone. He thought the counsel was working but it would happen again. There would be more than a few occurrences.

The minister would come back and each time the counsel would be more stern. The ministerial staff advise that her and I should stop seeing each other. They said that we both need to get closer to God so that we could build a foundation. We couldn’t seem to stop sinning long enough to hear what they were saying. We decided to refused the church’s counsel and continue to fornicate. As time passed the sermons from the pulpit would address the issues of sex outside of marriage. This became so intense that we both decided to get married and just be done with it.

My pastor refused to marry us and so we were married by my aunt behind the church’s back. We decided to just get married so people would leave us alone. I clearly knew that I didn’t love her and I believe she wasn’t in love with me either. There were problems in our marriage almost immediately. She and I both were being attacked by a spirit of lust which would open the door for adulterous activities later in the marriage. These activities created a violate home environment which eventually pushed me back to alcohol usage. We would struggle to stay together for about two years and the marriage would finally end in divorce.

ConversationswithCoyfee: After you two finally got married, how did adultery come in?

B-fade: There was a tragedy in her family and she was away helping make arraingements. During the time she was away she was spending time with another man. She later confessed that they had kissed and told me that her and him were over. However, she continued to see him for sometime. One of the youth from our church saw her with the young man and that’s how I knew that she was still seeing him. When I would come home, things had changed; she seemed depressed. She would say things like: she didn’t want to be with me anymore and just be out right mean. She would say stuff like that I was ugly and unattractive. Her rejection wounded me and made me more susceptible to the direction that enemy was pushing me towards (adultry).

I was in a group called Christian Brothas and we were invited to do a gospel play. While rehearsing for gospel play, I had met a really pretty lady. She was just being really nice to me and my wife was the absolute opposite. This girl and I were just friends but people were accusing us of sexual immorality. Which opened a dialogue concerning the gossip. We would meet up just to talk about the gossip and what people were saying about us. The next thing we knew we doing exactly what we had been accused of. I didn’t know it then but she lived right up the street from us(my wife and I). By now my wife had stop coming home and if she came it was clear she that she didn’t want to be there.

With the stress of all of this, I was really having a difficult time with the alcohol usage. My wife and I had been arguing when the police saw us. She was talking me back to the place that my car was left at. See a guy was killed directly in front of my car and so my car was a part of the crime scene. The cops arrested me because we were fighting in the car. Plus I was drinking ..so people thought I was responsible for the guy’s murder.

ConversationswitCoyfee: Wow, a lot happened during that time. What do you believe caused you to loose focus?

B-fade: Me. My focus was on me and what I wanted. Not that what I wanted was all wrong but the manner in which I was getting it was. The relationships were not in accordance with the word. When the fire was turned up all sorts of things begin to rise up such as the continual battle with a disease called Alcoholism.

Do you battle with Alcoholism or maybe another drug addiction? Woud you like prayer? Email me and leave your contact information. We will contact you for prayer.
tamee37@yahoo.com

Conversations wit Coyfee presents A Man in the Mirror-The B-Fade Story-Part 3

A Man in the Mirror-The B-Fade Story

Salutations Family!

We have been conducting a very controversial but necessary interview with Andre Woods AKA B-Fade. He has chosen to take the brave step and share times in his life that were some of his deepest darkest moments. He shares with us that even after accepting Jesus as his Lord; the struggle with alcoholism was a continual thorn in his side.

Please stay with us as we share the final portion of this heart wrenching interview with B-Fade.

This is the final part of the B-Fade story. Let’s go right into the Interview.

ConversationswitCoyfee: What do you feel like the repercussions of having lost focus were?

B-Fade: Well, the repercussions were not immediately visible. Shortly after the divorce, I had my own place and I was doing really well. However, the sinful lifestyle that had been gently sneaking up on me had finally over-taken me. I found myself doing things like partying, drinking, and just hanging out with old friends. Now looking back on it the marriage had taken a toll on me. It had weaken me and I was not even aware of it. The stress of being in a loveless marriage was really hard and before I knew it I had lost everything. My car, my place, my job, and even my cell phone. I knew I had hit rock bottom because I had lost the most important of my possessions; my self respect but hadn’t realized it then. I had planned a ministry trip and was thinking about not going. How could I minister in the shape I was in?

ConversationswitCoyfee: What happened next?

B-Fade: Well, I had planned a trip to LA before everything else had happened. So I decided to go ahead and make the trip. When I got there Nate Dog was there while we ministering. I was told he later gave his life to God. That encouraged me greatly. I felt like even though I was in such a mess on the outside; God could still used me in a marvelous way.

I knew I had to get it together and so I did. Every time God would bless me ..the enemy would do something to knock me back. I however, held on to God this time. I was going to allow the word and the spirit of God to change me. It would be harder than I had ever imagined. It isn’t easy stopping things that you have done most of your life and many times these are not things that you stop overnight. The spirit of God has to deliver you and that is what I was seeking God for; deliverance..freedom.

ConversationwitCoyfee: B-Fade you mentioned that you are married now. How did you meet your current wife?

B-Fade: That’s sort of a funny story. She was seeking a church that had Gospel rap. So she went on the internet and starting hitting up Gospel rappers’ pages on Myspace. So I had been divorced for sometime now and was doing pretty good. They were allowing me to minister at my church and I was more aware of my weakness as a man of God. So when I saw her message, I responded. I told her some stuff about the ministry and then gave her directions and she came. I was stationed at the door so I saw her when she walked in. I was like wow, she is beautiful. I remembered how I had gotten in trouble before so I gave her over to the ministers to encourage her. However we started talking and stuff. We began grow closer and I went over a couple of times. We remained faithful to our teaching, however, we both realized that we were developing feelings for each other.

It was little difficult for me cause I was living out of the area and would have drive home late at night. It was about a hour drive. She was helping me study for a test so that I could get a better job. This night she was like you don’t have to drive home tonight. You can stay over tonight. I already knew I loved her and wanted to express my love for her. So I sat downstairs hoping she would come back downstairs. She did, we celebrated our love for one another. please do not mis-understand, we new that coming together without first being married was wrong. However we loved each other. To me she was already my wife. It was not a one night stand or anything. This was and still is the real thing.

We decided to go to the ministerial staff so they could counsel us cause we wanted to get married but we didn’t tell them we had already been intimate. We wanted to know how to date the christian way. So I schooled Priscilla (my wife) on what and how to say. The next time we were intimate she was over come with guilt and she went to the ministerial staff. After she confessed it, the pastor told me that I had to stop rapping. He said that he was disappointed in me. He had not forgotten the manner of my last relationship though years had pasted. So he advised us to leave each other alone and he sat me down. I was headed down the same road as before or so it seemed. We had made the required changed and but continued to date without the sinning. Things looked hopeful and I knew I loved this woman.

One Friday night after service my ex-wife showed up and the two ladies exchanged words which led to a heated confrontation in the back of the church. Priscilla and I decided to leave because it just seemed like I was causing to much trouble in that church. Maybe about two weeks after we left we seriously began to discuss marriage. I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her and wasn’t ashamed of it. We just decided to get married at the court house and find a new place to worship that didn’t know either of us. We did get married and started looking for a place to worship.

ConversationswitCoyfee: How are things going so far?

B-Fade: We are expecting a baby anytime now and our relationship is transitioning. We went thru some marital struggles that begin to tear the fabric of our marriage apart. When the pressure of the institution of marriage began we started a aggressive search for a ministry. My wife wanted to belong to a family; a place to worship. I was looking for a ministry that reminded me of the old church. So we continued to search but I began to fall backwards. Things were really difficult and I began drinking again. I honestly believe it is because of the pressure, the absence of the support of a church family and we were experiencing financial delay. She was angry with me because I had gotten a DUI. I was upset with her and sat in the car. I fell asleep after drinking. Someone called the police because I was asleep in a parking lot and they gave me a DUI. Mind you I was not drinking while driving but just sleeping after drinking. They gave me a DUI anyway.

So she went back to our old church and feeling scare of what was going on with me. She confided in them and told everything that was going on with me. She requested counseling for us and she had attended a couple of services.
Before I knew we were there worshiping as a married couple. But we were still getting dirty looks and stuff. Then they began to prophesy things from the pulpit and this made it uncomfortable for her. After that my ex-wife would show up and my wife just decided to just leave permanently.

It became so difficult for us to hold it together that we thought it was best to separate for a season. I didn’t have any where to go so I moved in with a close friend and his family. His name is QHeem. I began to visit QHeem’s church. I had set up ground rules for how my wife and I should handle things after we reconciled but then we had to move into a shelter. We had to vacate our apartment. We were only at the shelter for one night. I continued to attend QHeem’s church and continued to pray for strength and direction. Later that week we moved into a huge house with seven bedrooms where each one was rented to a different tenant. My wife and I got the master bedroom.

I contemplated giving up on my family but did not. Please pray for us as I receive treatment for the disease that has plagued me on and off for most of my adult life, Alcoholism.

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>This just in: Priscilla and Andre AKA B-Fade are embracing life as a married couple and giving all of us the imagine of Christ and His Bride ….Which is filled with Forgiveness …Celebrate B’s restoration and his redemption<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

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ConversationswitCoyfee discusses The Differences in Repentance and Confession of Sin

The Difference in Repentance and Confession

Hello Family

What is the difference between Repentance and Confession of Sin?

I awoke with a very clear understanding on the topic of confession and repentance. Many Christian scholars stated that Confession comes before repentance. They will tell you that God is faithful enough to forgive you if you confess your sins.

Well what happens if you commit the same sin again? A friend and I were talking about this issue. She stated that if you continue to live in sin you are not sold out to God. I really didn’t argue that point but I stated that David, one of my favorite patriarchs, sinned often, yet “God stated that David was a man after his own heart. Samuel 13:13-15.”

I wondered about a lot of things, for example; the scripture that states if we confess ours sins he removes them and remembers them no more…Isaiah 43:25 I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions for mine own sake, and will not remember thy sins. Well, if he remembers the sinful behavior no more, how does God know that we have committed the same sinful behavior before? That one is still stewing. We as a people of God spend far too much time focusing on our failures. We are so sin conscious that we can not see the power of God in everyday life.

As I napped this afternoon, I know that the spirit of God was helping me to understand what Confession is. “Confession is the admittance of sin; Encarta Dictionary: English (North American): an admission of having done something wrong or embarrassing; verbal statement admitting the commission of a crime.”

Ponder examples of everyday life..We should allow people to come to God just as they are..This is as it should be. Remember, that Jesus calls us while we are deep in sin. He does not demand that we give up anything to come to him but he knows that once we become immersed in his goodness, we will desire to change. He will not disqualify us because we look and smell like the world. He will draw us closer to him for He longs for us to long for Him.

We the (Saved Al readies) begin to judge them. They are not changing fast enough. They still smell like the stench of this world. They are still living in sinful relationships, they are still drinking the devil’s drink, they are still smoking the herbs of the earth. How can they think that God can love them. They do not look like nor sound like what we do, Saved Al readies. Confession is to admit that you are wrong. Confession does not require you to stop doing that which is wrong. The scripture states that if you are faithful enough to confess your sin then God is faithful and just to forgive you..” period. We should not add anything else to this point.

Now Repentance, to feel regret about a sin or past actions and change your ways or habits. This is paramount. We must be spiritually wise enough to be able to sense who Jesus is talking to when he is dictating the Holy Scriptures. Confession, is the admission of sin. Confession is to acknowledge bad behavior or a negative act. Repentance, I believe is being sorrowful and desiring a change. To repent takes the Goodness of God. How will someone know that God is good? Well by the love that is shown to them in Christ Jesus. The love of the Saints seen as gentle patience. This weak one gains strength to stand against what used to weigh him or her down. Scripture tells us in Romans, it is the Goodness of God (Romans 2:4-11) that brings a man to repentance. Understand, not the brow beating of other saints that are disgusted with the look of delayed progression.

It is for the Spirit of God to begin to gently tear that behavior away from them. Now, keep in mind that the Holy Spirit knows the heart of man. He knows those that sincerely desire to walk with God though they have a limp. There were those who desired to follow God with everything that they have, because they love him. They walked slower than the rest because they have been injured in their fight for freedom. Yet, they were still walking, or crawling, and in some cases were being carried. They were determined to follow him.

Many of them looked like the world. There were not dressed for the part but still they came. They cried out to Jesus to change them everyday and every night. They read their bibles daily. They didn’t eat at all to slay their flesh. All this they did and still some fell back. Did we reach out to them? Did we do all that we could to attempt to save some? The answer is NO! We have become religious and callous. We have become the people we use to hate. When we first came to Christ, many of us were beat down by rules and regulations. Some of us were kicked out of churches because we did not dress right. Some of us were kicked out because of where we lived or we lived with. Is it not amazing that we have become what we had hated? How does God protect those, his little children? They are His prodigal children. He blinds many of them to the ways of the church. This will keep them coming so that the anointing can begin to do what we thought we could do thru talking. I have a News Flash for you! The only way to set a person free is thru the anointing of the Spirit of God.

You can talk until you are blue in the face but if you are not anointed you should shut up. God will begin to mend the tears generated by the world, the church, and the enemy piece by piece. He (Holy Spirit) begins to place himself where there used to be other things. He begins to reveal more and more of himself to them. The more of him they see the more of him they want. Are they perfect yet? NO, but neither are we. We the Saints or the Saved Al readies, sin daily either by thought or deed.

Why then does not every person, confess their sins and repent of their sinful behavior? I believe a lot of that is because of us, the Saved Al readies. We can be really mean and short cited. We will throw the baby and the bath water out together.
Now, I am not stating that we should not teach from the Bible, whole the truth. However, we should not teach our opinion, nor our interpretation, but just the word of God. His word has healed many a broken spirits. He, who is the potter, knows how to gently press out the blemishes that have marred our precious souls. He softly places us on the pottery board to adjust our damaged inner parts. He can repair us all. No matter what activity or life style we chose before we knew him. He can and will repair us.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Bitterness to Brokeness

 

Bitterness to Brokeness

 

Many people walk around with their hearts shattered…they attempt to act normal or rather what they “think” normal is.  How do I know? I used to be one of these people. 

Allow me to share a little bit of my life with you… It all began when I was working at a retirement community. I was really focused on my life and getting to know God better. One of my co-workers introduces me to this guy; I wasn’t particularly impressed with him because he apparently was the hottest thing at the job. All the younger women seemed to be flaunting themselves around him. Later, he shared with me that he was a minister; I thought to myself, “That’s great!”

Months went by and he eventually asked me out. I was very uncertain about going out with him because I had not been in a dating relationship in a long time. Plus I had never tried dating the “Christian way.”  So I finally accepted his offer and as faith would have it, we hit it off. It wasn’t long before we became serious and began discussing marriage. Could this be it? Could he be the man chosen by God to love me? Though I was scared I decided to give it my all. We dated for about a year and were married.

Shortly after getting married we began having problems. I had become concerned about his relationships with other women. He was a musician and the worship leader in his father’s church. I noticed he had become distant and didn’t seem to be comfortable around me. I had never been one who was jealous but just knew something was different. I began to pray for revelation. God answered my prayers quickly the following morning when this feeling came over me. I just somehow knew he had broken our marriage vows. I confronted him and he tearfully confessed to having had sex with another woman. I became overwhelmed and angry. Out of my anger, I began throwing all kinds of things.

I contacted the woman he was sleeping with, yelling and screaming obscenities into the phone. I didn’t seem to be able to control myself. I never stopped for a minute to ask God for the healing of His anointing. I just wanted to hate him and her. It was my job to make him pay for lying to me and for disrespecting me. I felt I was justified in not forgiving him (NOT TRUE). I felt like I deserved to hate him and I wore the pain as a badge of honor (NOT TRUE). I was so immersed in my own self-pity that I didn’t realize that the pain had become a covering of shame. Now, I had begun to blame him for everything…my unhappiness, my lack of joy, my failure in life, and lack of zeal for ministry. I thought my ex-husband was to blame for all of this, not the enemy, Satan. I felt as though he had single handily created a world of darkness where I had become the prisoner (NOT TRUE). The entire incident was rooted in darkness and it was Satan who was the culprit, I was his victim and my ex-husband was his tool.

Over time, my ex-husband would often plead with me to forgive him. I would often tell him, and counselors, that I had forgiven him. However, honestly I had never gotten over the pain that the lies and the infidelity had caused. As our children grew so did the vine of bitterness which I had allowed to be planted in my heart.

We would never actually heal that marriage and later divorced, as he continued to be unfaithful time and time again. Each offense would create a new shot from the seed of bitterness. I would go to the Altar for prayer, time and time again. My heart was still flooded with the poison of bitterness and it had begun to alter my perception of life and love.

Please don’t misunderstand; he was completely wrong for the behavior he displayed during our marriage. However, when someone lies to you, cheats on you, or just plain disappoints you, right then you must decide to forgive them. Don’t give it a second thought. Forgiving them allows the healing anointing of God to mend your broken heart. That is the only thing that can save you. The precious anointing of the Holy Spirit healed my broken heart and restored joy to my then miserable life.

Ephesians 4:30-32 – “And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”

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Conversations wit Coyfee-Indentifying The Spirit Of Rejection

Indentifying The Spirit Of Rejection

Salutations to all!!
Today I would like to discuss how to Indentify the Spirit of Rejection.

The Spirit of Rejection moves thru unsuspecting lives like a viper. It bites and then releases its venom into the souls of many today. Most souls which have been infected never actually realize what is wrong with them nor why they act the that they do. The infected person is contagious in the manner that they will begin to infect others with the devastating venom of the Spirit of Rejection. They will become bitter insulting their children and those close to them.

This study is rather important to me. As a child and even as an adult I have struggled with the results of rejection. I was never good enough nor did I ever achieve a high enough standard for my mother. My father already married to another woman, died when I was three years old. I do not share this to create any embarrassment for my mother but to show that they are not alone. Once recognized, the symptoms of the Spirit of Rejection can be done away with forever.

Ever have the feeling of never quite being good enough? Never believed that you were in fact loved. Do you have trouble trusting anyone? Do you believing that everyone hates you or is out to get over on you? Do you have many failed relationships; where those that you loved left you? Does any of this sound familiar? If so keep reading help is available to you.

Many that have been infected seem to never be able to master the art of love; as a result relationship after relationship is spoiled by their own hand. The infected person hurts those that dare show genuine love to them and push away would be friends. When asked why one is alone; the reply will most often be, that no one loves me. I am comfortable being alone. This is a lie that they have come to accept because people have abandoned them so many times. They most likely will expect everyone to leave. They fear being not accepted or loved, so they begin to make it almost impossible for someone to get close to them.

Because the Spirit of Rejection lies to the infected person; causing them to believe that no one actually loves them.; they believe in their heart that all those that left them were the ones that were wrong. They can not see nor can they be convinced that the problem is in them. It is almost impossible to show them that their thinking has been altered to created this pattern of abandonment. They begin to wear the wounds of loneliness as badges of honor. Proudly displaying their loneliness as a choice. Secretly the person is consumed with loneliness and deeply desires to have an intimate relationship with another person.

Let’s take a close look at what it means to be rejected based on Webster’s definition. The definition of being rejected, listed in Webster’s Online dictionary is: Refuse to accept or acknowledge; Refuse to approve; Reject with contempt;Refuse entrance or membership; Dismiss from consideration

Now that we know that rejection is basically not being accepted or embraced. The spirit realm is the reflection of what is happening in everyday life. Certain behaviors and lifestyle choices are a direct result of what is happening in the spirit realm. Even though we may not always see what is happening in the spirit realm but we do see the symptoms or results. As previously listed above, proof of the presence of the Spirit of Rejection will be evidenced by the behavior of one that is infected.

The Spirit of Rejection is and has affected many in the house of God. As you can see from this exert from Touched by Grace Website. The below article is written by Ron Wood of Touched by Grace. I greatly enjoyed reading some exerts from it and thought you might as well..

Alienation, isolation, and rejection are paralyzing the church. Loneliness is like a plague on the land. The ties that knit our lives together seem to have unraveled. Covenant love has grown cold and casual contacts can’t replace them. The tapestry of society is like a mass of individual threads, no longer woven together. Broken homes from divorces provide a vivid picture of our inability to stay in meaningful relationships. (In Cuba, where I have ministered, the divorce rate is 78%.) Ask any modern school teacher how many children in their classroom still have the same original parents. The answer is always, “Hardly any.” The feeling of abandonment hurts. These kids usually suffer from rejection.

Rejection affects adults as well. Many people have come to full age still carrying the scars of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. These men and women look normal but inside they are filled with terrible insecurity, anger, or fear. Others are sitting on a ticking emotional time-bomb of resentment and rebellion, just waiting to boil over into rage. These scars, if left unhealed, will render a person incapable of entering into committed, wholesome, long-term relationships.

One particular problem is very common. It undermines the confidence of many Christians and interferes with true fellowship between friends. It is a lying spirit from our enemy called a spirit of rejection. Rejection is the worst pain the human spirit can suffer. Anyone who has been abandoned, suffered abuse, or endured discrimination can relate to this kind of anguish. Let’s examine this assault from Satan so we can recognize this form of mental oppression.

First, the spirit of rejection refers to the mind-set ingrained into us which tells us that we are unloved, unwanted, or will never be good enough. This may start in childhood. This mind-set makes us strive to earn our acceptance. It makes people feel driven to perform in order to be approved. This mind-set makes people feel they are loved for what they do rather than for who they are. It is demeaning. It robs people of peace. The sad thing is that no amount of achievement is ever enough to satisfy it.

In other people, the injustice of being treated unfairly or rejected or disrespected makes them boil over in anger. They quit trying to fit in, rebel against everyone, and try to break out of the box being forced on them. In refusing to be a victim, they may victimize others. Resentment covers their soul like a dark shroud. They wind up in an emotional prison of their own making.

The mind-set of rejection is the result of having believed a lie. It is a syndrome of self-talk that comes from being programmed with falsehoods. Having been told a lie often enough, victims begin to say, “Yes, it’s true.” The lie becomes accepted when the victim agrees with the accusations. They become their own accuser. They have internalized the venom. The deceit becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The victim begins to expect to be rejected and thus sabotages their own relationships.
This mental stronghold of rejection is powerful. It will be torn down only when we find God’s Word about our case and choose to believe the truth instead of a lie. Only God’s truth can set us free. The truth will connect us to God’s love. God’s love will cure our wounded souls.

The Spirit of Rejection creates a feeble and broken person. That person unknowingly will bite anyone that attempts to love them. This lying spirit has destroyed marriages, church congregations, friendships and even work relationships. The Spirit of Rejection leaves one powerless against the enemy, hence making the Body Of Christ a dead and powerless organism.

It was evident that a people that had the opportunity to be infused with dunamus power, the power of the Holy Spirit, were a force to be reckon with. A powerful force that moved thru the tapestry of time destroying the kingdom of darkness. Setting free those that had been enslaved thru the lies of the enemy. A glimpse of the past, shows the definite difference in the Body of Christ yesterday and the Body of Christ today.

Tune In later for “Origin of the Spirit Of Rejection”

 

 

ConversationswitCoyfee-Origin Of The Spirit Of Rejection

The Origin Of The Spirit Of Rejection

Greetings

Let’s take a look at the first account with the spirit of rejection. The first family having been banished from the Garden of Eden was a prime target. Humor me just a moment as I set the stage for Adam and Eve’s creation.

For those that are not familiar with this wonderful account of the first marriage, allow me to share a bit of the story directly from scripture. We will briefly review Genesis 1;26-2:25. This is the biblical account of the first marriage. Now I would encourage you to read the entire account, even if you are familiar with this portion of the scripture.

As you can see below in Adam has spent quite a bit of time alone with the Father. Fellowshiping with God and watching the animals play. I am sure he wondered why there wasn’t another like him in the garden. Of course God being all knowing, knew the heart of man. Notice in scripture, Genesis 2:8 (when He states that “..it is not good for man to be alone).
Genesis 1
26: And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.
27: So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
28: And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
29: And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat.
30: And to every beast of the earth, and to every fowl of the air, and to every thing that creepeth upon the earth, wherein there is life, I have given every green herb for meat: and it was so.
31: And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. And the evening and the morning were the sixth day.

Genesis 2
1: Thus the heavens and the earth were finished, and all the host of them.
2: And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made; and he rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had made.
3: And God blessed the seventh day, and sanctified it: because that in it he had rested from all his work which God created and made.
4: These are the generations of the heavens and of the earth when they were created, in the day that the LORD God made the earth and the heavens,
5: And every plant of the field before it was in the earth, and every herb of the field before it grew: for the LORD God had not caused it to rain upon the earth, and there was not a man to till the ground.
6: But there went up a mist from the earth, and watered the whole face of the ground.
7: And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.
8: And the LORD God planted a garden eastward in Eden; and there he put the man whom he had formed.

9: And out of the ground made the LORD God to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight, and good for food; the tree of life also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of knowledge of good and evil.
10: And a river went out of Eden to water the garden; and from thence it was parted, and became into four heads.
11: The name of the first is Pison: that is it which compasseth the whole land of Havilah, where there is gold;
12: And the gold of that land is good: there is bdellium and the onyx stone.
13: And the name of the second river is Gihon: the same is it that compasseth the whole land of Ethiopia.
14: And the name of the third river is Hiddekel: that is it which goeth toward the east of Assyria. And the fourth river is Euphrates.
15: And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.
16: And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:
17: But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.
18: And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
19: And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
20: And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21: And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22: And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23: And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24: Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
25: And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Now note, all seems good in the Garden of Eden. Adam is excited with his new woman. She is exactly like him only new and improved. The animals are playing..there is peace in the garden. Life is wonderful..Can you imagine it..think for a moment. There is no sin, no voilence…the air is crisp and warm. The animals all get along. Then the unexpected took place. Read below how the enemy known as Satan came in and decieved the woman, Eve. This account begins in Genesis 3:1:

1: Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made.
And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?
2: And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden:
3: But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.
4: And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:
5: For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.
6: And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.
7: And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons.
8: And they heard the voice of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day: and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God amongst the trees of the garden.
9: And the LORD God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou?
10: And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.
11: And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat?
12: And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.
13: And the LORD God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.
14: And the LORD God said unto the serpent, Because thou hast done this, thou art cursed above all cattle, and above every beast of the field; upon thy belly shalt thou go, and dust shalt thou eat all the days of thy life:
15: And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.
16: Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
17: And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;
18: Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field;
19: In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.
20: And Adam called his wife’s name Eve; because she was the mother of all living.
21: Unto Adam also and to his wife did the LORD God make coats of skins, and clothed them.
22: And the LORD God said, Behold, the man is become as one of us, to know good and evil: and now, lest he put forth his hand, and take also of the tree of life, and eat, and live for ever:
23: Therefore the LORD God sent him forth from the garden of Eden, to till the ground from whence he was taken.
24: So he drove out the man; and he placed at the east of the garden of Eden Cherubims, and a flaming sword which turned every way, to keep the way of the tree of life.

The account continues with the birth of Adam and Eve’s sons. Cain and Abel. Now those of us that are not familiar with this account here is a brief exert. The exert begins in Genesis 4.

1: And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the LORD.
2: And she again bare his brother Abel. And Abel was a keeper of sheep, but Cain was a tiller of the ground.
3: And in process of time it came to pass, that Cain brought of the fruit of the ground an offering unto the LORD.
4: And Abel, he also brought of the firstlings of his flock and of the fat thereof. And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering:
5: But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth, and his countenance fell.
6: And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen?
7: If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him.
8: And Cain talked with Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him.Cain’s offering had been rejected by the Lord. Now Cain was embarassed because he felt like he was singled out. He was being told he was not good enough. He had failed. He next became bitter and then angry.

He took it personal. Cain never heeded God’s instructions. However, God told him that if he did better he would be accepted. His offering was not accepted because he did not bring the accepted offering. He was biten by viper of rejection. He became bitter and moved in a rage. The scripture shows that he struck his brother. Cain killed his younger brother without remorse. Why? Afterwards he was more concerned about his own life. The enemy had convinced him that he was justified in this behavior. He alone with the enemy introduced murder into the a once peace world. 

Tune In next time for more on The Spirit of Rejection-Walking Out In Victory

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Talk2Me-Discussions about hot topics

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How should a christian be treated when he/she subccumbs(gives in) to sin and is discovered?

The situation which involved the Ambassador disturbed me greatly. I will not repeat what is rumored to have happened, I will however, share that I can only imagine the pain that his family is experiencing. Why was it necessary to embarass him or his family? What happened to the church that forgives and counsels one to until repentance is reached? What happened to the love that we as a church were instructed to display one for another?

Talk to me! Tell me your thoughts on the subject?

 

Responder:

The situation with The Ambassador disturbed me also. We really don’t know the full story and I dont think it matters. What bothered me was how his “brothers” publicly embarrassed him. If they were really his brothers, I feel they would have been there to hold him down in his time of great need. Where is the love. I could never do my family like that.

ConversationswitCoyfee:

Me either. I know that God deals with all of us secretly. But even when He(God) sent Nathan to David. After David had put Bathsheba’s husband on the front line. Nathan delt with him privately. David did a big one..but God was setting the example for how things should go. How we should treat those of the Household of Faith

Responder:

The church is “suppose” to be there like a spiritual hospital, To lift you up when you are feeling down or have done something wrong and you have repented for. The members of the church are “suppose” to embrace you and not embarrass you. Cause we all need each other to hold ourselves accountable to the word of GOD. That is just how I feel about that.

Responder:

We love to take scripture and twist it. And we wonder why people don’t want to be apart of the christian movement. Because we are some hypocritical. We teach that GOD is love and that we serve a God of love but where is the love in putting your brother on blast before the whole world.

ConversationswitCoyfee:

Yes, that is a good way to look at it. The scriptures do teach us that the Kingdom of God is to be a spiritual hospital. We are to be the nurses, orderlies, and doctors. Using the gifts of the spirit to encourage, build up, and instruct those that are in need of help. We are to cast out devils from them that are being oppressed of the devil and restore them that have been damaged by the world.

Responder:

There you go! I like how you but it even though I said the same thing. I agree with you 100%. We all need to be there for one another at our low point and high point. Like the scripture says.

 Conversations wit Coyfee said:

Yes, that is a good way to look at it. The scriptures do teach us that the Kingdom of God is to be a spiritual hospital. We are to be the nurses, orderlies, and doctors. Using the gifts of the spirit to encourage, build up, and instruct those that are in need of help. We are to cast out devils from them that are being oppressed of the devil and restore them that have been damaged by the world.

 

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