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ConversationswitCoyfee presents Honor A Black Man Day..

In Uncategorized on September 12, 2009 at 11:44 pm
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          BlackMan-A Poem for You!
   
 
The truth of the matter is
There is nothing more beautiful
Than a black man

Whether five-two or six-seven,
Yellow fabulous or chocolate heaven
There is nothing more beautiful
Than a black man

Long and lean
With deep brown eyes
Wavyhairordreds
With strong thick thighs
There is nothing more beautiful
Than a black man

Bald head with goatee
Cornrowsorafade
A little thick, a little thin
Oh the choices to be made
There is nothing more beautiful
Than a black man

Scholarly or not
Wall Street or hip hop
I’ll sing your praises
To the mountain top
Head of the home
Provider and love
Obedientsonand loving brother
There’s nothing more beautiful
Than a black man

A mighty provider you’ve proven to be
Sacrificing your life to keep me free
Working for crumbs
When the table is bare
Praising the Lord
Leading the family in prayer
There is nothing more beautiful
Than a black man

Holding my hand
When fear emerges
Remaining faithful,

Suppressing your urges
Proving your strength
By turning the other cheek
Having high hopes
When the situation is bleak
There is nothing more beautiful
Than a black man

Treating me like the queen
I was born to be
Never disrespecting, dishonoring,

Or disgracing me
Giving me credit when it is due
Oh, black man, how I honor you

There is nothing more beautiful…
Than a black man!

 

Good moring folks! Today is Honor your black man Day..Making him feel like a king today..Love him so deep that he forgets that the economy is bleak….lol..

The below poem was posted on my tag site..I am not sure who wrote it..but I really liked it and decided to share it with all of you..If you know who wrote it leave it for me..would to offer accolades ..as they are truly due.

This is Coyfee signing off…visit often..comment please..tell me what you like,..

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Oklahoma Pastor Slain

In Oklahoma Pastor Slain, Uncategorized, Violence Against Women, women talk on September 2, 2009 at 11:25 am

Pastor Killed

Oklahoma Pastor Slain In “Horrific” Scene By Associated Press August 26, 2009 8:13 am The scene inside a small Pentecostal churchwhere a pastor was slain was “horrific,” an Oklahoma district attorneysaid Tuesday, calling it the most brutal he has seen in nearly 20 years as a prosecutor. Police have released scant information about the killing of 61-year-old Carol Daniels, whose body was found Sunday inside the Christ Holy Sanctified Church, a weather-beaten building on a rundown block near downtown Anadarko. A preliminary autopsy deemed Daniels’ death a homicide caused by “multiple sharp force injuries,” said Cherokee Ballard, spokeswoman for the state Medical Examiner’s office. She declined to discuss further details. “I’ve prosecuted over 50 murders,” District Attorney Bret Burns said. “This is the most horrific crime scene I’ve ever witnessed.” He declined to elaborate, saying he did not want to jeopardize the investigation. With little official word on the grisly killing, rumors in the town were swirling as people wondered what motivated the crime and who was responsible. Burns has called for a meeting of local pastors on Wednesday. State Bureau of Investigation spokeswoman Jessica Brown also would not say anything about the time of Daniels’ death, a possible motive or what evidence was collected at the scene. Authorities do not have any suspects, she said, and were offering a $10,000 reward for information leading to an arrest and conviction. “Right now we have more questions than answers,” Brown said. “The few answers we do have, we want to hold on to. That might help us in the long run.” Daniels made the 60-mile trek from Oklahoma City every week to preach, even though the church had no regular congregation. Ezra Randle, Oklahoma overseer for the Christ Holy Sanctified Church, said Daniels had been traveling to Anadarko for four or five years and 85 percent of the time, she made the trip alone. “I tried to ask her why she kept doing it and she would say until God releases me, I will go down there,” said Randle, pastor of Grace Temple Christ Holy Sanctified Church in Elk City. Icey Simmons, 85, a resident of the Silver Crest Nursing Center, said she would see Daniels nearly every weekend when Simmons would go to the church for Sunday service or when Daniels would drop by. “She and I would just go down there and pray by ourselves,” she said. “I can’t believe it. “She was just as sweet as she could be, never did anything to hurt nobody.” Pastor Steve Palczynsky of the Cedar Hill Church of God in Anadarko said lack of official word is disconcerting and that he’s taken extra steps to make sure his church is secure. “The first thing I thought about, being human, was that maybe it was a serial killer and maybe he has something out for preachers, but the Lord takes care of us,” he said. Tracy Schumpert, pastor of the town’s First United Methodist Church, said members of the local clergy will meet Wednesday with Burns to discuss the case. “It’s still very new, and we don’t know what to think,” she said. “Anything that happens like that, it’s a community concern.”

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Sista2Sista’s Discussion Of The Week:Do Black Men Like Their Women Larger?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Do Black Men Like Their Women Larger?, Uncategorized, women talk on August 30, 2009 at 5:02 am

This is Coyfee..I want to know what’s your opinion ..black men talk to me..

I must admit the world gives double imagines all the time, but what do the men say? Is thick In and Thin the has been Or is Thin in and Thick over way too quick..here is my body shot..sporting my African derriere.  I tried some of everything to get rid of it..now it seems like having what your momma gave you is in…You tell me..

 tammie body shot

Opinion: Do Black Men Like Their Women Larger?

 By Hello Beautiful August 27, 2009 4:52 pm (from thegrio.com)

 I posed this question on a social networking site recently. The aftermath was like watching people running from a burning building as if their hair were on fire. Most of the responses were of the “good luck with that” variety, as if the next move was to wait for a last minute pardon from the governor before the firing squad commenced to carry out the sentence.

 

The reason for some of my own hesitation in weighing in on a subject like this is obvious. Just as the black women come in a variety of hues and hair types, they also are a mix of skinny and voluptuous – the thin and the thick – not so easily or quickly defined. Nor can the dating or marrying preferences of African-American men be easily placed into a nice neat box.

 

 Poll a brother on the street and he might be just as likely to prefer a slim sister as one with, as they say, some junk in her trunk. Serena Williams: “My Thighs Are Too Big” Still, there’s no question that the average African-American woman is likely to adopt India.Arie’s credo that she just “ain’t built like a supermodel.” And if the biggest part of sexiness is self-confidence, then the black woman’s allure to the black man needs no explanation. The black woman exudes self-assuredness. Since her arrival here from Africa centuries ago, the black woman has been comfortable in her skin, content to live her life large, usually more literally than figuratively.

 In many cases, because the African-American woman bore the responsibility – often alone – for keeping her family intact, she had little time to take care of herself. Even if that lifestyle wasn’t – or nowadays, isn’t – a choice, we’re nonetheless seeing the effects in higher reported incidents of obesity and related complications, including diabetes and heart disease, within the black community. This week’s news that the American Heart Association added sugar, along with salt and cholesterol, to the list of things to watch out for will not go over well in many black kitchens. While there are legitimate health reasons for wondering if bigger is really better over the long term, those concerns haven’t kept many black women from straying from the ideal European-American body aesthetic that is widely portrayed in the media circles. You need only look at the way two of the world’s top female tennis players, Maria Sharapova and Serena Williams, are viewed to get a feel for the chasm of difference in how body beauty is perceived in the black and white communities. Sharapova, a Russian émigré and winner of three Grand Slam singles titles, is 6-foot-2, thin and blonde. Twice, she was the most searched for athlete in the world through Yahoo! and she is a favorite of the overwhelmingly white fanboy sports blogosphere. Williams is likewise tall, at 5ft 10″, but as author Marita Golden points out in her book, “Don’t Play in the Sun: One Woman’s Journey Through the Color Complex,” “Serena is compact, muscular [and] built for the game she dominates.”

 

“And,” continues Golden, “any discussion of Serena Williams has to begin with her backside, her black, her African, derriere. That’s my backside, that’s the backside of so many black women, and Serena ain’t trying to hide it, camouflage it or do anything but flaunt it.” Serena’s not alone, nor should she be. You won’t catch women like Tyra Banks or Oprah Winfrey or Queen Latifah squeezing into size 2 or 4 dresses. Yet their visibility and beauty are unquestioned. Indeed, I appreciate the fact that my wife not only isn’t built like a supermodel, but loves me, a man who not only has junk in the trunk, but groceries all over the car.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point Of View: Why Women Cheat

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Adulterous women, Ask the black man, Dating and the Single Woman, Uncategorized, What is True Love?, Why Women Cheat on August 30, 2009 at 4:20 am

Well folks what do you say? Do you agree with the writer? Why do women cheat? Is it that some women want their cake and to eat it too..

Let me know what you think?

Coyfee signing off

 

A Man’s Response To Why Women Cheat Posted Aug 18

So, I’m reading this article on the ‘Hello Beautiful’ site titled, 3 Reasons Why Women Cheat, and I have decided to give you women some advice based on what I have read:

 Feeling Lonely in a Relationship

Ok, realize that men sometimes go through this as well so it’s not gender based when it comes to feeling lonely. The expectations placed on a man while in a relationship should be discussed as opposed to being expected, ESPECIALLY if your man happens to be popular or very driven when it comes to his career or work. If you are feeling lonely, it is up to you to include him in other activities that he may not normally be involved in where you wouldn’t feel so lonely. Also, keep in mind that, just like women, guys like to hang out with the fellas every now and then, so if your expectations are greater than he is willing to give, then you may have to resort to the infamous female support group! Otherwise, occupy your time with your passion and goals so that way when the two of you DO get up, the time together will be cherished even more while both of you are trying to achieve personal goals and dreams!

 

Feeling Taken for Granted

 As stated above, men go through the motions when feeling like they are also taken for granted. But instead of focusing on the negative, focus on the positive and as with any relationship, whether work, play or friendship, this can be a task. But as with any task, there has to be common ground so that it can be completed to satisfaction! What most women tend to do is focus on their needs and themselves when having a conversation about ‘us’. You also need to be open to hearing and catering to his needs and wants as well so that way BOTH of you can be equally fulfilled! I hate to word it like this but, it has to be a mutually binding agreement so that way no one feels taken for granted, you give a little, I give a little and hopefully, we both benefit greatly!

 

You Are Leading Separate Lives

Well, as with anything in life, you grow, sometimes together, sometimes apart. It should be the focus of both partners to extend themselves to each other so that way both of you are still on the same page when it comes to a common bond which should be love. We can’t help who we are or who we become based on life experiences and what most women (and men!) don’t understand is that it is BECAUSE of you that he decides to take another direction in life, whether negative or positive. We should make each other stronger but at times, we tend to get weak out of being used to being with the one we are with, so we can and do get complacent. So, communication may be the most important tool in this situation so you can understand what the other is going through in order to want to stay in each others live! You can lead a separate, yet together life if both parties are getting what they want out of it, specifically on an emotional level. But you MUST discuss it with each other!

 

Revenge Can Be Bittersweet

This is definitely a hard thing for women and ESPECIALLY men! Since society accepts cheating men more than they accept cheating women, we, as men, are distraught when we find out that our woman has cheated, even if we were caught first. Hey, don’t blame us; society has made it acceptable for us to get away with cheating! Nonetheless, if it’s within a marriage, when you take your vows, you said for better or for worse, so you must remember that when you do find out as we, as men, have to think along the same lines. As far as a lover, I would say it should be based on what is transpiring in the relationship as to why the cheating was done and if it can be, not only forgiven, but placed aside for the good of the relationship.

 

The Ego Needs Stroking

As far as ego, I can safely say that the male ego is more robust than a woman’s ego, so we are at a disadvantage when it comes to that, especially if we are attractive or have a status or have money or have all three! Women are always eyeing us, trying to get our attention and with the slightest bit of neglect from you, make it easier to submit to the desires of a woman who is obviously trying to give us the goods. So, if anything, if our egos need stroking, guess what, something else of ours will get the stroking.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson’s Home

In Entertainment, Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson's Home, Uncategorized on August 28, 2009 at 1:03 pm

Hello Folks..I have unpacking..my family and I moved out of the state..So I pray all has been well with everyone..

I am truly not suprised that illegal drugs were found..I am however disappointed that his family was not able to intervene to save him..

Coyfee signing off…

 

Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson’s Home

By Howard Breuer

Originally posted Thursday August 27, 2009 07:20 PM EDT

Michael Jackson Photo by: Carlo Allegri / Getty
Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson's Home | Michael Jackson

Marijuana and numerous empty drug bottles were found by police officers at Michael Jackson’s home shortly after he died, according to search warrants unsealed on Thursday.

Two bags of marijuana, a bottle of temazepam (used to treat sleeplessness), empty bottles of the sedatives lorzaepam and diazepam were discovered during the search. They also found four other empty pill bottles with no indication as to what may have been in them.

Detectives were concerned that, when Jackson died, he had “received injection of an unknown medication, prior to his death,” the warrants say. Other documents revealed that Jackson’s doctor, Conrad Murray, had been giving the singer the anesthetic propofol intravenously.

The search warrants were served on June 29, four days after the singer was pronounced dead at UCLA Medical Center, where Murray was less than forthcoming. Murray, according to documents, left the hospital “against the objections of the investigating officers” and they were not able to talk with him in the days that followed.

The warrant also says that, on the day of Jackson’s death, as investigators were at the house, “family members of the decedent notified Los Angeles County Coroner’s Assistant Chief Ed Winter that they had located a quantity of tar heroin in [Jackson’s] bedroom on the second floor of the residence. Winter notified LAPD detectives of the found evidence.” There is no mention in the warrant if the evidence really turned out to be heroin.

Winter told PEOPLE on Thursday that he cannot discuss the evidence or say when the results of Jackson’s autopsy will be revealed.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties

In A man's Version of the Dating Game, Uncategorized, Violence Against Women, Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties, What is True Love?, women talk on August 18, 2009 at 1:26 am

Hi everyone! I hope your weekend was restful but adventurous.  I would like to share this story with you and ask for your opinions.  I still daydream of a man taking care of me and treating me like the Queen that I am.  I guess I am not the only one that day dreams of such a fairytale ending…

Coyfee signing off…..

 

Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties 

Man took over $400,000 from two New York women

 Rose Marie Anglade is shown at her home in Miramar, Fla., Wednesday, Aug. 12, 2009. A 55-year-old South Florida man allegedly swindled some $400,000 from Anglade and another New York woman he was engaged to at the same time. (AP Photo/Miami Herald, Lillly Echeverria)By Jennifer Kay, Associated Press Writer

The used car salesman seemed just like the big shot teenager Rose Marie Anglade knew in Haiti.

Paul Francois owned his dealership and property in Miami’s Little Haiti, and he parked a fleet of flashy luxury cars in front of a suburban home worth half a million dollars. “I just need someone to get married to,” he crooned to Anglade when the old acquaintances from Port-au-Prince met again in 2007.

She thought their unexpected reunion was just what she needed: Someone to take care of her, as a single mother with a son in the Army and a daughter fresh out of high school.

Instead, police say, Francois took Anglade for everything she had — while he was swindling another Haitian immigrant he had also promised to marry. He allegedly stole some $400,000 from the two New York women.

Francois, 55, of Davie, was being held Thursday on $125,000 bond at the Broward County jail on fraud and theft charges. A lawsuit Anglade filed against Francois in September 2008 also is pending.

Anglade, 50, was overjoyed to see Francois’ mug shot posted online after his arrest Wednesday. His sweet talk had left her penniless and facing eviction from the Miramar house she had bought with him, she said in a phone interview Thursday.

The dental office assistant from the Astoria section of Queens in New York went to Florida on vacation in 2007 to celebrate her daughter’s graduation. She had left Haiti for New York 30 years earlier, and she wanted to see the cultural heart for Haitians in Miami. A stroll through the neighborhood brought her to Francois’ dealership, and she recognized him instantly.

The pair talked by phone every night after Anglade returned to New York. She soon began flying back to Miami every two weeks to be with Francois.

“He told me, ‘I’m going to marry you, you won’t need to go to work,’ because he had the business,” she said. “It was, ‘Honey, honey, honey,’ every day.”

He persuaded her to sell her home and buy a house in Florida from his brother, who was behind on his mortgage, according to the arrest affidavit. Then they opened a joint account, where she deposited more than $287,000 — her savings plus the proceeds from the sale of her New York home.

When Anglade gave Francois a $17,500 check for the mortgage, he deposited it into his own account and then forged her signature on other checks as he emptied their joint account, police said. Anglade said she didn’t know Francois was stealing from her until she bounced a check in October 2007. The bank informed her that the joint account was overdrawn.

“He told me that he moved the money because he was afraid that I wouldn’t like Florida and would take the money back with me to New York,” Anglade said. “He never denied it.”

Anglade also didn’t know that while she was abandoning her life in New York to join Francois, he was wooing another woman.

“He had one week for me and then one week for her,” Anglade said. “He was engaged to both of us.”

Sheila Brissault of Elmont, N.Y., said she was introduced to Francois by his brother, a New York City cab driver, in June 2007. Brissault told authorities that over the phone, Francois claimed to be a real estate agent and persuaded the nurse from Jacmel, Haiti, to come to Florida with $50,000 for a down payment on a home.

When she visited Florida, Francois allegedly persuaded her to apply for a $50,000 line of credit on her New York home and open a joint account with him.

The 43-year-old Brissault, also a single mother with a daughter graduating high school, said she trusted Francois because he produced the right documents and told her he was looking for a wife.

“He kept talking,” she said by telephone from New York. “I thought I would never get married until my daughter graduated, and when I met this man was exactly when my daughter graduated.”

She discovered she had been swindled after Francois asked her to sell her Long Island home. She didn’t, but he had already cleaned out the joint account, according to the arrest affidavit.

Brissault and Anglade told authorities that Francois threatened them each with violence when they demanded he return their money. Anglade said Francois punched her in the face after one confrontation. Brissault said Francois threatened to kill her and her children.

“He’s nice until he gets the money, then immediately he turns into the werewolf,” said Joe Pappacoda, the attorney representing both women.

Francois’ attorney, Leonard Fenn, did not immediately return phone or e-mail messages Thursday.

Anglade and her 20-year-old daughter still live in their foreclosed Florida home, pawning belongings to pay the bills and relying on handouts for grocery money. Anglade is unemployed, and said Francois intended to leave her homeless with no way to support herself.

He sold cars, but he wouldn’t give her one to look for a job, she said.

“He said he loved me so much, he just didn’t want me to go anywhere by myself, so no car for me,” said Anglade . “He said, ‘Oh, honey, those people in Florida are no good.’ He just didn’t want me to talk to no one so I wouldn’t know what was going on with him.”

Copyright 2009 The Associated Press.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Ask The Black Man:Can A Man Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Ask the black man, Black Church, Can A Man Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex?, How to successfully date, Uncategorized, What is True Love?, women talk on August 15, 2009 at 1:18 am

Good morning! I hope your week is progressing in a productive manner.. I have a old topic with a new spin for discussion..Waiting until marriage. Does anyone do that anymore? It’s sort of hard when there is so much divorce and maybe having other men/women to compare your new lover to is the root of the problem.  You tell me..

Below the Black Man addresses a young woman who has chosen to wait to have sex until married ..Let’s see what he has to say about this spicy topic…

Have a great weekend..

Coyfee signing off….

 

Can A Man Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex?

Posted Aug 13

Hello Blackman, I am a 21-year-old African American Christian woman who is saving herself for marriage. Quite frankly, I feel like I am one of the last of a dying breed of excellent women. It seems to be hard to find a good black man who appreciates me for who I am. What man wants to deal with a girl who won’t satisfy his sexual needs until after marriage? CD

 

The Blackman: Hi CD, I think the way society is designed these days it is tough to find that match. It is not impossible though. Just like anything else, once you find something great you should cherish it. Society has transformed a lot throughout the years where pre-marital sex is not looked at as taboo anymore. In some ways it has helped certain situations and in other cases it has not. For example it has stopped some people from getting married and realizing that lust was the premise of their relationship. On the flip side it has made someone overlook a person that they would overall be compatible with but since pre-marital sex was not in the equation, they looked past the person. The age of when people get married has changed as well.

 

Nowadays it is common for people to get married in their 30’s, unlike in the past most people were married with children in their 20’s. Sex has become a big emphasis in our society, rather than religion where premarital sex is forbidden. This factor makes it tougher for people to abstain until marriage. A majority of the things that you see in the multimedia platform of our society has a sexual innuendo to it. Another makes it difficult in your case because the men in your age range are going through their sexual prime so they may not be looking to settle at that point of their lives.

 

Look at yourself as a diamond in the ruff and be open to receiving a gem for a lifetime partner. There are men out there that will respect the fact you want to save yourself for marriage and will see your value beyond sex. Since you are a Christian woman, a good place to look for man who will value that is at Church. That’s not saying that you can’t find men elsewhere that will honor that but they can relate where you are coming from. Be patient and you will find someone that will appreciate you. Good Luck, TBM

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Strange and Unusual: Man Faces 6 Months In Jail For Yawning

In Man Faces 6 Months In Jail For Yawning, Uncategorized on August 14, 2009 at 2:10 am

I have no comment..please stay awake when in court. Especially if you are not on trial..

Coyfee signing off…

Man Faces 6 Months In Jail For Yawning

By Associated Press August 12, 2009 8:58 am

Jailed for Yawning

 

Drowsy spectators in one suburban Chicago courtroom might want to stifle their yawns from now on. Clifton Williams, 33, of Richton Park, is facing six months in jail for making what court documents call a yawn-like sound in Will County Judge Daniel Rozak’s court last month. The yawn happened as Williams’ cousin, Jason Mayfield, was being sentenced for a drug charge on July 23.

Rozak found Williams in contempt of court and sentenced him to six months in jail. However, Rozak could free Williams after a status hearing Thursday, if Williams apologizes and the judge accepts. By then, Williams will have served 21 days.

Witnesses disagree about whether Williams’ yawn was out of line.

Charles Pelkie, spokesman for the Will County state’s attorney’s office, said the prosecutor in the courtroom at the time told him that what came out of Williams’ mouth could hardly be called a “yawn.”

“This was a very loud, boisterous, deliberate attempt on the part of this individual to disrupt the proceedings and show disrespect to the court,” Pelkie said. “It was not a guy who involuntarily yawned. This guy was making a statement — a very loud statement — in court.”

Mayfield disagreed, saying it was “not an outrageous yawn.” Williams has written his family to say that he can’t believe he’s in jail “for nothing.”

A message left for Rozak Tuesday was not immediately returned.

Six months is the maximum sentence judges can give for criminal contempt without a jury trial.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Employment Monthly:Can you find this woman a job?

In Employment Advice, Employment Monthly:Can you find this woman a job?, Uncategorized, women talk on August 13, 2009 at 11:56 pm

We in the Americas must work together, that being said. If anyone has retail management positions in the Pennsylvania area please contact me and I will contact Ms. Ortega. 

 

 I have been out of work for about as long.  I did obtain a small retail position for a fraction of my regular salary.  I myself was not able to obtain unemployment benefits because the company lied during the unemployment hearing.  They were more organized having defeated countless claimers and I was not expecting them to deny the the claim. 

 

How have we lived this long..I returned to school as a full time student.  My sons got jobs and we begin to live life very different.  Now, we did have a time when I was not able to keep the electric on.  I was loaned a electric generator which we used for a couple of months..the landlord was completely evil. The house was so cold that we nearly froze to death when we had electric but when the utility company cut the electric we had to sleep in our clothes to keep warm. 

  

When I obtained the part part time position we relocated. Now I am share this because while the country fights over healthcare I pray that people began to realize that this country status affects everyone.  I am a single mother who greatly depends on the support for my children’s fathers, yes fathers(2) LOL.. When they can’t find work then my family gets screwed several times over. 

I know that life will not be this difficult for ever but it is one that I can not wait to put behind me.

So I ask you to ponder these things: When the American people are jobless why does the rent go up? Why are the utilities allowed to be increased? Why are the gas prices allowed to be increased when many people are having to make longer commutes in idle traffic which cost them more in regard to the amount of fuel they would normally use to commute to work?  Why doesn’t the local government place a cap on rental cost?

In my humble college town/city of Tallahassee Florida; the rent is ridiculous.  For the apartment that I have now ..the one bedroom is over 600.00 dollars a month..any extras..nope the pool is always closed..the complex itself has numerous water leaks(which the tenants pay for in rental fees) the place is a mess.  However, because college students need places to live and most are from other states their parents must pay the ridiculous rates..What about families? Rent for me is near a 1000.00; we have exhausted all of our savings and are now just trying to relocate again..Now lastly the utilites are extremely high also..so if you can scrape the rent then the utilities will definitely empty your bank account.

 

Coyfee signing off..but as I leave you think about the above things…

 

My unemployment benefits ran out

These 5 have been unemployed so long enough they exhausted their unemployment insurance – just like half a million Americans about to face the same fate. How did it happen, and how do they cope without a weekly check?

Mary Ortega

Mary Ortega

Unemployed since: May 2008Benefits expired: July 2009

Filed in: Pennsylvania

Age: 42

I was working as a store manager at a women’s retailer called The Pink Turtle before the whole chain shut down. We did everything we could — we cut employees’ hours, slashed pricing — but I was laid off in May 2008 when the store closed.

I figured I’d be out of work for three to six months, max. Early in my career I’d been laid off, and it never lasted longer than that. I applied for unemployment, and I received the maximum $528 a week before taxes.

Soon I realized how tough of a road I had ahead of me. Headhunters were telling me how online job posts receive 1,000 resumes. Another big blow came when my partner, Craig, was laid off from Blue Cross/Blue Shield a few months later. He recently found a job in Lancaster, Pa., so he’s commuting three hours a day.

I think about what would have happened if Craig and I hadn’t moved in together. I probably could have scraped by being single — but if you’re living someplace where cost of living is higher, you’re in a tough bind.

Our savings are exhausted, and it’s going to be very tight for the next 45 days. If I don’t find a job before that, I truly don’t know what I’m going to do. I’m grateful for the checks I’ve received for the past year, but I just wish I could keep getting them somehow.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Police suspect murder-suicide in Arizona family’s death

In Child abuse, Police suspect murder-suicide in Arizona family's death, Uncategorized, Violence Against Males, Violence Against Women, women talk on August 10, 2009 at 4:02 am

Well my dear friends we are back to the old and popular. Murder and suicide. Life is so precious why take anothers and why take your own?

Coyfee signing off…..

 

Police suspect murder-suicide in Arizona family’s death

updated 2:12 p.m. EDT, Fri August 7, 2009

(CNN) — Police in Scottsdale, Arizona, said Friday that they don’t know why a man fatally shot his two young sons and a woman believed to be his wife before turning the gun on himself. The bodies had been in the family’s rental home for several days before they were discovered Thursday afternoon, police spokesman Dave Pubins said in a statement. An out-of-state relative told police that the family had been out of touch and asked them to check the residence, Pubins said.

 

The father was identified Friday morning as Russell Gilman, 48, and the woman was tentatively identified as his wife, Stacey, Pubins said. He said a definite identification of the woman, thought to be 45 years old, was expected after an autopsy. The boys, who were not named, were ages 3 and 7, Pubins said. A second police spokesman, Mark Clark, told CNN affiliate KNXV-TV that a note and a weapon were found in the home, but he didn’t elaborate.

 

“They seemed to be very normal people, other than being quiet, no explanation, really,” neighbor Wayne Lehsten said. He added that the four never participated in neighborhood activities like block parties. “They kept to themselves,” he said. “We would greet them once in a while as we saw him take the children to school.” Pubins called the deaths “a tragic event” and said there was nothing to show that anyone outside the home was involved. A neighbor, who identified herself as Carrie, said she saw the commotion and police cars as she drove to her house. “I have children, and that makes me sad,” she told CNN affiliate KTVK-TV3. “This is the kind of a community — these few blocks here — [where] people are very friendly. There are potlucks and Halloween get-togethers, so why couldn’t they reach out to somebody?”