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ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Discussion on Sista-2-Sista

In Believer who falls into sin, Child abuse, Entertainment, Homeless Women, Sista-2-Sista discusses Females In the Pornography Industry, Uncategorized, Women making money in Porn Industry, women talk on August 3, 2009 at 10:24 am

Sista-2-Sista discusses Females In the Pornography Industry

Well folks here is our new discussion.  Females In the Porn industry: Right or Wrong?

Pornography is a word derived from the Latin Porne (prostitute) and graphos (depicting) and literally means a depiction of prostitutes or prostitution. The term is now used generically to describe any material that is sexually explicit and intended primarily for the purpose of sexual arousal.
We are already know that sex is one of the most talked about biblical sins. We know that in the biblical times men had multiple wives and partners known as concubines (mistresses). Now we also know that women who like to spread the love around are considered whores (word in the bible) don’t freak out. We know that some women in the biblical times aswell as now were and are treated like the we are at the bottom of the food chain. So now that we have discussed all of that:
What is your honest opinion of porn and women? Do you believe if watched with wife or husband is it spiritually wrong?
Do you watch porn? Would you watch if your husband or wife asked you?
One of my friends told me that there is not a man alive that doesn’t watch porn..I believe him
Do you know of one..I don’t need his name of course but I would like to know how guys really feel?
Please do not be religious. I know pastors that watch porn and I can only say Confession and Repentance..thank God for his son Jesus and His Shed blood for all of our sins..
I want to understand why if a man is married, why is porn necessary? Humor me guys(males) tell me why is porn necessary?
Would you married and have children with an ex-porn star? We understand that once we confess our sins ..God forgives us ..that is a memory note to all of the religious are righteous and have fallen short of the glory..another note for the religous folk..
I am interested to know how many men would marry a woman that is wildly view because of her performaces in this industry. I know alot of men that want their wives to fulfill their fantasy about things that they have seen in a movie or heard their friends talk about. Ladies tell me how would you feel if your husband was persistent with you to do things that you are not comfortable with. Possibly things he saw in a Xrated movie. How would you feel?
Coyfee signing off…
Women in Porn
One author’s opinion

There are many reasons why a woman may enter the porn industry. To find out these reasons we must go right to the source. Why not ask a famous woman porn star why she does it. Ask why she would want to make a living out of having sex. Many female porn stars have said that they are in the industry because of the money. Porn is a billion dollar industry as money is made through the selling of pornography magazines and movies. Plus the internet is a huge money maker for the porn industry. There are thousands of websites that offer pornographic videos, pictures and even stream live web-cams. Depending on what you wish to see you can watch live footage of people having sex or engaging in other sexual acts. There is also a big market in the phone sex industry. Porn is literally everywhere.
A woman can make a lot of money in the porn industry. Some female porn stars have become so popular that they live in Hollywood mansions. It is easier to make thousands of dollars having sex then it is to work at a fast-food restaurant. A woman in the porn industry has to work less and makes more money in a shorter amount of time. The earning potential is incredible for a woman in this industry.


Some women say that they choose the porn industry because they enjoy having sex. They feel that they are good at sex and this is how they want to earn a living. Many female porn stars are not afraid to brag about their in-bed habits. Some female porn stars have even written books such as the popular “How to Have Sex Like a Porn Star.” There are so many different markets that a porn star can tap into. Female porn stars have their own accessory lines, lingerie lines and much more. Not all of the reasons for a woman to enter the porn industry are positive.

Some women enter the porn industry for negative reasons. Some of the women have been sexually abused or molested and then is how they deal with that pain. Other women choose the porn industry to pay for drug habits or because they feel they can not make money any other way. Some women who have been teenage runaways have entered the porn industry because it allows them to get off the streets. Other women suffer from low self esteem and working in porn makes them feel sexy. There are as many negative reasons as positive reasons on why a woman may enter the porn industry.

While some people look down on and frown at women working in the porn industry we must realize that it is their choice. Some women who are struggling to become models or actresses will do porn films so they are not forced to live on the streets. The biggest reason for women in porn is the money. Several female porn stars have made millions of dollars in the porn industry. The porn industry can be a stepping stone to other things in life. We all start somewhere and the porn industry is where some women choose and want to be.


Another thing, most women who “enjoy” lots of sex or like being in movies, were usually molested as a kid. Lots are girls have been subjected to molestation once in their lives. It affects them for the rest of their lives. Depending on the abuse, it can cause women to head into distructive livestyles like porn. You can say, “Some women have made lots of money doing porn.” So what? Drug dealers make a lot of money. Is that something to look up to or want to become? I could probably make a lot of money doing porn, but I don’t want to do something that disgusting just to make money. Porn is shameful. It will always be, even if more and more are engaging in it in their private lives. It’s still a taboo.

Fred / June 16th, 2007, 2:40 am / # 

I am pretty pettie, smart 19 year old female that does watch porn now and then on my dyas of work at a deacent respectable job. By seeing me, no one would guess that I stay up until 2 in the morning watching raunchy sleezy porn in order to satisfy my sexual needs. Why? Bc lets face it. Porn is enyoyable to watch however afterwords it leaves you feeling dirty and like a perve. I started viewing soon after I purchased my laptop and I vowed not to do it again since it gave me an uneasy,sticky, sick fealing to venture in to something that corrupts minds. and I guess in a way that is what it did to me. Porn is like a drug that lives and thrives in ones mind. It can have long term side effects like turning bi. I watch i it for hours at time and I HATE IT. I want to stop but I am embarrased to even tell my boy friend who Im supposed to move in with. I enjy waching porn somethimes more than having sex with him and I know that that is not how its supposed to be. PORN CORRUPTS MINDS AND SOULS AND i WANT TO STOP SO I AM REALY GOING TO PRAY THAT THIS STOPS.

anonymouse / December 18th, 2008, 3:26 am / #


anonymouse / December 18th, 2008, 3:35 am / #

Another author’s opinion

The negative portrayal of women and sex by the porn industry is an alarming problem for society as a whole – especially since this problem has the backing of a multi-billion dollar industry that is funded by millions of people everyday.

The porn industry can be down right disrespectful of women in their descriptions and portrayals, with violent and derogatory terms often being used to indicate the rough nature of how the women appearing in the films are used and abused. Women are seen as sexual objects to be used for the physical pleasures and perversions of men. No matter how brutal or invasive the act may be, women are also shown as enjoying it immensely – and in fact desiring the same things. Women are perceived in such a way that they would like nothing more than to have sex with any man with a pick up line and some easily removable pants, but contrary to what some men may allow themselves to believe, this is not the case. There is nothing wrong with seeing a female as a beautiful and sexual being, but that is not all that they are – and most desire much more than sexual gratification (especially if its in weird and unflattering ways).

The main problem with this portrayal is that many porn users are exposed to porn at a young age, which may lead to an early lack of respect for females and for sex itself. This in turn can breed a society in which not only is it the norm for men to see women as sexual objects, but young girls may be conditioned into believing that this is normal.

We live in a society where sexual values and ethics are fading, as young men are all too willing to have sex with the first willing female they can find and young women do not value themselves and the act of sex enough to wait for the right time and partner. The sexual antics with no personal connection shown in porn movies can be seen as a contributing factor to the promotion of promiscuity and casual sex. Sex itself is not the problem here – it is the way in which it is used and portrayed by the pornographic industry.

Any act seen in a porn movie can be considered to be acceptable, as long as it is done with genuine love and consent by all those concerned (which is unlikely, especially in terms of group sex or any form of humiliation), and not for economic gain where it is used as a tool of trade. Sex is not a commodity to be filmed and sold and no matter what they are being paid, the “stars” of these films are going very cheaply. As with many multi million dollar industries, ignorance is indeed bliss, as the women who act in these films are treated like the objects that they convey.

If you watch a pornographic film, how do you know when you are watching an abused or psychologically damaged women “performing” or not? Perhaps you are funding the drug addiction of abused and humiliated women who are selling their dignity and respect for their next hit? The porn industry is rife with these kinds of stories, and many worse – so if you’re not sure where your money or attention is going, why fund or use any of it? There is genuine sexual fulfillment to be found in the real world, in real relationships – where there are no cameras, money and profit margins involved.


ConversationswitCoyfee presents Finding Hope: A Homeless Community Under A Bridge

In Homeless Women, Living without Money, PROVIDENCE, R.I.'s Homeless community underneath a bridge, Uncategorized, women talk on July 31, 2009 at 2:32 pm

This story seems like the fate of many Americans. When both partners loose their jobs and they extend their savings a shelter maybe the next downward step.  I have wondered why the utilities are aloud to rise. Why is the cost of gas allowed to rise? Food to rise in cost? Tuition to rise? Basically everything has been allowed to rise in cost and price accept aid to families. The below community is organized and has a written code of conduct. Should the government recognize communities like this one? Should these communities get stimulus money to help its members get back on their feet? Talk2Me..tell me how you feel

Coyfee signing off….


Finding Shelter and Community Under a Bridge

Published: July 30, 2009

Timothy Webb, 49, left, and Bruce, 59, live in a tent city, dubbed Camp Runamuck in Providence under an overpass stretch of Route 195 that is scheduled for demolition. More Photos >

Nicole Bengiveno/The New York Times

Stephanie Proulx, 19, above, washing her hair near the camp’s bathroom. Residents of the tent city, who obey a written compact and vote on issues concerning them, share tasks and usually gather for supper at 6 p.m. More Photos »

The chief emerges from his tent to face the leaden morning light. It had been a rare, rough night in his homeless Brigadoon: a boozy brawl, the wielding of a knife taped to a stick. But the community handled it, he says with pride, his day’s first cigar already aglow.

By community he means 80 or so people living in tents on a spit of state land beside the dusky Providence River: Camp Runamuck, no certain address, downtown Providence.

Because the two men in the fight had violated the community’s written compact, they were escorted off the camp, away from the protection of an abandoned overpass. One was told we’ll discuss this in the morning; the other was voted off the island, his knife tossed into the river, his tent taken down.

The chief flicks his spent cigar into that same river. There is talk of rain tonight.

Behind him, the camp stirs. Other tent cities have sprung up recently around the country, but Rhode Island officials have never seen anything like this. A tea kettle sings.

A heavily pierced young person walks by without picking up an empty plastic bottle, flouting the camp compact that says everyone will share in the labor. The compact may be as impermanent as this sudden community by the river, but for now it is binding. The chief speaks, the bottle is picked up.

The chief, John Freitas, is 55, with a gray beard touched by tobacco rust. He did prison time decades ago, worked for years as a factory supervisor, then became homeless for all the familiar, complicated reasons.

Layoffs, health problems, a slip from apartment to motel room. His girlfriend, Barbara Kalil, 50, lost her job as a nursing-home nurse, and another slip, into the shelter system. A job holding store-liquidation signs beside the highway allowed for a climb back to a motel, but it didn’t last.

Weary of shelters, the couple pitched a pup tent in Roger Williams Park, close to a plaque bearing words Williams had used to describe this place he founded: “A Shelter for Persons in Distress.” But someone complained, so Mr. Freitas set off again in search of shelter. The March winds blew.

Down South Main Street he went, past the majestic court building and the upscale seafood restaurant, over a guardrail to a gravelly plot beneath a ramp that once guided cars toward Cape Cod. Foul-smelling and partially hidden, a place of birds and rodents, it was perfect.

He and Ms. Kalil set up camp with another couple in early April. Word of it spread from the shelters to Kennedy Plaza downtown, where homeless people share the same empty Tim Hortons cup to pose as customers worthy of visiting that doughnut chain’s restroom. The camp became 10 people, then 15, then 25. No children allowed.

“I was always considered the leader, the chief,” Mr. Freitas says. “I was the one consulted about ‘Where should I put my tent?’ ”

By late June the camp had about 50 people. But someone questioned the role of Mr. Freitas as chief, so he stepped down. Arguments broke out. Food was stolen.

“There was no center holding,” recalls Rachell Shaw, 22, who lives with her boyfriend in a tidy tent decorated with porcelain dolls. “So everybody voted him back in.”

The community also established a five-member leadership council and a compact that read in part: “No one person shall be greater than the will of the whole.”

It is now late afternoon in late July, a month after nearly everyone signed that compact. The community remains intact, though the very ground they walk on says nothing is forever. Here and there are the exposed foundations of fish shacks that lined the river long ago.

Some state officials recently stopped by to say, nicely but firmly, that everyone would soon have to leave. The overpass poses the threat of falling concrete, and is scheduled for demolition. The officials have shared the same message with a smaller encampment across the river.

For now, a game of horseshoes sends echoing clanks, as outreach workers conduct interviews and raindrops thrum the tent tops. The chief lights another cigar and walks the length of the camp to tell residents to batten down, explaining its structure as he goes.

Here at the end, nearest the road, are the tents of young single people and substance abusers; this way, rescue vehicles won’t disrupt the entire compound.

Here in the center are a cluster of couples, including two competing for the nicest property, with homey touches like planted flowers. Here too are the food table, the coolers, the piles of donated clothes — what can’t be used will be taken by camp residents to the Salvation Army — and the large tent of the chief. Plastic pink flamingos stand guard.

Farther on, the recycled-can area (the money is used for ice and propane); the area for garbage bags that will be discreetly dropped in nearby Dumpsters at night; and, behind a blue tarp hung from the overpass, a plastic toilet. The chief says the shared task of removing the bags of waste tends to test the compact.

Finally, near some rocks where men go to urinate, live a gay couple and some people who drink hard. Timothy Webb, 49, who says he used to own a salon in Cranston called Class Act, cuts people’s hair here. Then, at night, he and his partner, Norman Trank, 45, sit at a riverside table, a battery-operated candle giving light, the moving waters suggesting mystery.

“It’s what you make of it,” Mr. Trank says.

Dark clouds have brought night early to Providence. Heavy drops thump against tarp. Water drips from the overpass, onto the long table of food.

In the last couple of hours the chief has resolved a conflict about tarp distribution, hugged a pregnant woman who mistakenly thought she had been kicked off the island, conferred with outreach workers and helped with dinner preparations. He is also thinking about tomorrow.

Tomorrow, an advance party for the chief will leave to claim another spot across the river that turns out not to be on public property. Many in the camp will decide it’s time to move on anyway, to a spot under a bridge in East Providence. Camp Runamuck will begin its recession from sight and memory.

At least tonight there is a communal dinner: donated chicken, parboiled and grilled; donated corn on the cob; donated potatoes. People line up with paper plates.

The rain falls harder, pocking the river’s gray surface, surrounding the dark camp with a sound like fingers drumming in impatience. The chief hears it, but what can he do? He finishes his dinner and lights another cigar.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Poverty and The Single Mother

In Black Church, Forgiveness, Homeless Women, women talk on July 11, 2009 at 10:02 am


Poverty and The Single Mother

This essay is a brief of a story that I read in college. I must be honest and share that I am at lost on the author but the feelings reflected thru the writings are truly life altering…please read and reflex..lastly repositon your own thoughts,prejudices, and fears about the subject of homelessness… Coyfee from ConversationswitCoyfee

The thought of poverty woke up fears inside of me that I have harbored for years. The fear that as a single parent myself and my children might end up homeless. I have cried many nights when there seemed like the life she describes so vividly, would be a reality for us, again. Watching a homeless person while she brought me into her world. I could smell the stink she she mentioned. I could see the decay on her teeth. I could feel the shame as her hope crawled out the window leaving her desperate and in deep despair. Please my friends as we watch our president make his way to other countries that have starving and homeless mothers everywhere,please do not turn a blind eye to the ones in your very own cities, your neighborhoods, the subway or train stations, the bus stations, the resturants..Please I plead with you..lay the judgement and prejudice down..pick up the commandment to love thy neighbor as thyself.

 Can you see her skin aging prematurely because of the constant emotional pain. I do not want to imagine the valley of decision she had to live in. She never slept because she had to always stay awake to fight the roaches away from her kids. Can you imagine having to give your children sour milk because the refrigerator does not work? Could you imagine the smell of urine on the mattress where you have to sleep and without any sheets on it. I believed she was pleading with us to look at those afflicted with poverty thru an angry heart, anger that will help you help her and others like her. She reminds us that the poor are always silent.

She begs us not to be silent any longer. She is pleading with us to bring attention to this peculiar institution of poverty, not to allow the world to turn a blind eye to those who are silent.   The purpose of this writing is to bring national attention to the injustice of poverty. I believe does an excellent job of inviting you into her world. She is so descriptive about the smells of urine and sour milk, that you have to smell the stink. Her world is one of dread and pain. Her world is desperate and has little hope for change. This story made me realize that no matter how hard it seems it is not as hard as her life was. I am still blessed and my children are fortunate to have a home with clean linen. They are blessed to have hot meals and clean clothing. We must focus on irradiating poverty, this should be one of the many issues before the state legislators. Our government needs to address this peculiar institution, the institution of poverty. If we will ensure success in our country and improvement in our economy we must address the poverty.

My friends as I think about our role in society, in our neighborhoods, in our entertainment venues, in our places of work and lastly in our places of fellowship; why are their families still homeless? Why are single mothers still having to decide to work or take care of their children. We have saw several cases where young mothers must leave their children home alone to go to work. If they do not work, they do not eat. Why? I desire to stir up your spirit and possibly push you off of yuor comfortable chairs and into a place I call “do something”. What should do? I am so glad you asked. There hundreds of agencies that need volunteers. I am certain that some of neighbors could use extra pampers or maybe milk. Food. Clothing. I do encourage donations but often the red tape between the agency and the family is far to lengthy.  Just give a little something..just a lit..I promise you will feel better the moment you do..

Can I share with you that myself and my children were in a shelter for about three to five months. It was embarassing, shameful, and really difficult. My now ex husband had become abusive and he had choked me in front of my children. I will be somewhat opague about the happenings that drove my family and myself to a shelter. I believe that we as people often pre-judge a person by what we see. So now understand when people found out that we lived in a shelter; they of course thought maybe I was on drugs, or alcohol. Maybe I wouldn’t pay my bills or I was just a lazy mother that sat around and waited on the government to take care of me. Maybe I had decided to get pregnant to keep getting more money from the government. None of that was true. My job at a fortune 500 company had ended and my children and myself were living off my unemployment. Their dad would not pay the support that had been ordered. I must share with you that it is dreadly challenging to go from $1400 dollars every two weeks to $1000. Please keep in mind that when we were married we accumulated quite a bit of debit that was left for me to deal with. I think should also include the fact that I am the proud but single mother of five amazing teenagers, age 18.5 to 12.5.

The shelter was crowded. There were two families to each room. I did make friends and created some lifelong friendships but the fact remains that when we listed the shelter as our address we were looked at differently. Landlords would not rent to us easily. Agencies gave us the damaged donations and were quite hurtful in counseling sessions. This was one of the most painful experiences that we (my family) has had to walk thru. I only share this in hopes that the next time you see a mother and her child(ren) you will allow the Spirit of God to usher in a sense of compassion and not judgement.

Lastly wanted to share this cartoon, though not completely about women and children. I believe it is a clear reflection of America …

Talk2Me>>>Tell me how this story possibly changed your opinion of homelessness? If not tell me why you believe it didn’t?

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