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ConversationswitCoyfee presents Finding Hope: A Homeless Community Under A Bridge

In Homeless Women, Living without Money, PROVIDENCE, R.I.'s Homeless community underneath a bridge, Uncategorized, women talk on July 31, 2009 at 2:32 pm

This story seems like the fate of many Americans. When both partners loose their jobs and they extend their savings a shelter maybe the next downward step.  I have wondered why the utilities are aloud to rise. Why is the cost of gas allowed to rise? Food to rise in cost? Tuition to rise? Basically everything has been allowed to rise in cost and price accept aid to families. The below community is organized and has a written code of conduct. Should the government recognize communities like this one? Should these communities get stimulus money to help its members get back on their feet? Talk2Me..tell me how you feel

Coyfee signing off….

  

Finding Shelter and Community Under a Bridge

Published: July 30, 2009

Timothy Webb, 49, left, and Bruce, 59, live in a tent city, dubbed Camp Runamuck in Providence under an overpass stretch of Route 195 that is scheduled for demolition. More Photos >

Nicole Bengiveno/The New York Times

Stephanie Proulx, 19, above, washing her hair near the camp’s bathroom. Residents of the tent city, who obey a written compact and vote on issues concerning them, share tasks and usually gather for supper at 6 p.m. More Photos »

The chief emerges from his tent to face the leaden morning light. It had been a rare, rough night in his homeless Brigadoon: a boozy brawl, the wielding of a knife taped to a stick. But the community handled it, he says with pride, his day’s first cigar already aglow.

By community he means 80 or so people living in tents on a spit of state land beside the dusky Providence River: Camp Runamuck, no certain address, downtown Providence.

Because the two men in the fight had violated the community’s written compact, they were escorted off the camp, away from the protection of an abandoned overpass. One was told we’ll discuss this in the morning; the other was voted off the island, his knife tossed into the river, his tent taken down.

The chief flicks his spent cigar into that same river. There is talk of rain tonight.

Behind him, the camp stirs. Other tent cities have sprung up recently around the country, but Rhode Island officials have never seen anything like this. A tea kettle sings.

A heavily pierced young person walks by without picking up an empty plastic bottle, flouting the camp compact that says everyone will share in the labor. The compact may be as impermanent as this sudden community by the river, but for now it is binding. The chief speaks, the bottle is picked up.

The chief, John Freitas, is 55, with a gray beard touched by tobacco rust. He did prison time decades ago, worked for years as a factory supervisor, then became homeless for all the familiar, complicated reasons.

Layoffs, health problems, a slip from apartment to motel room. His girlfriend, Barbara Kalil, 50, lost her job as a nursing-home nurse, and another slip, into the shelter system. A job holding store-liquidation signs beside the highway allowed for a climb back to a motel, but it didn’t last.

Weary of shelters, the couple pitched a pup tent in Roger Williams Park, close to a plaque bearing words Williams had used to describe this place he founded: “A Shelter for Persons in Distress.” But someone complained, so Mr. Freitas set off again in search of shelter. The March winds blew.

Down South Main Street he went, past the majestic court building and the upscale seafood restaurant, over a guardrail to a gravelly plot beneath a ramp that once guided cars toward Cape Cod. Foul-smelling and partially hidden, a place of birds and rodents, it was perfect.

He and Ms. Kalil set up camp with another couple in early April. Word of it spread from the shelters to Kennedy Plaza downtown, where homeless people share the same empty Tim Hortons cup to pose as customers worthy of visiting that doughnut chain’s restroom. The camp became 10 people, then 15, then 25. No children allowed.

“I was always considered the leader, the chief,” Mr. Freitas says. “I was the one consulted about ‘Where should I put my tent?’ ”

By late June the camp had about 50 people. But someone questioned the role of Mr. Freitas as chief, so he stepped down. Arguments broke out. Food was stolen.

“There was no center holding,” recalls Rachell Shaw, 22, who lives with her boyfriend in a tidy tent decorated with porcelain dolls. “So everybody voted him back in.”

The community also established a five-member leadership council and a compact that read in part: “No one person shall be greater than the will of the whole.”

It is now late afternoon in late July, a month after nearly everyone signed that compact. The community remains intact, though the very ground they walk on says nothing is forever. Here and there are the exposed foundations of fish shacks that lined the river long ago.

Some state officials recently stopped by to say, nicely but firmly, that everyone would soon have to leave. The overpass poses the threat of falling concrete, and is scheduled for demolition. The officials have shared the same message with a smaller encampment across the river.

For now, a game of horseshoes sends echoing clanks, as outreach workers conduct interviews and raindrops thrum the tent tops. The chief lights another cigar and walks the length of the camp to tell residents to batten down, explaining its structure as he goes.

Here at the end, nearest the road, are the tents of young single people and substance abusers; this way, rescue vehicles won’t disrupt the entire compound.

Here in the center are a cluster of couples, including two competing for the nicest property, with homey touches like planted flowers. Here too are the food table, the coolers, the piles of donated clothes — what can’t be used will be taken by camp residents to the Salvation Army — and the large tent of the chief. Plastic pink flamingos stand guard.

Farther on, the recycled-can area (the money is used for ice and propane); the area for garbage bags that will be discreetly dropped in nearby Dumpsters at night; and, behind a blue tarp hung from the overpass, a plastic toilet. The chief says the shared task of removing the bags of waste tends to test the compact.

Finally, near some rocks where men go to urinate, live a gay couple and some people who drink hard. Timothy Webb, 49, who says he used to own a salon in Cranston called Class Act, cuts people’s hair here. Then, at night, he and his partner, Norman Trank, 45, sit at a riverside table, a battery-operated candle giving light, the moving waters suggesting mystery.

“It’s what you make of it,” Mr. Trank says.

Dark clouds have brought night early to Providence. Heavy drops thump against tarp. Water drips from the overpass, onto the long table of food.

In the last couple of hours the chief has resolved a conflict about tarp distribution, hugged a pregnant woman who mistakenly thought she had been kicked off the island, conferred with outreach workers and helped with dinner preparations. He is also thinking about tomorrow.

Tomorrow, an advance party for the chief will leave to claim another spot across the river that turns out not to be on public property. Many in the camp will decide it’s time to move on anyway, to a spot under a bridge in East Providence. Camp Runamuck will begin its recession from sight and memory.

At least tonight there is a communal dinner: donated chicken, parboiled and grilled; donated corn on the cob; donated potatoes. People line up with paper plates.

The rain falls harder, pocking the river’s gray surface, surrounding the dark camp with a sound like fingers drumming in impatience. The chief hears it, but what can he do? He finishes his dinner and lights another cigar.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: (Update)Mother Killed Fetus Removed from Womb-Is Found

In Baby found alive after being cut from dead mom's womb, Pregnant Woman Killed and Fetus Cut Out on July 31, 2009 at 1:18 pm

Hello Folks, this is the update to the previous story. Though the story began in a tragic lost of life, the child has been found. A baby girl has been found alive.

 

Thank God that at least a baby has been found alive. Thanks goes out out to everyone who joined me in prayer for the safe discovery of the new born. Please continue to pray for all family members involved. This is sure to be a life changing event for all involved. 

Coyfee signing off…

Woman with baby cut from womb claimed pregnancy

In this image from WMUR television video, 35-year-old Julie Corey is escortedBy HOLLY RAMER, Associated Press Writer Holly Ramer, Associated Press Writer 51 mins ago

CONCORD, N.H. – Family and friends noticed something wasn’t quite right when they saw Julie Corey with what she said was her newborn daughter. She kept the baby under a blanket while seeming to breast-feed her — with a bottle of formula nearby. The umbilical cord was tied with a ribbon, not a clamp.

Then they heard Corey’s former neighbor had been found dead with a baby cut from her womb.

Corey, 35, of Worcester, Mass., was ordered held on $2 million bail in New Hampshire on Thursday, one day after being found with a 4-pound baby girl at a homeless shelter.

Appearing in Concord District Court via video from jail, Corey said little during the hearing and did not waive extradition to be brought back to Massachusetts to face kidnapping charges. Judge Gerard Boyle ordered all police affidavits in the case sealed and scheduled a hearing for Aug. 30.

Corey is accused of kidnapping an infant carried by Darlene Haynes, a 23-year-old mother of three who had been eight months’ pregnant and was found dead Monday in her Worcester apartment. Authorities say she had head trauma, but an exact cause of death has not been determined. The missing fetus was discovered during an autopsy.

Neighbors say Corey and her boyfriend, Alex Dion, used to live in the apartment building where Haynes’ body was found.

Dion’s relatives told the Telegram & Gazette of Worcester that they met the baby at a family gathering Saturday, and something didn’t seem quite right. They told the newspaper Corey appeared to be breast-feeding under a blanket although there was a bottle of formula. The baby’s umbilical cord also did not look like it had been cut by a doctor, they said.

Police confirmed the baby was found with a ribbon wrapped around her umbilical cord.

Corey has not been charged in Haynes’ death, and Worcester, Mass., District Attorney Joseph Early Jr. said investigators are still trying to determine who was involved.

They also want to know if Corey really was pregnant.

“She had presented herself as pregnant, and as early as last Friday she did have (Haynes’) baby with her and was presenting it to family and friends as her own,” Early said.

The baby was in good health and is in the custody of the Massachusetts Department of Children and Families, Early said. A custody hearing is scheduled for Monday in Worcester Juvenile Court. Early said several people are seeking custody of the baby.

Haynes and her boyfriend, Roberto Rodriguez, were friends with Corey and Dion. Dion — who was with Corey at the homeless shelter in New Hampshire — was taken into custody and later released to a family member. Haynes had a restraining order against her boyfriend, and her landlord said he moved out of the apartment last month.

Earlier this month, Corey was arrested on assault and battery charges after Dion told police she had beaten him. Dion told authorities involved in that case that Corey was nine months pregnant, Early said.

Haynes’ uncle Karl Whitney, acting as a family spokesman, said it was too early to condemn Corey.

“At this point in time, I’ve got to be grateful to her because she kept the baby alive,” he said.

The family is trying to make funeral arrangements while they sort through custody issues.

“This has been one of the most horrific ordeals that our family has ever had to deal with,” he said.

Agnes Brady, a neighbor, described Corey as very friendly and recalled her once baking a lasagna for all the neighbors in the apartment building. Brady’s son, Randy LaRose, said Corey had an 11-year-old son from a previous relationship who also lived in the apartment.

Corey, Dion and the baby arrived at the homeless shelter in Plymouth, about 40 miles north of Concord, Tuesday night, director Catherine Bentwood confirmed. She said the girl looked comfortable. Corey identified herself as the mother and agreed to have the baby seen by a local pediatrician.

Bentwood said the shelter received a call about 5 p.m. Wednesday asking if staffers could keep Corey there. Officers arrived shortly afterward and arrested her.

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Associated Press writers Bob Salsberg, Jeannie Nuss and Rodrique Ngowi in Boston contributed to this report.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents a Tragedy:Man has been having Sex with Horse

In Man has been having Sex with Horse, Stable owner caught man have sex with her horse, Uncategorized on July 31, 2009 at 9:51 am

Stable owner catches man having sex with horse

Vereen                 Well Ladies and Gentlemen this is a story that deserves our attention. Those of us that know the  in’s and out’s of spiritual warfare should recognize what’s going on.  The man in this story needs continual prayer for deliverance of the spirit of perversion and beastiality. We should pray for the innocent animals that this affects.

Please understand that these spirits manifest in the form of mental illness. Please pray for those that this spirit affects and also pray for this man. He needs our prayers…

Coyfee signing off…

 

Stable owner catches man having sex with horse Associated Press July 29, 2009, 3:44PM 1 2 . Horry County Detention Center AP Rodell Vereen is 50 years old. Share Print Share Del.icio.usDiggTwitterYahoo! BuzzFacebookStumbleUponResources

 

Video: Horse owner says suspect was apologetic for hurting horse COLUMBIA, S.C. — A South Carolina man was charged with having sex with a horse after the animal’s owner caught the act on videotape, then staked out the stable and caught him at shotgun point, authorities said Wednesday.

 

But this wasn’t the first time Rodell Vereen has been charged. He pleaded guilty last year to having sex with the same horse after owner Barbara Kenley found him in the same stable. Then he was sentenced to probation and placed on the state’s sex offender list. Kenley said she noticed several weeks ago that her 21-year-old horse Sugar was acting strange and getting infections. She noticed things in the barn had been moved around — dirt piled up and bales of hay stacked near the horse’s stall at her Lazy B Stables in Longs, about 20 miles northeast of Myrtle Beach.

 

“Police kept telling me it couldn’t be the same guy,” Kenley said Wednesday. “I couldn’t believe that there were two guys going around doing this to the same horse.” She spent several nights at the stables, which are about 4 miles from her home, but didn’t find anything. So she installed surveillance cameras, and when she reviewed the footage from July 19, she couldn’t believe she was seeing the same man doing the same thing to her horse. Kenley didn’t call police because she was certain the man would come back to the stable, and she wanted to make sure he was arrested. So she staked out the barn and caught Vereen inside Monday night, chasing him to his truck and holding him with her shotgun until police came.

 

“He said he wasn’t there to do anything, and I said, ‘I know you were. I have you on tape.’ And then he said he was sorry if he hurt me,” Kenley said. Vereen, 50, was first charged with trespassing, but police added a buggery charge after watching the surveillance tape. He faces up to five years if convicted. Vereen was already on probation after pleading guilty to buggery last year and was sentenced to three years of probation, ordered to stay away from the Lazy B Stables and declared a sex offender. He remains in jail, awaiting a hearing Monday to determine if he violated his probation.

 

 Vereen has had mental problems for several years, but seemed to get better after getting court-ordered treatment last year, said his brother, the Rev. James Vereen, who lives just down the street from his brother and the stables. “He’s done all right when he was on the medicine. I don’t know if he is still taking it,” said James Vereen, who added his brother has kept to himself a lot in the last few months. Kenley pointed out that she caught Vereen in 2007, too. Him then too. She stopped by her stable on Thanksgiving Day and found a man asleep in the hay by her horse, who had been locked in her stall, a mound of dirt and a stool behind her.

 

KenleyShe said she thought about shooting Vereen both times, but didn’t want to go to prison. “Everyone around here has horses,” Kenley said. “And they all said the same thing. You should have shot him.”

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Decapitated 3 1/2 Baby and Mother Pictures-Update

In Baby Is killed by His Mother, Child abuse, pictures of baby who was decapitated by mother, Pictures of mother who decapitated baby, Uncategorized, women talk on July 30, 2009 at 1:34 pm

This is Coyfee. 

 

 I can not comment on this story. Please read for yourself..there really is a tragedy going on with new mothers..Below are pictures of the mom and the baby.  Please offer prayers for this family.

 

All involved will be plagued by painful memories for many years to come. I am certain that this mom is ill. The question is why wasn’t she treated before now.  Well honestly we can pray that this type of tragedy never happens again. 

 

Many mothers seem to become even more psychotic after child birth. The doctors need more training as far as mental illness is concerned.  Please contact your legislature and ask them to request additional testing in the area of mental wholeness before forcing the new mother out of the hospital. 

 

 Many women are not physically prepared to leave the hospital after birth, needless to say how scared they maybe going home with this new person.  The baby has its own agenda and will not just go to sleep because the mom needs to rest.

 

Please understand I am not offering an excuse for results of the below story but we really do need to establish a safety net for mom with mental health issues. We need some questions to help reveal if a hidden mental illness maybe have been aggravated by the trauma of childbirth.

 

Update-Pictures of  Mother and Baby

In this Monday, July 27, 2009 photo released by the Bexar County ... This July 18, 2009 photo released by Scott Buchholz shows Otty ... This July 16, 2009 photo released by Scott Bucholz shows Otty ... This July 18, 2009 photo released by Scott Buchholz shows Scott ... This July 18, 2009 photo released by Scott Buchholz shows Scott ... In this July 1, 2009 photo released by Scott Buchholz, Otty ...

Mom of decapitated baby: ‘I didn’t mean to do it’

By PAUL J. WEBER, Associated Press Writer Paul J. Weber, Associated Press Writer 1 hr 12 mins ago

SAN ANTONIO – A Texas mother accused of decapitating her 3-week-old son screams “I didn’t mean to do it. He told me to!” while her sister pleads for an ambulance to bring help in a desperate four-minute 911 call released Wednesday.

Otty Sanchez, who police say told them the devil made her kill and mutilate her only child, cries “I love him” and says she’s stabbed herself in the heart and stomach while her sister tries calming down the 33-year-old mother.

At one point during the frantic call, Priscilla Garcia tries reassuring her sister that she is alive. “Otty, this time I told you to come to me,” Garcia says.

“I tried, but you told me that you died,” Sanchez responds.

“I’m not dead, Otty,” Garcia says. “I’m standing right here talking to you.”

Sanchez, 33, is charged with capital murder in the slaying of Scott Wesley Buchholz-Sanchez, who authorities found decapitated and grossly mutilated in a bedroom of her sister’s house early Sunday. Police say Sanchez chewed off three of her infant’s toes and ate parts of the brain. She used a knife and two swords in the attack, according to police.

Garcia tells the dispatcher that her sister has stabbed her child and that blood is all over the bed.

“She’s gone crazy last night. She was hearing voices,” Garcia says. “She kept bringing me the baby. And finally she calmed down and I took her back the baby. And now I just woke up to hear screaming.”

She continues, “The baby is dead. The baby’s dead. Please, somebody come.”

During the call, the dispatcher instructs Garcia not to touch the baby or anything in the area. The call ends with the dispatcher saying help is on the way.

Sanchez, who had been hospitalized after the killing, was being held on $1 million bond at the Bexar County jail. It was not immediately clear Wednesday whether she had an attorney.

Scott W. Buchholz, the infant’s father, said Sanchez suffered from postpartum depressionand that she told him she was schizophrenic a week before the slaying. Buchholz, who said he also is schizophrenic, said he wants her to receive the death penalty.

A family member has said Sanchez had been undergoing psychiatric treatment and that a hospital called looking for her several months ago. Gloria Sanchez, the mother’s aunt, said her niece had been “in and out of a psychiatric ward.”

In May 2008, Otty Sanchez’s mother, Manuela Sanchez, called police after her daughter didn’t return from a trip to Austin, saying she was concerned about her daughter’s safety. Manuela Sanchez told police she suspected her daughter was into drugs and specifically told police she wasn’t suffering from any mental issues.

Buchholz last saw Sanchez and his son the day before the killing. He said Sanchez had moved in with her parents a week earlier, leaving him July 20 after being briefly hospitalized for depression but released that same day.

Sanchez brought “Baby Scotty” over to see his father the day before the slaying, and Buchholz said she became irate when he asked for copies of the birth certificate and other documents, then left in a huff with the baby.

Priscilla Garcia called 911 before 5 a.m. the next morning. Police say the killing took place in a bedroom and that no one else was injured.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Pregnant Mother Killed Fetus Taken

In Child abuse, Pregnant Woman Killed and Fetus Cut Out, Uncategorized, Violence Against Women, women talk on July 30, 2009 at 4:33 am

Well readers here is another one. This another tragic story of violence directed toward a mother and her unborn child. We all remember “Thy shall not Kill”, but violence has been taking on a persona of it’s own. The below story is about a mother and her child. The mother was killed and her baby was taken. The Worcester Police are asking for our help. If you know anything about this please let them know…

Coyfee is signing off….

 

Fetus Of Slain Pregnant Woman Missing

Worcester Police Ask For Public’s Help
POSTED: 9:19 pm EDT July 28, 2009
UPDATED: 9:34 pm EDT July 28, 2009

 WORCESTER, Mass. — Worcester police said the fetus of a slain pregnant woman is missing and they are asking for the public’s help.

After investigating, a landlord discovered the body of a female in the closet of an apartment, police said.

 Worcester police said they responded to an apartment 94 Southgate Street at about 12:59 p.m. Monday.

 This call was placed by the property landlord who had been there to check for a report of a strong odor coming from that apartment.

 During the course of the landlord’s inspection, he discovered a deceased body of what he believed to be a woman in the closet of a bedroom.

 A search warrant was obtained and Worcester police detectives processed the scene along with the Evidence Recovery Unit and members of the Crime Scene Unit.

 Police said the victim was believed to be the current tenant of the apartment who was last seen on July 23.

 The tenant was identified is 23-year-old Darlene Haynes. She was eight months pregnant.

 Police said Haynes, who had been deceased for several days, was discovered wrapped in bedding.

 Her body was transported to the Boston Medical Examiner’s Office for an autopsy, which was performed Tuesday. The cause of death was ruled a homicide. Exact cause of death will be pending toxicology results.

 During the examination, it was revealed that the victim’s fetus was removed. The fetus was not recovered at the scene and detectives are searching for this fetus which, according to medical personnel, could survive but will need medical attention immediately.

 The investigation is ongoing and detectives urge the public that if they have any information pertaining to this homicide or if they have any information on the infant to contact the Worcester Police Department Detective Bureau at 508-799-8651.

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ConversationswitCoyfee presents Employment Advice

In Employment Advice on July 29, 2009 at 2:01 pm

Morning Folks! Here are the six toughest interview questions and the answers I hope they help

Coyfee signing off…

 

Answers to six tough job interview questions

by Associated Press
Monday July 27, 2009, 3:33 PM
Associated Press fileA line of job applicants snakes through a ropeline to attend the CUNY Big Apple Job Fair in New York.

NEW YORK — When it comes to job interviews, are you the rambler, the bore or the one who sweats nervously?

Knowing how you might come across to a prospective employer could mean the difference between advancing to the next round or losing out to someone who’s better prepared. With unemployment at a 26-year high of 9.5 percent and expected to reach 10 percent by the end of the year, there’s a growing field of candidates competing for jobs. So, you need to be able to answer questions with confidence and focus.

“The way that you sound spontaneous and conversational is to prepare and practice,” said Rachelle Cantor, president of RJC Associates, a career counseling firm based in San Francisco.

That means thinking in advance about what your interviewer might ask — not so you can come up with a scripted answer, but so you won’t be caught off guard. Here are six common questions you should be ready to handle.

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QUESTION 1: How would you improve on our company or product?

This is one of the trickiest questions a recruiter can pose. After all, you don’t want to criticize an area the hiring manager oversees.

A good rule of thumb is to start by pointing out what you like about the company. Then state your suggestions for improving it in a way that isn’t dismissive or judgmental. Engage the interviewer by asking whether your ideas have already been considered, and if so, why the company rejected them.

Although the question might sound like a trap, don’t be afraid of volunteering constructive ideas. It will show you did your homework and aren’t afraid to state your opinion.

And don’t panic if you don’t have a good suggestion.

“If you can’t think of an answer, don’t try to fudge it,” said Bobbie Little, an executive coach at PDI Ninth in San Francisco. “It will show that you’re trying to pretend you know more than you do.”

Be honest and say you’d need to know more about the organization to make such a suggestion. Follow up by asking how the company is trying to be more competitive.

QUESTION 2: What is your greatest weakness and your greatest strength?

One reason hiring managers ask this question is to gauge your self awareness.

“That’s one of the most valued qualities in a leader,” Little said.

Owning up to a true fault shows you’re honest about yourself and know what you need to improve. Give an example of how the weakness played out in the work place and what you learned from the experience.

That said, don’t rattle off a list of shortcomings or be overly self-deprecating. And whenever admitting a weakness, be sure to note how you’re working to improve it.

And when you name your strengths, be ready to give examples of how they’ve helped you in your career.

QUESTION 3: Why did you leave your last job?

There was a time when a layoff was a black mark on your resume and a dreaded topic in job interviews. Now, there’s no shame in admitting you were downsized. There are so many people in the same situation that it’s no longer taboo, said Eric Winegardner, a spokesman for the job site Monster.com.

“You won’t find yourself explaining that too much,” Winegardner said, adding that what matters more is how you talk about the experience of being laid off.

Whatever the reason for your departure from your last job, show that you don’t carry resentment and you’re mature enough to see the split as a business matter. If you left by choice, explain how and why you came to the decision so you don’t seem irresponsible.

QUESTION 4: What’s the worst boss you had and how did you deal with him or her?

The real question here is: Just how mature a person are you? People are often surprisingly willing to volunteer the anger they carry around, said Little of PDI Ninth.

“That tells me they weren’t able to work through a situation,” she said.

Complaining that your old boss was out to get you will only make you sound paranoid. It will also make the interviewer wonder how you’d get along with future bosses and co-workers.

So if faced with this question, tell a story that shows you can handle an uncomfortable situation professionally. Little recalls being impressed by a candidate who made it a ritual to decompress at the gym whenever he found his work day particularly stressful.

QUESTION 5: Describe a life-changing experience and how you grew from it.

This is a question that can open the floodgates of awkward rambling — a telltale sign that you’re unprepared and winging it.

What managers are looking for with this question is your ability to adapt and grow, so pick one anecdote that demonstrates those qualities. And keep your story short.

“A lot of leadership today is being able to deal with ambiguity and the unknown, more so than in the past,” Little said. “Things turn on a dime, and I’m looking for people to demonstrate they can deal with that.”

QUESTION 6: Why are you the right person for the job?

Give compelling specifics. If you’re applying at a nonprofit, for example, note that you’ve worked at three major nonprofits over your career. Tell how you were able to boost sales by 5 percent at your former job. Or point out that you’re familiar with the newest software that’s being used in the industry.

Those are the type of concrete reasons that will stick with a recruiter. You should volunteer the information even if you’re never directly asked about them.

Here are the answers you should NOT give: You want it more than anyone else, you’ve got the right skills, you know you’ll do a great job.

“If you say something subjective, all they have is your word,” said Cantor of RJC Associates.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents a Tragedy: Mother Mutilates 3 1/2 week Old Baby

In Baby Is killed by His Mother, Child abuse, pictures of baby who was decapitated by mother, Pictures of mother who decapitated baby, Uncategorized, women talk on July 29, 2009 at 1:11 pm

This is Coyfee.  I can not comment on this story. Please read for yourself..there really is a tragedy going on with new mothers..Below are pictures of the mom and the baby.  Please offer prayers for this family. All involved will be plagued by painful memories for many years to come. I am certain that this mom is ill. The question is why wasn’t she treated before now.  Well honestly we can pray that this type of tragedy never happens again. But since many mothers seem to become even more psychotic after child birth..the doctors need more training as far as mental illness is concerned.  Please contact your legislature and ask them to request additional testing in the area of mental wholeness before forcing the new mother out of the hospital.  Many women are not physically prepared to leave the hospital after birth, needless to say how scared they maybe going home with this new person.  The baby has its own agenda and will not just go to sleep because the mom needs to rest.

Please understand I am not offering an excuse for results of the below story but we really do need to establish a safety net for mom with mental health issues. We need some questions to help reveal if a hidden mental illness maybe have been aggravated by the trauma of childbirth.

Update:

In this Monday, July 27, 2009 photo released by the Bexar County ... This July 18, 2009 photo released by Scott Buchholz shows Otty ... This July 16, 2009 photo released by Scott Bucholz shows Otty ... This July 18, 2009 photo released by Scott Buchholz shows Scott ... This July 18, 2009 photo released by Scott Buchholz shows Scott ... In this July 1, 2009 photo released by Scott Buchholz, Otty ...

Mom of decapitated baby: ‘I didn’t mean to do it’

By PAUL J. WEBER, Associated Press Writer Paul J. Weber, Associated Press Writer 1 hr 12 mins ago

SAN ANTONIO – A Texas mother accused of decapitating her 3-week-old son screams “I didn’t mean to do it. He told me to!” while her sister pleads for an ambulance to bring help in a desperate four-minute 911 call released Wednesday.

Otty Sanchez, who police say told them the devil made her kill and mutilate her only child, cries “I love him” and says she’s stabbed herself in the heart and stomach while her sister tries calming down the 33-year-old mother.

At one point during the frantic call, Priscilla Garcia tries reassuring her sister that she is alive. “Otty, this time I told you to come to me,” Garcia says.

“I tried, but you told me that you died,” Sanchez responds.

“I’m not dead, Otty,” Garcia says. “I’m standing right here talking to you.”

Sanchez, 33, is charged with capital murder in the slaying of Scott Wesley Buchholz-Sanchez, who authorities found decapitated and grossly mutilated in a bedroom of her sister’s house early Sunday. Police say Sanchez chewed off three of her infant’s toes and ate parts of the brain. She used a knife and two swords in the attack, according to police.

Garcia tells the dispatcher that her sister has stabbed her child and that blood is all over the bed.

“She’s gone crazy last night. She was hearing voices,” Garcia says. “She kept bringing me the baby. And finally she calmed down and I took her back the baby. And now I just woke up to hear screaming.”

She continues, “The baby is dead. The baby’s dead. Please, somebody come.”

During the call, the dispatcher instructs Garcia not to touch the baby or anything in the area. The call ends with the dispatcher saying help is on the way.

Sanchez, who had been hospitalized after the killing, was being held on $1 million bond at the Bexar County jail. It was not immediately clear Wednesday whether she had an attorney.

Scott W. Buchholz, the infant’s father, said Sanchez suffered from postpartum depressionand that she told him she was schizophrenic a week before the slaying. Buchholz, who said he also is schizophrenic, said he wants her to receive the death penalty.

A family member has said Sanchez had been undergoing psychiatric treatment and that a hospital called looking for her several months ago. Gloria Sanchez, the mother’s aunt, said her niece had been “in and out of a psychiatric ward.”

In May 2008, Otty Sanchez’s mother, Manuela Sanchez, called police after her daughter didn’t return from a trip to Austin, saying she was concerned about her daughter’s safety. Manuela Sanchez told police she suspected her daughter was into drugs and specifically told police she wasn’t suffering from any mental issues.

Buchholz last saw Sanchez and his son the day before the killing. He said Sanchez had moved in with her parents a week earlier, leaving him July 20 after being briefly hospitalized for depression but released that same day.

Sanchez brought “Baby Scotty” over to see his father the day before the slaying, and Buchholz said she became irate when he asked for copies of the birth certificate and other documents, then left in a huff with the baby.

Priscilla Garcia called 911 before 5 a.m. the next morning. Police say the killing took place in a bedroom and that no one else was injured.

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UPDATE: Decapitated Baby’s Mother Had Post-Partum Psychosis

By Associated Press July 28, 2009 3:46 pm

 

The father of a newborn baby who authorities say was mutilated, killed and cannibalized by his mother said Tuesday he wants to see her executed. Scott W. Buchholz told The Associated Press that Otty Sanchez, the mother of 3 1/2-week-old Scotty Wesley Buchholz-Sanchez, seemed fine in the days before the killing, even though they argued.

However, he said she told him she had been diagnosed with postpartum depression and was going to be admitted to a hospital for treatment.

Sanchez’s relatives told The San Antonio Express News that she had been diagnosed with postpartum psychosis, which can cause delusional thoughts and hallucinations.

Sanchez, 33, is charged with capital murder in the baby’s death and could face the death penalty. When authorities found the infant’s body Sunday, Sanchez told officers the devil made her do it, police said.

“She killed my son. She should burn in hell,” Buchholz said.

Otty Sanchez’s aunt, Gloria Sanchez, told The Associated Press that her niece had been “in and out” of a psychiatric ward, and that the hospital called several months ago to check up on her.

Sanchez was hospitalized Tuesday with self-inflicted stab wounds and was being held on $1 million bail. Police have said she does not have an attorney. Authorities found the baby with three of his toes chewed off, his face torn away and his head was severed.

Otty Sanchez’s sister and her sister’s two children, ages 5 and 7, were in the house at the time, but none were harmed.

Sanchez and Buchholz lived together during the pregnancy and the first two weeks after their son was born, he said. An infection complicated Sanchez’s recovery from giving birth, and she was required to use a catheter for about a week. That setback darkened her mood, and she was soon diagnosed with postpartum depression.

She moved out of the couple’s shared home July 20. On Saturday, she showed up to see Buchholz at his parents’ house. She became agitated when he told her he needed a copy of the baby’s birth certificateand Social Security card, Buchholz said.

Sanchez ran out of the home with her son in a car seat, threw the car seat into the front passenger seat of her car and sped away without buckling him in, the San Antonio Express-News reported. She left behind a diaper bag, her purse and her medication.

Buchholz’s mother called 911, and a sheriff’s deputy investigated the incident as a disturbance, according to court records. The next day, authorities said, she killed her son.

Officers called to Sanchez’s house at about 5 a.m. Sunday found her sitting on the couch screaming “I killed my baby! I killed my baby!” San Antonio Police Chief William McManus said.

McManus described the crime scene as so grisly that police officers barely spoke to each other while looking through the house.

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Updated on July 27, 2009 at 5:09 p.m.

A woman charged with murdering her 3 1/2-week-old son used a knife and two swords to dismember the child and ate parts of his body, including his brain, before stabbing herself in the torso and slicing her own throat, police said Monday.

Otty Sanchez, 33, is charged with capital murder in the death of her infant son, Scott Wesley Buchholtz-Sanchez. She was recovering from her wounds at a hospital, and was being held on $1 million bail.

San Antonio Police Chief William McManus said the early Sunday morning attack occurred a week after the child’s father moved out. Otty Sanchez’s sister and her sister’s two children, ages 5 and 7, were in the house, but none were harmed.

Otty Sanchez’s aunt, Gloria Sanchez, said her niece had been “in and out” of a psychiatric ward, and that the hospital called several months ago looking to check up on her. She did not elaborate on the nature of her niece’s health problems.

“Otty didn’t mean to do that. She was not in her right mind,” a sobbing Gloria Sanchez told The Associated Press on Monday by phone. She said her family was devastated.

McManus, who appeared uncomfortable as he addressed reporters, said Sanchez apparently ate the child’s brain and some other body parts. She also decapitated the infant, tore off his face and chewed off three of his toes before stabbing herself.

“It’s too heinous for me to describe it any further,” McManus said.

McManus described the crime scene as so grisly that police officers barely spoke to each other while looking through the house. Parts of the child were missing, including pieces that Sanchez allegedly ate.

“At this particular scene you could have heard a pin drop,” McManus said. “No one was speaking. It was about as somber as it could have been.”

Officers called to Sanchez’s house at about 5 a.m. Sunday found her sitting on the couch screaming “I killed my baby! I killed my baby!” McManus said. They found the boy’s body in a bedroom.

Police said Sanchez said the devil told her to kill her son and that she was hearing voices.

“It was a spontaneous utterance,” McManus said.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Cheating Husband

In Cheating Husband-revengeful wife, Forgiveness, Uncategorized, women talk on July 29, 2009 at 11:59 am

boilingConversationswitCoyfee presents A Cheating Husband and the Results of It..

 

 

Well folks this is Coyfee. I ran across this story and decided to share it. In hopes that it can help both husbands and wives. Wives are probably saying that it was good for him. That is what he should get for cheating. However, (husbands)men are saying she is locked up. So (wives) if we can’t stay with the cheating husbands let’s just leave them alone.

This is Coyfee signing off…

GREAT BALLS AFIRE!

WIFE’S CHEAT REVENGE

 By WILLIAM J. GORTA and DAN MANGAN

Last updated: 9:00 am
July 28, 2009
Posted: 2:59 am
July 28, 2009

A Queens nurse allegedly channeled Lorena Bobbitt as she exacted revenge yesterday on her hubby for his infidelity.

The woman, feeling burned over her husband’s cheating, woke him up by pouring a “big pot” of scalding water over his genitals, the victim told The Post.

ojofeitimi“I was in bed, I was fast asleep . . . She came into the bedroom and poured hot water all over me,” Emmanuel “Ojo” Ojofeitimi, 67, said last night from his hospital bed, where he was being treated for second- and third-degree burns over 30 percent of his body.

“I didn’t know what had happened. By the time I woke up, the skin was falling off,” Ojofeitimi said.

“It sounded like a woman screaming,” a neighbor in their Springfield Gardens building said of the 6 a.m. attack.

Ojofeitimi’s wife, Oyindamola, 67, was charged with assault and harassment and was ordered held in lieu of $100,000 at her arraignment last night.

Her lawyer, Jennifer Michaelson, said Ojofeitimi “had a history of abusing her both physically and psychologically.”

A law-enforcement source said Oyindamola had been “upset about a recent infidelity.”

Ojofeitimi said his wife was wielding a large hunk of wood expecting that he would attack her after she scalded him.

“I don’t know whether she flipped out, or something happened . . . I didn’t anticipate this at all,” he said.

Ojofeitimi, a Nigerian immigrant and nurse himself who previously was vice president of patient-care services at New Island Hospital in Bethpage, LI, said his wife has been steaming about his cheating.

Despite his claims of being faithful lately, Oyindamola, who has four grown children with him, “never lets it go,” he said.

“She does not know how to forgive and forget; she doesn’t let anything go by,” he said. “If I come home late from work, she’s always assuming that I’m with a woman.”

But Ojofeitimi said his wife of 21 years, who is from Grenada, had never gotten violent before.

The attack echoed Bobbitt’s infamous assault on then-husband John Wayne Bobbitt, when she hacked off his penis as he slept.

“I just jumped up and called 911,” Ojofeitimi said.

He said Oyindamola put cold compresses on his burns, which ranged from his knees to his abdomen and also were on his arm, back and face. Ojofeitimi was taken to Nassau University Medical Center, where cops interviewed him and then arrested his wife.

But Ojofeitimi said, “I will file for divorce, but I don’t want her in jail.”

Additional reporting by Philip Messing, Laurie Kamens and Erin Calabrese

william.gorta@nypost.com

ConversationswitCoyfee presents It’s Time to Laugh

In Men Pregnant-What?, Uncategorized on July 29, 2009 at 12:58 am

Morning Folks..How is everyone? I hope the weekend was really good to you. My weekend was quite interesting. My daughter and I visited one of my friends and we now have wonderful new family to share with. Well enough of my exciting life; let me share a wonderfully amusing story with you. The below story is about a man that recieved an assignment from his employer.

Coyfee signing off…Laugh real hard folks..but if men could really get pregnant, how many would? Hmmmm  (Smile)

 (Parenting.com) — After my wife had given birth to our second child, my editor at BabyTalk called me with an assignment: See what it’s like to be pregnant by wearing an “empathy belly” — a sort of pregnancy suit for men (expectant dads try them on briefly during childbirth class) — for one day. One man straps on a fake pregnancy belly and has a rough time. Having just gone through nine months of backaches, nausea, and sore feet herself, my wife, Susan, was all too thrilled for me to have a taste of her discomfort, if only for a day. Full of bravado, I insisted that I would also wear the belly at night, so that I’d have it on a full 24 hours. That was before we learned that the makers of the empathy belly suggest wearing it no longer than three hours at a time. (Something to do with not wanting the husband to freak out by the instant changes, collapse, and suffocate, I believe.) I borrowed my 33-pound empathy belly from the College of Nursing at the University of Cincinnati. It’s not just a belly though: The contraption consists of two foam breasts; a rib belt designed to constrict the lungs and make it harder to breathe; two seven-pound lead balls inside the belly; a two-pound suspended weight that simulates a baby’s kicking; and a weighted pouch that represents the baby’s head on the woman’s — or in my case, man’s — bladder. No ‘big’ deal I decided to give my new breast-and-belly suit a whirl on a weekend. On Saturdays, I try to give my wife a break by taking our two girls — Isabelle, 2, and Lorelei, 3 months — to visit my parents. This day wasn’t any different, save for the empathy belly in the trunk of the car (you’re not allowed to drive while wearing it).

Parenting.com: Myths about pregnancy sex Don’t Miss Parenting.com: The real poop on labor Parenting.com: Our favorite pregnancy movies Parenting.com: Girl or boy? Fun ways to guess I thought it would be helpful to spend some time outside my own home wearing the belly to truly understand how a pregnant woman feels. But I also knew deep down that I’d probably conveniently forget to mention to my parents that I had brought it along. Fortunately, my wife had sent over an e-mail reminding everyone. In another lucky break, my parents had a friend visiting, Debbie, who, along with my mom, was all too happy to help me put on the empathy belly. As soon as they strapped on the rib belt (giggling all the while), I felt frighteningly short of breath. And when I sat down on the sofa, I immediately felt an acutely uncomfortable sensation — the bladder pouch. Parenting.com: Wackiest, grossest pregnancy symptoms “It’s not so bad,” I said, glancing at my mother and Debbie, who both seemed to be euphoric about my plight. But after the novelty wore off a little, the two launched into a conversation related to work. I remained on the sofa, taking note that yes, I had some slight pressure on my bladder, and sure, I couldn’t take deep, deep breaths, but this wasn’t so tough. It’s not like I feel that different than before, I thought, absently fondling my fake breasts. In front of my mom. I yanked my hands away and tried to pry myself off of the sofa. Immediately, Isabelle asked me to pick her up. “Oh, jeez,” I muttered, squatting down. The empathy belly instructions are adamant that you shouldn’t bend down without squatting; I didn’t want to test my luck. As I lifted her, other than a brief puzzled glance, Isabelle didn’t even seem to notice my misshapen body, which was a big relief. (After I accepted this assignment, I worried that when Isabelle grew up, she would have a foggy memory of her father with a pregnant belly, keeping a therapist employed for years.) My 2-year-old was just happy I was holding her — which meant one of us was happy.

After all, she’s 31 freaking pounds. “You seem kind of cranky,” my mother said. “It must be my hormones,” I sighed. I looked at my watch. I had only been wearing the empathy belly for 15 minutes, and I knew I should go at least another hour or two. I didn’t want to admit it to anybody, but, by this point, I wasn’t enjoying my pregnancy at all. Parenting.com: Boy or girl? Fun ways to guess Fortunately, everybody else was. My mother and Debbie kept making jokes at my expense. My brother, Kevin, and his girlfriend, Rachel, dropped by and each had a good laugh. And my dad took photos. I probably logged in about 90 more minutes, and three bathroom trips, until I’d had enough. When I arrived home with the girls, my wife was beaming. “Your father sent me the photos,” she said. Cursed e-mail. I wasn’t mad at my dad for sending the photos. But I was mad at him for telling Susan that I had said, “Wearing this empathy belly is much more difficult than actually being pregnant.” My wife quickly replied, “Tell Geoff that if he likes, he can try being pregnant for five minutes, and he will see how comfortable the empathy belly is.” And then she reeled off a list of things that the empathy belly would never do, like “give you insomnia, give you hemorrhoids, and make you push a baby out of an opening the size of a lemon.” She also took issue with the fact that I could take the empathy belly off at any time and leave it in a box. Boy, she’s touchy. Labor pains The next day, my wife, daughters, and I went back to my parents’ house for lunch, where the main course was my grandmother’s fried chicken. Not two minutes into the visit, my wife was volunteering to help me put on the belly. Susan yanked the rib belt around my chest much tighter than my mother and her friend had. “Comfy?” Susan asked. “I cuhnnn-n-huhhly-breathe,” I said. “Then I guess it’s working,” Susan said cheerfully. If the experience was strange the day before, now it was surreal. My Uncle Joe was annoyed that I was sitting beside him, because I seemed to take up all of the space around me. My Uncle Larry just appeared amused. As did my brother, his girlfriend, my parents and my wife. At least my grandmother seemed supportive. Until, that is, after dinner, when she looked my way and offered a challenge: “I’ll bet you can’t tie your shoes.” Et tu, Grammy?

 Birth of a new appreciation I retreated upstairs with Isabelle for a while. She played in my old bedroom, and at one point, I tried lying on my side, imagining what it might be like to sleep like that for an entire night. Honestly, I’m not sure how any woman does it. Watching Isabelle play, I had some time to reflect on a lot of things, like how lonely pregnancy can feel. I mean, sure, you’re a celebrity for a while — Susan got a lot of attention from the family when she was pregnant, and I was getting a lot, in a different sort of way. But at the same time, if you’re the only pregnant person in the room, and the only person who has to think about how to navigate across the room, well, there’s a sense of solitude to the whole thing. And helplessness. When Isabelle and I were going downstairs, she wanted me to carry her, but I was worried about tackling the stairs with my arms full of preschooler. I shouted for my father, who came to Isabelle’s rescue while I retreated to the restroom for probably the fifth time since we had arrived. But when I finished my business and reached down to zip my pants, my belly kept getting in the way. Grunting, I pulled and pulled, until I finally placed my fake stomach on the counter, bent my knees, and tried to pull. I wound up toppling into the bathtub. I stood, holding up my pants with one hand, gingerly descended the stairs, and snuck into my parents’ den. I tried putting my belly on my father’s desk, which was a little higher than the bathroom counter. Still no luck. Sweat was dripping off of me now, and my forearms were aching — all from trying to zip my pants. After about five minutes of struggling, I gave in and called for Susan. This was a two-person job. “I don’t know how you zipped your pants all those months,” I said. “Maternity pants don’t come with zippers,” she replied. “That’s right,” I said. “You know, maybe I do have it harder than you did.” My wife shot me a look implying I was sleeping in the garage that night. Later, Susan softened, and shortly before the three-hour limit was up, she suggested I take the belly off. I didn’t protest. I waddled a mile in her moccasins, and I have to admit, I have a new respect for all pregnant women. I especially have to admire women who repeat the pregnancy experience. Susan’s actually talking about going for a third. There are times when I think she’s crazy, until I’m making Lorelei laugh, or lying in the grass with Isabelle, marveling at how she can watch an ant and be simply fascinated by it. (That is, until she tries to pet it, and accidentally sends it into oblivion.)

 There’s something about having kids that really is magical. And so, I can honestly say that if it was possible for men to be pregnant, and if I had to trade places with my wife, I would happily go the distance for nine months.

By Geoff Williams

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ConversationswitCoyfee presents The Frisky

In Uncategorized on July 27, 2009 at 9:25 am
By Judy McGuire
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(The Frisky) — Few things are more entertaining than bad date stories. Who wants to hear about hearts and flowers when flatulence and festering sores are so much more fun? Which is why when my friend Sal wanted to share what she assured me were horror stories about her recent attempts at online dating, I was ecstatic — joke material! Singles need to approach dating with a more positive attitude. As I slid onto the bar stool next to her, I noticed she looked a little down. I immediately felt guilty about my initial excitement. Hmm. “What happened?” I asked. “Nothing really,” she shrugged. It seems she’d met up with two different men and both were just meh. “I had nothing in common with either,” she complained. “And?” I inquired. She shot me a look. “And what?” she answered. “They were both really boring.”

Singles need to approach dating with a more positive attitude.The Frisky: Don’t date your carbon copy! Oh, Sal! While boring definitely isn’t good, dullness doesn’t even enter the realm of the awful. Bad is catching him rifling through your purse or making out with the waitress. Horrible is when you notice he’s sexting your best friend. My buddy Rich dated a woman who believed her cats spoke to her (in English). Another friend Googled her foxy first date, only to locate him on the sex offender registry. Again, those are actual bad dates. But even those aren’t all bad — at least the result is a funny tale to tell to your friends.

Oh, Sal! While boring definitely isn’t good, dullness doesn’t even enter the realm of the awful. Bad is catching him rifling through your purse or making out with the waitress. Horrible is when you notice he’s sexting your best friend.

Sal would not see the light. I assured her that even a boring date can usually be salvaged if you spin it the right way. “I’m done,” she insisted. “It’s too depressing.”

 The Frisky: Dating comedian doesn’t always result in laughs Sal would not see the light. I assured her that even a boring date can usually be salvaged if you spin it the right way. “I’m done,” she insisted. “It’s too depressing.” 

 The Frisky: Marriage is changing — for better or worse The Frisky: Automatic online dating dealbreakers Though Sal proclaims herself nunnery bound, I am convinced that being a successful dater requires a glass-half-full attitude. For example: 1. You might gain a new friend. The aforementioned cat-fancier Rich and I met on an online dating site. Our chemistry was so inert that he actually dozed off — and we were at a small club listening to a loud band! But at the end of the evening he said he wanted to be friends and oddly enough, he actually meant it. I didn’t get a kiss goodnight, but I did gain a pal.

The Frisky: What I learned from the guy’s perspective 2. There is always an opportunity for amusement. If he’s not entertaining, remember that you can always amuse yourself by pretending to be a sexy foreigner, complete with an intriguing back story and faux accent. I actually dated someone for about a month who had me convinced he was a British tattoo artist. Only after we broke up did I find out he was actually from Florida with no discernible job skills save an ear for faking an accent. I could’ve been annoyed by his deception, but because I am an optimist I just tucked his strategy away, to use myself at a later date.

The Frisky: Happies Vs. Crappies If worse comes to worst and you can see no way to salvage any enjoyment out of the evening, politely excuse yourself, citing extreme lack of chemistry as the reason. He’ll probably be just as relieved as you are to put the date out of its misery. But make no mistake: A boring date does not equal a bad date.

The Frisky: Why you should always trust your gut