ConversationswitCoyfee

Archive for the ‘A Man's Point Of View’ Category

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Sista2Sista’s Discussion Of The Week:Do Black Men Like Their Women Larger?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Do Black Men Like Their Women Larger?, Uncategorized, women talk on August 30, 2009 at 5:02 am

This is Coyfee..I want to know what’s your opinion ..black men talk to me..

I must admit the world gives double imagines all the time, but what do the men say? Is thick In and Thin the has been Or is Thin in and Thick over way too quick..here is my body shot..sporting my African derriere.  I tried some of everything to get rid of it..now it seems like having what your momma gave you is in…You tell me..

 tammie body shot

Opinion: Do Black Men Like Their Women Larger?

 By Hello Beautiful August 27, 2009 4:52 pm (from thegrio.com)

 I posed this question on a social networking site recently. The aftermath was like watching people running from a burning building as if their hair were on fire. Most of the responses were of the “good luck with that” variety, as if the next move was to wait for a last minute pardon from the governor before the firing squad commenced to carry out the sentence.

 

The reason for some of my own hesitation in weighing in on a subject like this is obvious. Just as the black women come in a variety of hues and hair types, they also are a mix of skinny and voluptuous – the thin and the thick – not so easily or quickly defined. Nor can the dating or marrying preferences of African-American men be easily placed into a nice neat box.

 

 Poll a brother on the street and he might be just as likely to prefer a slim sister as one with, as they say, some junk in her trunk. Serena Williams: “My Thighs Are Too Big” Still, there’s no question that the average African-American woman is likely to adopt India.Arie’s credo that she just “ain’t built like a supermodel.” And if the biggest part of sexiness is self-confidence, then the black woman’s allure to the black man needs no explanation. The black woman exudes self-assuredness. Since her arrival here from Africa centuries ago, the black woman has been comfortable in her skin, content to live her life large, usually more literally than figuratively.

 In many cases, because the African-American woman bore the responsibility – often alone – for keeping her family intact, she had little time to take care of herself. Even if that lifestyle wasn’t – or nowadays, isn’t – a choice, we’re nonetheless seeing the effects in higher reported incidents of obesity and related complications, including diabetes and heart disease, within the black community. This week’s news that the American Heart Association added sugar, along with salt and cholesterol, to the list of things to watch out for will not go over well in many black kitchens. While there are legitimate health reasons for wondering if bigger is really better over the long term, those concerns haven’t kept many black women from straying from the ideal European-American body aesthetic that is widely portrayed in the media circles. You need only look at the way two of the world’s top female tennis players, Maria Sharapova and Serena Williams, are viewed to get a feel for the chasm of difference in how body beauty is perceived in the black and white communities. Sharapova, a Russian émigré and winner of three Grand Slam singles titles, is 6-foot-2, thin and blonde. Twice, she was the most searched for athlete in the world through Yahoo! and she is a favorite of the overwhelmingly white fanboy sports blogosphere. Williams is likewise tall, at 5ft 10″, but as author Marita Golden points out in her book, “Don’t Play in the Sun: One Woman’s Journey Through the Color Complex,” “Serena is compact, muscular [and] built for the game she dominates.”

 

“And,” continues Golden, “any discussion of Serena Williams has to begin with her backside, her black, her African, derriere. That’s my backside, that’s the backside of so many black women, and Serena ain’t trying to hide it, camouflage it or do anything but flaunt it.” Serena’s not alone, nor should she be. You won’t catch women like Tyra Banks or Oprah Winfrey or Queen Latifah squeezing into size 2 or 4 dresses. Yet their visibility and beauty are unquestioned. Indeed, I appreciate the fact that my wife not only isn’t built like a supermodel, but loves me, a man who not only has junk in the trunk, but groceries all over the car.

Advertisements

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point Of View: Why Women Cheat

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Adulterous women, Ask the black man, Dating and the Single Woman, Uncategorized, What is True Love?, Why Women Cheat on August 30, 2009 at 4:20 am

Well folks what do you say? Do you agree with the writer? Why do women cheat? Is it that some women want their cake and to eat it too..

Let me know what you think?

Coyfee signing off

 

A Man’s Response To Why Women Cheat Posted Aug 18

So, I’m reading this article on the ‘Hello Beautiful’ site titled, 3 Reasons Why Women Cheat, and I have decided to give you women some advice based on what I have read:

 Feeling Lonely in a Relationship

Ok, realize that men sometimes go through this as well so it’s not gender based when it comes to feeling lonely. The expectations placed on a man while in a relationship should be discussed as opposed to being expected, ESPECIALLY if your man happens to be popular or very driven when it comes to his career or work. If you are feeling lonely, it is up to you to include him in other activities that he may not normally be involved in where you wouldn’t feel so lonely. Also, keep in mind that, just like women, guys like to hang out with the fellas every now and then, so if your expectations are greater than he is willing to give, then you may have to resort to the infamous female support group! Otherwise, occupy your time with your passion and goals so that way when the two of you DO get up, the time together will be cherished even more while both of you are trying to achieve personal goals and dreams!

 

Feeling Taken for Granted

 As stated above, men go through the motions when feeling like they are also taken for granted. But instead of focusing on the negative, focus on the positive and as with any relationship, whether work, play or friendship, this can be a task. But as with any task, there has to be common ground so that it can be completed to satisfaction! What most women tend to do is focus on their needs and themselves when having a conversation about ‘us’. You also need to be open to hearing and catering to his needs and wants as well so that way BOTH of you can be equally fulfilled! I hate to word it like this but, it has to be a mutually binding agreement so that way no one feels taken for granted, you give a little, I give a little and hopefully, we both benefit greatly!

 

You Are Leading Separate Lives

Well, as with anything in life, you grow, sometimes together, sometimes apart. It should be the focus of both partners to extend themselves to each other so that way both of you are still on the same page when it comes to a common bond which should be love. We can’t help who we are or who we become based on life experiences and what most women (and men!) don’t understand is that it is BECAUSE of you that he decides to take another direction in life, whether negative or positive. We should make each other stronger but at times, we tend to get weak out of being used to being with the one we are with, so we can and do get complacent. So, communication may be the most important tool in this situation so you can understand what the other is going through in order to want to stay in each others live! You can lead a separate, yet together life if both parties are getting what they want out of it, specifically on an emotional level. But you MUST discuss it with each other!

 

Revenge Can Be Bittersweet

This is definitely a hard thing for women and ESPECIALLY men! Since society accepts cheating men more than they accept cheating women, we, as men, are distraught when we find out that our woman has cheated, even if we were caught first. Hey, don’t blame us; society has made it acceptable for us to get away with cheating! Nonetheless, if it’s within a marriage, when you take your vows, you said for better or for worse, so you must remember that when you do find out as we, as men, have to think along the same lines. As far as a lover, I would say it should be based on what is transpiring in the relationship as to why the cheating was done and if it can be, not only forgiven, but placed aside for the good of the relationship.

 

The Ego Needs Stroking

As far as ego, I can safely say that the male ego is more robust than a woman’s ego, so we are at a disadvantage when it comes to that, especially if we are attractive or have a status or have money or have all three! Women are always eyeing us, trying to get our attention and with the slightest bit of neglect from you, make it easier to submit to the desires of a woman who is obviously trying to give us the goods. So, if anything, if our egos need stroking, guess what, something else of ours will get the stroking.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Ask The Black Man:Can A Man Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Ask the black man, Black Church, Can A Man Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex?, How to successfully date, Uncategorized, What is True Love?, women talk on August 15, 2009 at 1:18 am

Good morning! I hope your week is progressing in a productive manner.. I have a old topic with a new spin for discussion..Waiting until marriage. Does anyone do that anymore? It’s sort of hard when there is so much divorce and maybe having other men/women to compare your new lover to is the root of the problem.  You tell me..

Below the Black Man addresses a young woman who has chosen to wait to have sex until married ..Let’s see what he has to say about this spicy topic…

Have a great weekend..

Coyfee signing off….

 

Can A Man Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex?

Posted Aug 13

Hello Blackman, I am a 21-year-old African American Christian woman who is saving herself for marriage. Quite frankly, I feel like I am one of the last of a dying breed of excellent women. It seems to be hard to find a good black man who appreciates me for who I am. What man wants to deal with a girl who won’t satisfy his sexual needs until after marriage? CD

 

The Blackman: Hi CD, I think the way society is designed these days it is tough to find that match. It is not impossible though. Just like anything else, once you find something great you should cherish it. Society has transformed a lot throughout the years where pre-marital sex is not looked at as taboo anymore. In some ways it has helped certain situations and in other cases it has not. For example it has stopped some people from getting married and realizing that lust was the premise of their relationship. On the flip side it has made someone overlook a person that they would overall be compatible with but since pre-marital sex was not in the equation, they looked past the person. The age of when people get married has changed as well.

 

Nowadays it is common for people to get married in their 30’s, unlike in the past most people were married with children in their 20’s. Sex has become a big emphasis in our society, rather than religion where premarital sex is forbidden. This factor makes it tougher for people to abstain until marriage. A majority of the things that you see in the multimedia platform of our society has a sexual innuendo to it. Another makes it difficult in your case because the men in your age range are going through their sexual prime so they may not be looking to settle at that point of their lives.

 

Look at yourself as a diamond in the ruff and be open to receiving a gem for a lifetime partner. There are men out there that will respect the fact you want to save yourself for marriage and will see your value beyond sex. Since you are a Christian woman, a good place to look for man who will value that is at Church. That’s not saying that you can’t find men elsewhere that will honor that but they can relate where you are coming from. Be patient and you will find someone that will appreciate you. Good Luck, TBM

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Symbol of Unhealed Congo: Male Rape Victims-In Congo

In A Man's Point Of View, Africia, Child abuse, homosexuality, Symbol of Unhealed Congo: Male Rape Victims, Uncategorized, Violence Against Males, women talk on August 8, 2009 at 2:11 pm

This story maybe one of the saddest ones that I have posted in weeks.  The issue of men being raped in a country where homosexuality is such a taboo is heartwrenching.  Please read below..

Coyfee signing off…

 

Symbol of Unhealed Congo: Male Rape Victims

Jehad Nga for The New York Times

Clockwise from top left, Kazungu Ziwa, Shabani Lufuno, Ngabu Bita and Matata Badoda. All are Congolese men who were recently raped and agreed to be photographed. More Photos >

Published: August 4, 2009
GOMA, Congo — It was around 11 p.m. when armed men burst into Kazungu Ziwa’s hut, put a machete to his throat and yanked down his pants. Mr. Ziwa is a tiny man, about four feet, six inches tall. He tried to fight back, but said he was quickly beaten down.

Skip to next paragraph

Jehad Nga for The New York Times

A camp for internally displaced people in Rutshuru. More than 500,000 Congolese have been driven from their homes. More Photos »

The New York Times

For years, eastern Congo has been a reservoir of atrocities. More Photos >

“Then they raped me,” he said. “It was horrible, physically. I was dizzy. My thoughts just left me.”

For years, the thickly forested hills and clear, deep lakes of eastern Congo have been a reservoir of atrocities. Now, it seems, there is another growing problem: men raping men.

According to Oxfam, Human Rights Watch, United Nations officials and several Congolese aid organizations, the number of men who have been raped has risen sharply in recent months, a consequence of joint Congo-Rwanda military operations against rebels that have uncapped an appalling level of violence against civilians.

Aid workers struggle to explain the sudden spike in male rape cases. The best answer, they say, is that the sexual violence against men is yet another way for armed groups to humiliate and demoralize Congolese communities into submission.

The United Nations already considers eastern Congo the rape capital of the world, and Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton is expected to hear from survivors on her visit to the country next week. Hundreds of thousands of women have been sexually assaulted by the various warring militias haunting these hills, and right now this area is going through one of its bloodiest periods in years.

The joint military operations that began in January between Rwanda and Congo, David and Goliath neighbors who were recently bitter enemies, were supposed to end the murderous rebel problem along the border and usher in a new epoch of cooperation and peace. Hopes soared after the quick capture of a renegade general who had routed government troops and threatened to march across the country.

But aid organizations say that the military maneuvers have provoked horrific revenge attacks, with more than 500,000 people driven from their homes, dozens of villages burned and hundreds of villagers massacred, including toddlers thrown into open fires.

And it is not just the rebels being blamed. According to human rights groups, soldiers from the Congolese Army are executing civilians, raping women and conscripting villagers to lug their food, ammunition and gear into the jungle. It is often a death march through one of Africa’s lushest, most stunning tropical landscapes, which has also been the scene of a devastatingly complicated war for more than a decade.

“From a humanitarian and human rights perspective, the joint operations are disastrous,” said Anneke Van Woudenberg, a researcher for Human Rights Watch.

The male rape cases span several hundred miles and possibly include hundreds of victims. The American Bar Association, which runs a sexual violence legal clinic in Goma, said that more than 10 percent of its cases in June were men.

Brandi Walker, an aid worker at Panzi hospital in nearby Bukavu, said, “Everywhere we go, people say men are getting raped, too.”

But nobody knows the exact number. Men here, like anywhere, are reluctant to come forward. Several who did said they instantly became castaways in their villages, lonely, ridiculed figures, derisively referred to as “bush wives.”

Since being raped several weeks ago, Mr. Ziwa, 53, has not shown much interest in practicing animal medicine, his trade for years. He limps around (his left leg was crushed in the attack) in a soiled white lab coat with “veterinaire” printed on it in red pen, carrying a few biscuit-size pills for dogs and sheep.

“Just thinking about what happened to me makes me tired,” he said.

The same is true for Tupapo Mukuli, who said he was pinned down on his stomach and gang-raped in his cassava patch seven months ago. Mr. Mukuli is now the lone man in the rape ward at Panzi hospital, which is filled with hundreds of women recovering from rape-related injuries. Many knit clothes and weave baskets to make a little money while their bodies heal.

But Mr. Mukuli is left out.

“I don’t know how to make baskets,” he said. So he spends his days sitting on a bench, by himself.

The male rape cases are still just a fraction of those against women. But for the men involved, aid workers say, it is even harder to bounce back.

“Men’s identity is so connected to power and control,” Ms. Walker said.

And in a place where homosexuality is so taboo, the rapes carry an extra dose of shame.

“I’m laughed at,” Mr. Mukuli said. “The people in my village say: ‘You’re no longer a man. Those men in the bush made you their wife.’ ”

Aid workers here say the humiliation is often so severe that male rape victims come forward only if they have urgent health problems, like stomach swelling or continuous bleeding. Sometimes even that is not enough. Ms. Van Woudenberg said that two men whose penises were cinched with rope died a few days later because they were too embarrassed to seek help. Castrations also seem to be increasing, with more butchered men showing up at major hospitals.

Last year, Congo’s rape epidemic appeared to be easing a bit, with fewer cases reported and some rapists jailed. But today, it seems like that thin veneer of law and order has been stripped away. The way villagers describe it, it is open season on civilians.

Muhindo Mwamurabagiro, a tall, graceful woman with long, strong arms, explained how she was walking to the market with friends when they were suddenly surrounded by a group of naked men.

“They grabbed us by the throat and threw us down and raped us,” she said.

Worse, she said, one of the rapists was from her village.

“I yelled, ‘Father of Kondo, I know you, how can you do this?’ ”

One mother said a United Nations peacekeeper raped her 12-year-old boy. A United Nations spokesman said that he had not heard that specific case but that there were indeed a number of new sexual abuse allegations against peacekeepers in Congo and that a team was sent in late July to investigate.

Congolese health professionals are becoming exasperated. Many argue for a political solution, not a military one, and say Western powers should put more pressure on Rwanda, which is widely accused of preserving its own stability by keeping the violence on the other side of the border.

“I understand the world feels guilty about what happened in Rwanda in 1994,” said Denis Mukwege, the lead doctor at Panzi Hospital, referring to Rwanda’s genocide. “But shouldn’t the world feel guilty about what’s happening in Congo today?”

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point View: What is True Love?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Dating and the Single Woman, expressing her support for the troops as they prepared to invade Iraq, Forgiveness, Spiritual healing, Uncategorized, What is True Love?, women talk on August 8, 2009 at 11:38 am

Hi Guys and Gals..

I have been pondering the same thing.  This peace submitted by one of my close friends is an interesting topic. LOVE..I must be honest and share that I think I have been chasing it all of my adult life. LOVE..someone to hold me when I am scare..someone to caress me when I am lonely..someone to assure me that all will be well when I am uncertain..someone to be amazed by every inch of me..adoring the very dimples on even my thighs..(I am a big girl) smile..

I have hoped that one day a man will enter my life and be the missing link but until then I live..to the fullest..not down trotten..not angry..not forgetting to every breath as a gift from God. I will live everyday to the absolute fullest..if that MAN never arrives..I will have lived everyday to the absolute extreme..AND Love should it tarry will be a welcome guess in my home…

For now the LOVE of GOD is usual and eternal. He never stops loving us even when we forget that He is there..

Coyfee signing off…

What is True Love?

Posted on August 6, 2009 by theoraclemag

love canvasWhat we could use in the world today more then anything else is love. True love, real love. If mankind had authentic love for one another, war, world hunger, homelessness, abuse, crime and so on would all come to an end. Love begins and ends with GOD. He is the author. It was created by him and out of his nature. When we, as Christians were filled with the Holy Spirit, he gave us the spirit of love as a gift. It is his desire that we share this gift with all that we come in contact with. We are most like GOD when we show love. In truth The Bible records the greatest love story ever written, GOD’s unconditional love for his that sent his “Sun” to die on the cross (John 3:16; 1 John 4:10).

Love is more then attribute of GOD. It is in fact apart of his nature (Dueut. 7:7-8). According to the Bible “GOD is love,” that is he is the personification of love (1 Jn 4:8, 16). This type of love out reaches human understanding (Eph. 3:19). The love of GOD is everlasting (Jer. 31:3), free (Hos. 14:4) sacrificial (Jn 3:16), and enduring to the end (Jn 13:1).

In GOD’s Word there are two different Greek words that mean “to love.” The word phileo means “to have ardent affection and feeling,” a brotherly love. This is why Phillidphia is known as “the city of brotherly love.” The word “agapao” means “to have esteem or high regard”

GOD blessed Each of us with spiritual gifts. Shamefully many of us use these gifts to glorify ourselves. According to 1 Corinthians 13:2 this has nothing to do with love. But then in verse 3 of the same chapter Paul teaches that giving with out true love is pointless. If we give to feed our pride, we are giving in vain!

Remember we said “GOD is love” and love is his nature. 1 Cor. 13: 4-7 list the Characteristics of love which so happen to be the characteristics of GOD. Love “is patient,” meaning it suffers long with people.; no matter the evil and the injury done by a person; no matter the neglect from a loved one, without anger. Love “is kind,” meaning it is good, helpful and giving. It does not hurt. Love does not envy; it does not get Jealous. Love does not boast; does not brag or seek honor or recognition. Love is not proud or arrogant and conceited. It’s not about thinking your better then others. Love is not rude. It is full of order and control. It does not shame itself. Love is not self seeking, meaning its not selfish. It seeks to serve. Love is not easily angered, not ready to take offense. Not “touchy.” Love keeps no record of wrongs, does not consider the wrong suffered. It suffers the evil done to it and forgets it Love does not delight in evil or take pleasure of the sin of others Love rejoices when the truth is rooted and grounded in a person and among all people. Love Protects and bears all things. The Word protects or bears means both to cover all things and to bear up under all things. Love always trusts. It is completely trusting. It accepts and believes the very best about a person Love always hopes; it never stops hoping. It expects the good to eventfully triumph. Love always preserves. The word preserves is a military word meaning to stand against the attack of an enemy. Love is strong and full of fight.

But are you full of Love?

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Sista-2-Sista Discussion: Is There Anything Wrong With Being a Stripper?

In A Man's Point Of View, Entertainment, Is There Anything Wrong With Being a Stripper?, Uncategorized, women talk on August 6, 2009 at 1:55 pm

Well folks, here’s the discussion for the week. What’s your opinion on the below topic? Talk2Me…

Coyfee signing off….

OPINION: Is There Anything Wrong With Being a Stripper?

By RK Byers August 5, 2009 4:24 pm

a530599a4fe7abc81fdc1d0f41c54882

 

So I’m reading Memoirs of a Geisha and all of a sudden I start thinking, “Gee, if it wasn’t for the tea ceremonies, these chicks would all be…”

I mean, Geishas auction off their virginity to the highest bidder and their main goal is to become the kept woman or mistress of a wealthy danna-or male benefactor. And yet, Geishas are treated with the utmost respect (or so I’ve read) in Japan and they definitely get big props here in the United States.

So, like I said, I started thinking. I wondered what would be the equivalent of a Geisha here in America. Bypassing the obvious, I settled on “stripper”.

Now, I’ve noticed that the reaction on the mentioning of strippers varies from race to race. If you mention strippers around white people, there’s almost always a giddy excitement among the men and a borderline envy of the physical requirements among the women. But if you mention strippers around Black people, the reaction swings between the extremes of lurid enthusiasm and outright contempt-among both sexes.

I wonder why that is.

Chris Rock is one of the top two or three comedians of all-time and when he joked that his sole responsibility as the father of a daughter was to “keep her off the pole” there was so much I KNOW that’s right! laughter going on in the place that you would have sworn that the pole was the worst thing that could happen to a young woman. It was like “crackhead”, “convict” and “ho on a stroll” had never even occurred to the audience as alternatives.

And props to the young Black stripper that came up with the excuse (or explanation) that she was only stripping to pay for school-being in school is to most older Black people more important than the results of schooling. This suggestion had the same paradoxical effect on the Black psyche as the idea of a “holy war”.

Personally, I never liked strip clubs that much because the thought of going to one always struck me as being similar to starving and going to a restaurant with pockets full of cash, then paying just to smell the food.

But I could be wrong. What do you think?

 TAGS:

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Fairy-Tale: Gulf War penpals get married after Facebook encounter 19 years later

In 13-year-old Jaime Benefit wrote a letter addressed to "Any Soldier" during the Persian Gulf War, A Man's Point Of View, Dating and the Single Woman, expressing her support for the troops as they prepared to invade Iraq, Nearly two decades ago, Uncategorized, women talk on August 6, 2009 at 12:33 pm

Ladies, miracles still happen. Read below..I thought some joy was needed in light of all the violence we see in today’s society.  Kinda makes me still hope a little for Mr. Right..or Mr. Wrong with a change of heart..smile…

Coyfee signing off…

 

Gulf War penpals get married after Facebook encounter 19 years later

BY Stephanie Gaskell
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER

Tuesday, August 4th 2009, 12:42 PM

Jaime Benefit and Jeremy Clayton met as pen pals during the 1991 Persian Gulf War. 

They reconnected this year over Facebook and were married July 15 on the beach in Charleston, S.C. They reconnected this year over Facebook and were married July 15 on the beach in Charleston, S.C.

 

It started with a letter – and ended in a wedding.

Nearly two decades ago, 13-year-old Jaime Benefit wrote a letter addressed to “Any Soldier” during the Persian Gulf War, expressing her support for the troops as they prepared to invade Iraq.

The letter made its way to Pfc. Jeremy Clayton, a 19-year-old soldier from Charleston, S.C., who was serving with the 3rd Armored Cavalry Regiment.

The two became pen pals, writing back and forth about sports, high school and their families.

“Just stuff to keep their minds off of what was going on and keep their spirits up,” said Benefit, 32.

After the war ended, the two stopped writing, but Benefit always wondered what happened to Clayton.

“I’d always kept his letters,” she said. “I had them wrapped in a red-white-and-blue ribbon.”

Earlier this year, she searched his name on Facebook and sent him a short note: “Were you in Desert Storm?”

Clayton, 38, now out of the Army, saw the message and had one reaction: “Shock and awe.”

“I just knew I had to find out what she was doing,” he recalled.

The two agreed to meet in March, and their fate was sealed.

“It took my breath,” Clayton said of seeing his one-time pen pal in the flesh. “I was actually shaking and I’m a pretty strong man. I just said to myself, ‘You have to do whatever you can to make sure you spend the rest of your life with this woman.'”

Clayton proposed not long after, and the two got married July 15 in a simple ceremony on the beach in Charleston.

“It was fate that I got her letter,” he said. “And her finding me 19 years later was fate.”

The Internet may have brought the newlyweds together, but they still rely on good old pen and paper to keep their bond strong.

“She writes me notes every morning and puts them in my lunch,” he said.

sgaskell@nydailynews.com

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Strange and Unusual:Man Gets Penis Stuck

In A Man's Point Of View, Man Gets Penis Stuck on August 5, 2009 at 9:37 am

Okay Ladies, it’s okay to laugh..some men will do anything to please their lady..read below..

Coyfee signing off…

 

Man Gets Nut Stuck Around Penis

So last month we broke the story about how one lonely, Viagra induced, Hong Kong resident almost lost his penis trying to make love to a metal bench.

steel nut Man Gets Nut Stuck Around Penis pictureIt would appear the news did not reach one poor Malaysian man, who in an effort to increase his size, put a heavy welding nut on his penis and then accidentally got an erection which almost lead to him losing his penis.

The unnamed welder in his 20’s was attempting to lengthen his penis before his engagement next week by placing a heavy welding nut on then end of his penis in hopes it would stretch him out and make him longer.

During the process he gave himself an erection which caused the nut to become stuck on his penis, forcing him to call for help.

Fire and Rescue arrived on the scene but where unable to assist the man and were forced to take him to the hospital.

nut disaster Man Gets Nut Stuck Around Penis picture

Sultanah Aminah hospital staff had to removed the top layer of his penis in order to get the welding nut off the poor guys penis.

Have to give it to this guy.. he had nuts of steel.

By Sun Tzu on 01-09-2008

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Ask The Black Man:Can A Woman Be In Love With Two Different Men?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Ask the black man, Polyamory - Open Relationships, Uncategorized, women talk on August 5, 2009 at 12:15 am

Greetings..

Here’s an age old topic, that’s sure to stir some discussion.  TBM was recently asked if “Can a woman Be In Love With Two Different Men?”. What do you think? I personally think it is possible and not just based on sexual attraction.  I think in life we as people need different things from different people but saying that mouthful. Should we(women) establish and maintain a relationship with two different men? Well please tell me how you feel about this topic..I thought it might lessen the week long blahs for those of us that continue to sadden by continued violence against our children.

This is Coyfee signing off…Now to the “Ask The Black Man”

Can A Woman Be In Love With Two Different Men?

Posted Aug 3

Dear Blackman,

Can a woman be in love with two different men? -LT

 The Blackman: Hi LT, That circumstance would be a rare one but I believe anything is possible in life. I feel that you can have love for two people but can only be in love with one person. It’s very important to have a clear distinction of your feelings, not only in love but in lust. For example, some people think that they may be in love with someone but it is only pure sexual attraction. When the sexual attraction wears off then they feel they are not “in love” with that person anymore. It was never love in the first place. In conversations that I’ve had with many women, I’ve found that in regards to relationships their emotions get very wrapped up in a person that they are involved with (as anyone’s emotions should), so I would see it being difficult to have those same emotions towards two people at the same time. I think you can be in love with someone and can be extremely compatible with someone else. One must be clear on their feelings and what being “in love” really is. I feel being in love with two men at the same time is a very rare occurrence. That’s my 99 Cents worth. TBM

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point Of View: Exploring The Concepts of Polyamory – Open Relationships

In A Man's Point Of View, Polyamory - Open Relationships, Uncategorized, women talk on August 4, 2009 at 10:35 am

Would you Consider an Open Marriage? What’s Your Opinion? Do you Think it’s Wrong? How do You feel?

Salutations!

I have new topics just bubbling around in my head to share with you. The one for today is: Would you consider an open marriage

I was reading a part of a bio from JujuMama.  I will read almost anything even if I don’t agree with it.  So as I read her bio..she shared her story about how she made peace with the idea of her husband’s choice and eventually hers.

An open marriage ..well the road to this new type of relationship seemed bumpy almost not possible but her husband was very persistent.  He had a soo much love that he wanted to share it with another as well with the promise that it would not take away from his love for her.  Check out her story ..it’s quite interesting..

So after reading that story I knew I had to find out what the men I knew felt about this subject. So I went deep undercover and began my research..One of my friends, we will call him ‘T’ for short.  T was not even open to his wife flirting with other mens. Calm down ladies I am not saying that I agree or disagree with him.  However, I was joking around with one of my male friends and so I thought he would be my test subject.  Of course he has no idea that he is..shhhhs – Don’t tell, okay. 

Is it wrong to share your husband/wife with a secondary partner? Well I was honestly shocked that a man (member of the male species) would not like the idea of having sex with multiple women in the open. He stated that it would not be good to live this lifestyle with his wife knowing and he definitely would agree to his wife having a secondary partner.  I had to know more so I push a little more.  I wanted to know why not? I mean most married men have cheated at least once on their wife.  He remarked that it wouldn’t be the same if she(his wife) knew.

Well that was shocking but when I asked what if your wife wanted to embrace the lifestyle?  Well that was a definite NO. NO. No…No. So ladies, if your going to marry a guy like this …You won’t be able to have two men for if that’s your flavor..

Now if you have a personality that you have hidden from your girlfriend/boyfriend or fiance.  Now’s the time to discuss it with your partner before you solidify the arrangement.  Most people have two personalities and some are hard to hide? Well it takes a long time to share all of yourself with anyone..

Tell me your opinions about this topic? Talk2Me..

This is Coyfee signing off…..