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ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Foster parents arrested in disappearance of CA boy

In Foster parents arrested in disappearance of CA boy on August 30, 2009 at 11:28 am

Another tragedy involving a child..

Coyfee signing off…

Foster parents arrested in disappearance of CA boy

AP

  • By TERRY COLLINS, Associated Press Writer Terry Collins, Associated Press Writer Sat Aug 29, 1:47 pm ET
OAKLAND, Calif. – The foster parents who held vigils pleading for the safe return of a missing 5-year-old boy with cerebral palsy have been arrested on suspicion of murder, Oakland police said Friday.

Louis Ross and Jennifer Campbell, who is the boy’s aunt, were being questioned by investigators in the case of Hasanni Campbell, who disappeared on Aug. 10 after Ross said he briefly left the boy outside his car in the parking lot of an upscale Oakland neighborhood shoe store where Campbell works.

The couple were arrested separately within an hour of each other, police spokesman Jeff Thomason said.

“This is not a missing persons case anymore. This is a homicide investigation,” Thomason said late Friday outside police headquarters in downtown Oakland. “We are talking to the people responsible. We do believe Hasanni Campbell is dead.”

Thomason would not say what led to the couple’s arrests or what led police to conclude that the boy was dead. Thomason said the boy’s body has not been found.

A team of investigators searched the couple’s home in Fremont on Friday.

The couple, who are engaged, took custody of Hasanni and his 1-year-old sister several months ago because their mother — Jennifer Campbell’s sister — had drug problems.

After the boy’s disappearance, his foster parents made tearful public pleas for his safe return, including vigils outside the shoe store. Dozens of volunteers handed out fliers with Hasanni’s face and held a car wash to add to a $10,000 reward.

There’s even a Web site — findhasanni.com — where his foster family tries to explain their role.

“We understand that there is a lot of speculation out there due to misconceptions about our family and the environment Hasanni was living in but to us he is a son, a brother, a family member and so much more and not just a foster child,” a message from the site reads.

Both have denied any involvement in his disappearance.

But 10 days before the boy vanished, Ross sent an expletive-filled text message to Campbell, threatening to leave the boy alone on a train station platform, according to a police search warrant affidavit.

In an interview with the San Francisco Chronicle earlier this month, Ross said he sent the text message in frustration at a time when he planned to break up with Campbell, who is six months pregnant.

The day Hasanni disappeared, Ross said he went to the store’s front entrance to ask Campbell to open the back door, but when he returned to the parking lot, the boy was gone.

Police said they were mystified by how Hasanni could have disappeared from a crowded business district with no witnesses, and bloodhounds were unable to detect the scent of the missing boy outside the shoe shop.

Ross told a television station that he failed a lie detector test, but had cooperated with police “100 percent.”

Attorney John Burris, who has been advising the couple, said Friday he was surprised by their arrest.

“I’m not aware of any hard physical evidence that ties either one into a missing child,” Burris said.

Sherri-Lyn Miller, a volunteer whose company has created T-shirts and fliers during the search for Hasanni, said Friday she’s “stunned” by the couple’s arrests.

“I feel that we need to look for Hasanni even harder for him now,” Miller said. “I’m not going to stop looking for him.”

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ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties

In A man's Version of the Dating Game, Uncategorized, Violence Against Women, Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties, What is True Love?, women talk on August 18, 2009 at 1:26 am

Hi everyone! I hope your weekend was restful but adventurous.  I would like to share this story with you and ask for your opinions.  I still daydream of a man taking care of me and treating me like the Queen that I am.  I guess I am not the only one that day dreams of such a fairytale ending…

Coyfee signing off…..

 

Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties 

Man took over $400,000 from two New York women

 Rose Marie Anglade is shown at her home in Miramar, Fla., Wednesday, Aug. 12, 2009. A 55-year-old South Florida man allegedly swindled some $400,000 from Anglade and another New York woman he was engaged to at the same time. (AP Photo/Miami Herald, Lillly Echeverria)By Jennifer Kay, Associated Press Writer

The used car salesman seemed just like the big shot teenager Rose Marie Anglade knew in Haiti.

Paul Francois owned his dealership and property in Miami’s Little Haiti, and he parked a fleet of flashy luxury cars in front of a suburban home worth half a million dollars. “I just need someone to get married to,” he crooned to Anglade when the old acquaintances from Port-au-Prince met again in 2007.

She thought their unexpected reunion was just what she needed: Someone to take care of her, as a single mother with a son in the Army and a daughter fresh out of high school.

Instead, police say, Francois took Anglade for everything she had — while he was swindling another Haitian immigrant he had also promised to marry. He allegedly stole some $400,000 from the two New York women.

Francois, 55, of Davie, was being held Thursday on $125,000 bond at the Broward County jail on fraud and theft charges. A lawsuit Anglade filed against Francois in September 2008 also is pending.

Anglade, 50, was overjoyed to see Francois’ mug shot posted online after his arrest Wednesday. His sweet talk had left her penniless and facing eviction from the Miramar house she had bought with him, she said in a phone interview Thursday.

The dental office assistant from the Astoria section of Queens in New York went to Florida on vacation in 2007 to celebrate her daughter’s graduation. She had left Haiti for New York 30 years earlier, and she wanted to see the cultural heart for Haitians in Miami. A stroll through the neighborhood brought her to Francois’ dealership, and she recognized him instantly.

The pair talked by phone every night after Anglade returned to New York. She soon began flying back to Miami every two weeks to be with Francois.

“He told me, ‘I’m going to marry you, you won’t need to go to work,’ because he had the business,” she said. “It was, ‘Honey, honey, honey,’ every day.”

He persuaded her to sell her home and buy a house in Florida from his brother, who was behind on his mortgage, according to the arrest affidavit. Then they opened a joint account, where she deposited more than $287,000 — her savings plus the proceeds from the sale of her New York home.

When Anglade gave Francois a $17,500 check for the mortgage, he deposited it into his own account and then forged her signature on other checks as he emptied their joint account, police said. Anglade said she didn’t know Francois was stealing from her until she bounced a check in October 2007. The bank informed her that the joint account was overdrawn.

“He told me that he moved the money because he was afraid that I wouldn’t like Florida and would take the money back with me to New York,” Anglade said. “He never denied it.”

Anglade also didn’t know that while she was abandoning her life in New York to join Francois, he was wooing another woman.

“He had one week for me and then one week for her,” Anglade said. “He was engaged to both of us.”

Sheila Brissault of Elmont, N.Y., said she was introduced to Francois by his brother, a New York City cab driver, in June 2007. Brissault told authorities that over the phone, Francois claimed to be a real estate agent and persuaded the nurse from Jacmel, Haiti, to come to Florida with $50,000 for a down payment on a home.

When she visited Florida, Francois allegedly persuaded her to apply for a $50,000 line of credit on her New York home and open a joint account with him.

The 43-year-old Brissault, also a single mother with a daughter graduating high school, said she trusted Francois because he produced the right documents and told her he was looking for a wife.

“He kept talking,” she said by telephone from New York. “I thought I would never get married until my daughter graduated, and when I met this man was exactly when my daughter graduated.”

She discovered she had been swindled after Francois asked her to sell her Long Island home. She didn’t, but he had already cleaned out the joint account, according to the arrest affidavit.

Brissault and Anglade told authorities that Francois threatened them each with violence when they demanded he return their money. Anglade said Francois punched her in the face after one confrontation. Brissault said Francois threatened to kill her and her children.

“He’s nice until he gets the money, then immediately he turns into the werewolf,” said Joe Pappacoda, the attorney representing both women.

Francois’ attorney, Leonard Fenn, did not immediately return phone or e-mail messages Thursday.

Anglade and her 20-year-old daughter still live in their foreclosed Florida home, pawning belongings to pay the bills and relying on handouts for grocery money. Anglade is unemployed, and said Francois intended to leave her homeless with no way to support herself.

He sold cars, but he wouldn’t give her one to look for a job, she said.

“He said he loved me so much, he just didn’t want me to go anywhere by myself, so no car for me,” said Anglade . “He said, ‘Oh, honey, those people in Florida are no good.’ He just didn’t want me to talk to no one so I wouldn’t know what was going on with him.”

Copyright 2009 The Associated Press.

Conversations wit Coyfee discusses Suffering in Silence within the Walls of America’s Black Church-HIV/AIDS in the Black Church

In Believer who falls into sin, Black Church, Fashions African, Forgiveness, Hiv/AIDS, Spiritual healing, women talk on July 6, 2009 at 11:55 am
Suffering in Silence within the Walls of America’s Black Church

HIV in the Black Church

Many in the black church are suffering with the fear of death. They are the grown up children that used to run around the church yard playing hide and seek. They are the young men that sang the old gospel songs and the young women that prayed prayers of healing. These are the young people that decided to grow up in America’s Black Church. Many are not married and do not have any children even though they are in their mid twenties to late thirties. Some appear to have taken a vow of celibacy but there are hidden relations going on. They no longer choose to fight their desires for same sex relations and hence they have begun to embrace this lifestyle at an alarming rate.

Now, we must be clear; not every person that has HIV/AIDS is a homosexual male. However many believe HIV/AIDS is a homosexual disease. That being the case those infected are often treated like modern day lepers. Why, because the church shuns the very thought of homosexuality? Since, they secretly desirer the same sex. They are treated as if they have already been judged by GOD and have been sentenced to HELL..

Having been raised in the Black Church, I know all to well that the discussion on sex and sexuality is mum’s the word. Some churchs are making a bold step and are beginning to discuss sex within the marriage. However, sex within same sex relationships are not popular semon starters for the Christian community. Based on a teaching that I have recieved in church same sex relationships are an abomination to God, this teaching is in response to Romans 1.24-1:26.

It reads..Romans 1:24″..Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves. 25: Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. 26: For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

Now, I must go on record as stating that GOD is LOVE and He loves everyone..John 3:16
“FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life”.

Many suffering in Silence may wonder what the bible has to say about this sin or maybe others..read below “…Then I acknowledged my sin to you (God) and did not cover up my iniquity. I said ‘I will confess my transgressions to the LORD’ – and you forgave the guilt of my sin.” (Ps 32:5)

A news reporter had this to say about HIV?AIDS in the black church.. CBS News correspondent Randall Pinkston explains in part two, some churches are starting to begin the conversation. black church – traditionally a loud voice for social change – has been curiously silent on the crisis of AIDS in the African-American community, and some say, even negligent.

When Demarsh Tarver contracted AIDS in Alabama, he says his minister told him to pray for forgiveness. “When I reached out to the church, I felt like I had been condemned because of my lifestyle,” Tarver said. “I basically told him, in so many words, to go to hell.” Check out our Video section for a clip of the above interview with Mr. Tarvar.

Despite the fact that pastors across the south have offered small consolation to people infected with the virus, AIDS activists say they need black churches the help stem the growing tide of new HIV and AIDS cases. While African-Americans represent 19 percent of the south’s population, Pinkston reports they’re 56 percent of new AIDS cases in the region. It is an issue that the people of God must address, said Reverend Claude R. Alexander, Jr., of the University Park Baptist Church in Charlotte, N.C.http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2008/08/17/eveningnews/main4356729.shtml

So please allow that love to minister to you as I share one young man’s story of his suffering in silence in the black church. He has been diagnosed with HIV and is a christian that desires to be delivered from homosexuality. He is an amazing young man and please read his story without judgement.

 

Conversations wit Coyfee: Mr. Barnett I noticed that you stated in the article that your church did not know that you were HIV positive.  Can you tell me if anyone at your church knows now since the article?

Mr. Barnett: Well they dont know because of the article someone knows because it licked out when i was using facebook and wrote it on somebodys page that i was doing motivational speaking for H.I.V also telling my story living with it that is how one person found out.

Conversations wit Coyfee: Can you also tell me if and how your life has changed since the article in Vesselvibe was published?

Mr. Barnett: My life really has not changed because i used a fake name and only people in my family and close friends know about the article so it really has not changed my life yet but has changed my view on somethings from the comments people are leaving.

Conversations wit Coyfee: Can you share with our readers what type of feedback have you been getting from your audience?

Mr. Barnett: I have been getting postive feedback for the most part some comments people have personally e-mailed me was kinda rude but i just take that and build myself up i love my haters and negetive comments because they are like a elevater they take me higher and when the smoke clears and the dust settles at all cost i shall succeed.

Conversations wit Coyfee: You mentioned that you were interested in doing motivational speaking, how is that dream coming along?

Mr. Barnett: My motivational dreams are starting to come together the more i put the word out to people that can help me and i tell my story to they are very happy to help me like i have three events lined up and one B.E.T rap-it-up will be there so i am just staying prayed up and asking god to help me. By the way if there is any event you can use me to speak please e-mail me great_things89@yahoo.com or if you can help with contacts or want to help me with my campaign/staff e-mail me.

Conversations wit Coyfee: Mr. Barrett, please tell our readers anything that I have not covered but that you would like to share with them.

Mr. Barnett: Well first i want to thank you Tammie(Conversations wit Coyfee) for giving me this space and allowing me to answer some questions that readers may have. If you have not gotten a chance to read my article of my life and how I contracted H.I.V please go to vesselvibe.com it is under the features section Titled I’ am a christian living with H.I.V. It will bless you also I want to give three shoutouts first to God who is making this all possible and keeping me growned to the agency that is helping shape me and mold me ROYAL PRIEST HOOD . Thank you so much for even taking me under your wings and helping me. Then I want to give a big shout out to a lady named Lisa Mosely she helped me get my business cards together. Please visit her site at www..aymgraphics.com

Lastly people it is time to stand up and speak out about this epedimic. I don’t know if you know how bad this is but 1 million people are effected in the U.S.A and 3,000 people don’t even know there status. Please get tested and also educated so that you will know your facts and how not to contracted this disease. My motto is “I speak to the mind to encourage the heart to make a change. Ok before I go and you get tired of me I have two messages for two diffrent people. The first message is to the affected: I am here and living with this virus and I am making my dreams come true this is not a death sentence but it is the newness of live for you. Yes when you find out you might kick and scream but after that is all said and done you have to push yourself off because there is still life to be lived. Be encouraged. Also God stated a agreement in john 11:4 this sickness is not unto death but for His glory you are only going through this for Gods glory so that you will prosper in whatever area in your life that you lack power.

The second message is to the uneducated and undereducated people, please get to know the real facts. There are ten most common myths out here about the disease that will keep you thinking negatively toward your brother or sister that is positive. So get educated and know your facts and rap it up so one day this virus won’t get you. Thank you and be Blessed. These were comments given by Mr. Barnett.

If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to e-mail Mr. Barnett at great_things89@yahoo.com.

Did this interview encourage you? If so tell us about it. We want to know your stories of life and success. Talk 2 Me..Please leave comments..

 

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Bitterness to Brokeness

In Forgiveness, Spiritual healing, women talk on July 6, 2009 at 8:50 am

 

bitterness_to_brokenness200christianraphiphoparticleBitterness to Brokeness

 

Many people walk around with their hearts shattered…they attempt to act normal or rather what they “think” normal is.  How do I know? I used to be one of these people. 

Allow me to share a little bit of my life with you… It all began when I was working at a retirement community. I was really focused on my life and getting to know God better. One of my co-workers introduces me to this guy; I wasn’t particularly impressed with him because he apparently was the hottest thing at the job. All the younger women seemed to be flaunting themselves around him. Later, he shared with me that he was a minister; I thought to myself, “That’s great!”

Months went by and he eventually asked me out. I was very uncertain about going out with him because I had not been in a dating relationship in a long time. Plus I had never tried dating the “Christian way.”  So I finally accepted his offer and as faith would have it, we hit it off. It wasn’t long before we became serious and began discussing marriage. Could this be it? Could he be the man chosen by God to love me? Though I was scared I decided to give it my all. We dated for about a year and were married.

Shortly after getting married we began having problems. I had become concerned about his relationships with other women. He was a musician and the worship leader in his father’s church. I noticed he had become distant and didn’t seem to be comfortable around me. I had never been one who was jealous but just knew something was different. I began to pray for revelation. God answered my prayers quickly the following morning when this feeling came over me. I just somehow knew he had broken our marriage vows. I confronted him and he tearfully confessed to having had sex with another woman. I became overwhelmed and angry. Out of my anger, I began throwing all kinds of things.

I contacted the woman he was sleeping with, yelling and screaming obscenities into the phone. I didn’t seem to be able to control myself. I never stopped for a minute to ask God for the healing of His anointing. I just wanted to hate him and her. It was my job to make him pay for lying to me and for disrespecting me. I felt I was justified in not forgiving him (NOT TRUE). I felt like I deserved to hate him and I wore the pain as a badge of honor (NOT TRUE). I was so immersed in my own self-pity that I didn’t realize that the pain had become a covering of shame. Now, I had begun to blame him for everything…my unhappiness, my lack of joy, my failure in life, and lack of zeal for ministry. I thought my ex-husband was to blame for all of this, not the enemy, Satan. I felt as though he had single handily created a world of darkness where I had become the prisoner (NOT TRUE). The entire incident was rooted in darkness and it was Satan who was the culprit, I was his victim and my ex-husband was his tool.

Over time, my ex-husband would often plead with me to forgive him. I would often tell him, and counselors, that I had forgiven him. However, honestly I had never gotten over the pain that the lies and the infidelity had caused. As our children grew so did the vine of bitterness which I had allowed to be planted in my heart.

We would never actually heal that marriage and later divorced, as he continued to be unfaithful time and time again. Each offense would create a new shot from the seed of bitterness. I would go to the Altar for prayer, time and time again. My heart was still flooded with the poison of bitterness and it had begun to alter my perception of life and love.

Please don’t misunderstand; he was completely wrong for the behavior he displayed during our marriage. However, when someone lies to you, cheats on you, or just plain disappoints you, right then you must decide to forgive them. Don’t give it a second thought. Forgiving them allows the healing anointing of God to mend your broken heart. That is the only thing that can save you. The precious anointing of the Holy Spirit healed my broken heart and restored joy to my then miserable life.

Ephesians 4:30-32 – “And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own, guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”

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Conversations wit Coyfee-Indentifying The Spirit Of Rejection

In Uncategorized on July 6, 2009 at 7:41 am

Indentifying The Spirit Of Rejection

Salutations to all!!
Today I would like to discuss how to Indentify the Spirit of Rejection.

The Spirit of Rejection moves thru unsuspecting lives like a viper. It bites and then releases its venom into the souls of many today. Most souls which have been infected never actually realize what is wrong with them nor why they act the that they do. The infected person is contagious in the manner that they will begin to infect others with the devastating venom of the Spirit of Rejection. They will become bitter insulting their children and those close to them.

This study is rather important to me. As a child and even as an adult I have struggled with the results of rejection. I was never good enough nor did I ever achieve a high enough standard for my mother. My father already married to another woman, died when I was three years old. I do not share this to create any embarrassment for my mother but to show that they are not alone. Once recognized, the symptoms of the Spirit of Rejection can be done away with forever.

Ever have the feeling of never quite being good enough? Never believed that you were in fact loved. Do you have trouble trusting anyone? Do you believing that everyone hates you or is out to get over on you? Do you have many failed relationships; where those that you loved left you? Does any of this sound familiar? If so keep reading help is available to you.

Many that have been infected seem to never be able to master the art of love; as a result relationship after relationship is spoiled by their own hand. The infected person hurts those that dare show genuine love to them and push away would be friends. When asked why one is alone; the reply will most often be, that no one loves me. I am comfortable being alone. This is a lie that they have come to accept because people have abandoned them so many times. They most likely will expect everyone to leave. They fear being not accepted or loved, so they begin to make it almost impossible for someone to get close to them.

Because the Spirit of Rejection lies to the infected person; causing them to believe that no one actually loves them.; they believe in their heart that all those that left them were the ones that were wrong. They can not see nor can they be convinced that the problem is in them. It is almost impossible to show them that their thinking has been altered to created this pattern of abandonment. They begin to wear the wounds of loneliness as badges of honor. Proudly displaying their loneliness as a choice. Secretly the person is consumed with loneliness and deeply desires to have an intimate relationship with another person.

Let’s take a close look at what it means to be rejected based on Webster’s definition. The definition of being rejected, listed in Webster’s Online dictionary is: Refuse to accept or acknowledge; Refuse to approve; Reject with contempt;Refuse entrance or membership; Dismiss from consideration

Now that we know that rejection is basically not being accepted or embraced. The spirit realm is the reflection of what is happening in everyday life. Certain behaviors and lifestyle choices are a direct result of what is happening in the spirit realm. Even though we may not always see what is happening in the spirit realm but we do see the symptoms or results. As previously listed above, proof of the presence of the Spirit of Rejection will be evidenced by the behavior of one that is infected.

The Spirit of Rejection is and has affected many in the house of God. As you can see from this exert from Touched by Grace Website. The below article is written by Ron Wood of Touched by Grace. I greatly enjoyed reading some exerts from it and thought you might as well..

Alienation, isolation, and rejection are paralyzing the church. Loneliness is like a plague on the land. The ties that knit our lives together seem to have unraveled. Covenant love has grown cold and casual contacts can’t replace them. The tapestry of society is like a mass of individual threads, no longer woven together. Broken homes from divorces provide a vivid picture of our inability to stay in meaningful relationships. (In Cuba, where I have ministered, the divorce rate is 78%.) Ask any modern school teacher how many children in their classroom still have the same original parents. The answer is always, “Hardly any.” The feeling of abandonment hurts. These kids usually suffer from rejection.

Rejection affects adults as well. Many people have come to full age still carrying the scars of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. These men and women look normal but inside they are filled with terrible insecurity, anger, or fear. Others are sitting on a ticking emotional time-bomb of resentment and rebellion, just waiting to boil over into rage. These scars, if left unhealed, will render a person incapable of entering into committed, wholesome, long-term relationships.

One particular problem is very common. It undermines the confidence of many Christians and interferes with true fellowship between friends. It is a lying spirit from our enemy called a spirit of rejection. Rejection is the worst pain the human spirit can suffer. Anyone who has been abandoned, suffered abuse, or endured discrimination can relate to this kind of anguish. Let’s examine this assault from Satan so we can recognize this form of mental oppression.

First, the spirit of rejection refers to the mind-set ingrained into us which tells us that we are unloved, unwanted, or will never be good enough. This may start in childhood. This mind-set makes us strive to earn our acceptance. It makes people feel driven to perform in order to be approved. This mind-set makes people feel they are loved for what they do rather than for who they are. It is demeaning. It robs people of peace. The sad thing is that no amount of achievement is ever enough to satisfy it.

In other people, the injustice of being treated unfairly or rejected or disrespected makes them boil over in anger. They quit trying to fit in, rebel against everyone, and try to break out of the box being forced on them. In refusing to be a victim, they may victimize others. Resentment covers their soul like a dark shroud. They wind up in an emotional prison of their own making.

The mind-set of rejection is the result of having believed a lie. It is a syndrome of self-talk that comes from being programmed with falsehoods. Having been told a lie often enough, victims begin to say, “Yes, it’s true.” The lie becomes accepted when the victim agrees with the accusations. They become their own accuser. They have internalized the venom. The deceit becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The victim begins to expect to be rejected and thus sabotages their own relationships.
This mental stronghold of rejection is powerful. It will be torn down only when we find God’s Word about our case and choose to believe the truth instead of a lie. Only God’s truth can set us free. The truth will connect us to God’s love. God’s love will cure our wounded souls.

The Spirit of Rejection creates a feeble and broken person. That person unknowingly will bite anyone that attempts to love them. This lying spirit has destroyed marriages, church congregations, friendships and even work relationships. The Spirit of Rejection leaves one powerless against the enemy, hence making the Body Of Christ a dead and powerless organism.

It was evident that a people that had the opportunity to be infused with dunamus power, the power of the Holy Spirit, were a force to be reckon with. A powerful force that moved thru the tapestry of time destroying the kingdom of darkness. Setting free those that had been enslaved thru the lies of the enemy. A glimpse of the past, shows the definite difference in the Body of Christ yesterday and the Body of Christ today.

Tune In later for “Origin of the Spirit Of Rejection”

 

 

ConversationswitCoyfee-Origin Of The Spirit Of Rejection

In Forgiveness, Spiritual healing, women talk on July 6, 2009 at 2:46 am

caincursed2The Origin Of The Spirit Of Rejection

Greetings

Let’s take a look at the first account with the spirit of rejection. The first family having been banished from the Garden of Eden was a prime target. Humor me just a moment as I set the stage for Adam and Eve’s creation.

For those that are not familiar with this wonderful account of the first marriage, allow me to share a bit of the story directly from scripture. We will briefly review Genesis 1;26-2:25. This is the biblical account of the first marriage. Now I would encourage you to read the entire account, even if you are familiar with this portion of the scripture.

As you can see below in Adam has spent quite a bit of time alone with the Father. Fellowshiping with God and watching the animals play. I am sure he wondered why there wasn’t another like him in the garden. Of course God being all knowing, knew the heart of man. Notice in scripture, Genesis 2:8 (when He states that “..it is not good for man to be alone).
Genesis 1
26: And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.
27: So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
28: And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
29: And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat.
30: And to every beast of the earth, and to every fowl of the air, and to every thing that creepeth upon the earth, wherein there is life, I have given every green herb for meat: and it was so.
31: And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. And the evening and the morning were the sixth day.

Genesis 2
1: Thus the heavens and the earth were finished, and all the host of them.
2: And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made; and he rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had made.
3: And God blessed the seventh day, and sanctified it: because that in it he had rested from all his work which God created and made.
4: These are the generations of the heavens and of the earth when they were created, in the day that the LORD God made the earth and the heavens,
5: And every plant of the field before it was in the earth, and every herb of the field before it grew: for the LORD God had not caused it to rain upon the earth, and there was not a man to till the ground.
6: But there went up a mist from the earth, and watered the whole face of the ground.
7: And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.
8: And the LORD God planted a garden eastward in Eden; and there he put the man whom he had formed.

adam19: And out of the ground made the LORD God to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight, and good for food; the tree of life also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of knowledge of good and evil.
10: And a river went out of Eden to water the garden; and from thence it was parted, and became into four heads.
11: The name of the first is Pison: that is it which compasseth the whole land of Havilah, where there is gold;
12: And the gold of that land is good: there is bdellium and the onyx stone.
13: And the name of the second river is Gihon: the same is it that compasseth the whole land of Ethiopia.
14: And the name of the third river is Hiddekel: that is it which goeth toward the east of Assyria. And the fourth river is Euphrates.
15: And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.
16: And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:
17: But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.
18: And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
19: And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
20: And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21: And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22: And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23: And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24: Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
25: And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
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Now note, all seems good in the Garden of Eden. Adam is excited with his new woman. She is exactly like him only new and improved. The animals are playing..there is peace in the garden. Life is wonderful..Can you imagine it..think for a moment. There is no sin, no voilence…the air is crisp and warm. The animals all get along. Then the unexpected took place. Read below how the enemy known as Satan came in and decieved the woman, Eve. This account begins in Genesis 3:1:

1: Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made.
And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?
2: And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden:
3: But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.
4: And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:
5: For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.
6: And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.
7: And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons.
8: And they heard the voice of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day: and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God amongst the trees of the garden.
9: And the LORD God called unto Adam, and said unto him, Where art thou?
10: And he said, I heard thy voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself.
11: And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat?
12: And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.
13: And the LORD God said unto the woman, What is this that thou hast done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat.
14: And the LORD God said unto the serpent, Because thou hast done this, thou art cursed above all cattle, and above every beast of the field; upon thy belly shalt thou go, and dust shalt thou eat all the days of thy life:
15: And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.
16: Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
17: And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;
18: Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field;
19: In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.
20: And Adam called his wife’s name Eve; because she was the mother of all living.
21: Unto Adam also and to his wife did the LORD God make coats of skins, and clothed them.
22: And the LORD God said, Behold, the man is become as one of us, to know good and evil: and now, lest he put forth his hand, and take also of the tree of life, and eat, and live for ever:
23: Therefore the LORD God sent him forth from the garden of Eden, to till the ground from whence he was taken.
24: So he drove out the man; and he placed at the east of the garden of Eden Cherubims, and a flaming sword which turned every way, to keep the way of the tree of life.

The account continues with the birth of Adam and Eve’s sons. Cain and Abel. Now those of us that are not familiar with this account here is a brief exert. The exert begins in Genesis 4.

1: And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the LORD.
2: And she again bare his brother Abel. And Abel was a keeper of sheep, but Cain was a tiller of the ground.
3: And in process of time it came to pass, that Cain brought of the fruit of the ground an offering unto the LORD.
4: And Abel, he also brought of the firstlings of his flock and of the fat thereof. And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering:
5: But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth, and his countenance fell.
6: And the LORD said unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen?
7: If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him.
8: And Cain talked with Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him.cainkillCain’s offering had been rejected by the Lord. Now Cain was embarassed because he felt like he was singled out. He was being told he was not good enough. He had failed. He next became bitter and then angry
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He took it personal. Cain never heeded God’s instructions. However, God told him that if he did better he would be accepted. His offering was not accepted because he did not bring the accepted offering. He was biten by viper of rejection. He became bitter and moved in a rage. The scripture shows that he struck his brother. Cain killed his younger brother without remorse. Why? Afterwards he was more concerned about his own life. The enemy had convinced him that he was justified in this behavior. He alone with the enemy introduced murder into the a once peace world. 

Tune In next time for more on The Spirit of Rejection-Walking Out In Victory

ConversationswitCoyfee presents The Spirit Of Rejection-Victory

In Spiritual healing, women talk on July 5, 2009 at 1:45 pm

swordofspiritThe Spirit of Rejection-Victory

SHALOM, which is peace to you..I hope the studies on the Spirit of Rejection has increased your awareness of this particuliar spirit. The havoc it can and will cause in unsuspecting persons is real. They drag thru life never being able to be happy or content. Never being able to reach what they call success. They embark on ventures alone. The lies that have been intertwined into their souls seem to them to be the truth. No one can convince them that they are loved or comforted. They wear the lonliness as a badge of honor. However, for most of us it has become a covering of shame.

It is our desire to assist you in identifying the symptoms and understanding the origin of the dreadful presence in the lives of people we know. In some cases even weaving that spirit of lies into the fabric of our being. We live our lives alone and afraid. Wanting to be held and loved..wanting to hold and love..but fearful of the outcome..not wanting to be shunned or questioned. Never wanting to disrespected in anyway..so we get dressed everyday for work or school and we place that covering of shame over us. Hoping that no one can see the pain that dripping from our souls. The way we snap back at unsuspecting souls that really do not intent to hurt us. We are cold and unfeeling to everyone because the spirit of rejection whispers that to us “they are laughing at you, they don’t respect you, they think your stupid..”. After we hear that in our souls (psyche) we believe it. Across the hall, a group of people are laughing and immediately you think that they are laughing at you. The truth is that these people have not even noticed you but deep down inside; you believe the lie of the enemy. The accuser of the bretheren..the Father of  lies..Satan

So now, the Spirit of Rejection has been exposed. What’s next? How do you begin to take back your life and prepare to embrace the gentle wooing of the Savior. The total absolute healing and restoral of the Spirit Of Adoption. I would like to share some exerts of a couple of articles I ran across while researching this topic. The below exert is from Touched by Grace. Ron Wood is the author of the below piece.

In the Bible, Romans chapter eight speaks of God‚s antidote to the spirit of rejection. This cure comes from our Heavenly Father, through the grace of our Lord Jesus, and is born witness to by the Holy Spirit. It is called the spirit of adoption. This is the Holy Spirit telling them that are hurting who blamed God , that he loves them. This resentment keeps them from feeling God‚s love. Their image of God is wrong so they refuse to accept Him. God‚s grace offers us pardon even while we are angry and sinning. God knows we need to be healed of the consequences of our sins and the injuries of sins committed against us by others, even our parents. The Spirit of Adoption comes from heaven‚s throne. It can also be mediated by unconditional acceptance through other Christians. When we accept one another in Christ, relationships in Christ‚s body are formed. The Holy Spirit connects us together and affirms our self-worth. We are empowered to appreciate each other.

God‚s merciful provision for our healing comes by Christ‚s atonement on the cross. It is made real and effective in our lives when we confess our sins and receive His forgiveness. Then the Holy Spirit comes into our heart and testifies that we have become God‚s child. He does this by bearing witness in ouholy_spirit_descending_280r spirit that we are adopted by God. This is the spirit of adoption.

The spirit of adoption goes beyond believing that God loves us; it is the actual felt love of God, so that we are enabled to know that God loves us. It ends loneliness, literally forever!

This marvelous work of affirming who we are in Christ is the work of the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of Truth. He only bears witness to what is true. He testifies in our spirit that we are truly loved by God. The Holy Spirit uses the Scriptures as well as the affirming voice of God to tell us the truth about ourselves. God‚s voice will cause us to know God‚s thoughts toward us. Those thoughts, always in agreement with the Scriptures, will reprove us of our sin and will affirm us as His children, but will never condemn us or drive us away. God will always tell us the truth in a merciful way. Our response is to believe what God says. Believing the truth about what Jesus did for us and believing the truth about who we are in Christ sets us free. We need to believe both aspects of the truthˆ about Jesus and about ourselves.

The truth is, God likes us! His love toward us is tremendous. He wants us to really know Him and He wants to dwell in our hearts. God wants us to have fellowship with Him without condemnation. He accepts us into His family by virtue of Christ‚s work on the cross. He gives us a new identity as His sons and daughters.

Unlike some earthly fathers who failed us, our Heavenly Father will never abandon us. He will not cast away His children. God maintains a relationship with His offspring so that we need never fear being rejected by Him. His love is steadfast. It is covenant love.

I would also like to share another exert from an article that I found interesting. This article is written by Chris Hayward.

According to Hayward, the four “walls” of rejection are:

Rejection of God: God says in His word that we are His children, that we are made in His image – beautiful. Anytime we think less of ourselves than this, we are, in effect, rejecting His word, and by connection, Him.

Fear of Rejection: We want everyone to like us. But, at the same time, we tend to sabotage our relationships. We don’t keep in touch like we should. We get close to someone and then pull back. Could it be that we are afraid of losing them at some point? Is it that, maybe, by being in control of when the relationship ends, we won’t feel rejected because we are doing the rejecting? It’s a vicious cycle – we try to run from relationships because we don’t want to risk being hurt – but in doing so, we feel more rejection, and so the next time we have the chance to enter a relationship, we withdraw further, adding more perceived rejection. It’s hard to trust people when we are caught up in a cycle of rejection – always wondering when they will end up not liking us for whatever reason. So often, it feels like it is easier to not even get involved.

Self-Rejection: Have you ever watched Sesame Street when they had the “One of these things just doesn’t belong here, One of these things just isn’t the same” segments – a group of things where 3 are similar, but 1 item is really different? When dealing with rejection, we can feel like the thing that wasn’t the same – out of place. But, to think that the first sacrifice ever (Gen. 3:21) was made so that Adam and Eve could have a permanent covering for their “shame” reminds us that Jesus’ sacrifice covers us from our hopelessness, worthlessness and worse.

Rejection of Others: A lot of people have hurt us over the years – some intentionally, some not. It’s hard to let go of that hurt. We have to remember that forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. We may not feel like hugging the people that hurt us, but we can still choose to forgive them. In forgiving, we release our pain, leaving it at the feet of our Father. We ask God to come and fill the hollow places left when we release the pain, and we ask Him to bless those who have hurt or offended us. We do this so that we can stand before our Father and receive the forgiveness He offers to us (Matt.6:14-15). We may not feel like we have forgiven, but in that moment, we receive our freedom in Christ from the bitterness that once bound us.

Father, I want to know you as “Daddy.” I’ve had glimpses of it…seen it from a distance, but I want to know it in my heart…I’m sorry that I’ve rejected you. Forgive me for not really truly believing and living in your love. I repent of my pride, stubbornness and self-will…I reject and renounce the spirit of rejection that has seemingly overcome me. Help me to live in the promise that You have overcome the world and all that is in and of it. I refuse to accept this feeling of rejection any longer. I break any connection and all agreement with this spirit – any generational binds and ties, I break those as well…It is only through Your authority, power and sacrifice- that I break down these walls of rejection in Jesus’ name!

The above prayer is an example of how to pray effectively for deliverance of this dreadful spirit. Please note that after the spirit is gone, the influence will remain for a season. Your thought pattern will need to be changed. Please study the word of God thoroughly and allow the Spirit of Adoption to speak truth to your life.