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ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Foster parents arrested in disappearance of CA boy

In Foster parents arrested in disappearance of CA boy on August 30, 2009 at 11:28 am

Another tragedy involving a child..

Coyfee signing off…

Foster parents arrested in disappearance of CA boy

AP

  • By TERRY COLLINS, Associated Press Writer Terry Collins, Associated Press Writer Sat Aug 29, 1:47 pm ET
OAKLAND, Calif. – The foster parents who held vigils pleading for the safe return of a missing 5-year-old boy with cerebral palsy have been arrested on suspicion of murder, Oakland police said Friday.

Louis Ross and Jennifer Campbell, who is the boy’s aunt, were being questioned by investigators in the case of Hasanni Campbell, who disappeared on Aug. 10 after Ross said he briefly left the boy outside his car in the parking lot of an upscale Oakland neighborhood shoe store where Campbell works.

The couple were arrested separately within an hour of each other, police spokesman Jeff Thomason said.

“This is not a missing persons case anymore. This is a homicide investigation,” Thomason said late Friday outside police headquarters in downtown Oakland. “We are talking to the people responsible. We do believe Hasanni Campbell is dead.”

Thomason would not say what led to the couple’s arrests or what led police to conclude that the boy was dead. Thomason said the boy’s body has not been found.

A team of investigators searched the couple’s home in Fremont on Friday.

The couple, who are engaged, took custody of Hasanni and his 1-year-old sister several months ago because their mother — Jennifer Campbell’s sister — had drug problems.

After the boy’s disappearance, his foster parents made tearful public pleas for his safe return, including vigils outside the shoe store. Dozens of volunteers handed out fliers with Hasanni’s face and held a car wash to add to a $10,000 reward.

There’s even a Web site — findhasanni.com — where his foster family tries to explain their role.

“We understand that there is a lot of speculation out there due to misconceptions about our family and the environment Hasanni was living in but to us he is a son, a brother, a family member and so much more and not just a foster child,” a message from the site reads.

Both have denied any involvement in his disappearance.

But 10 days before the boy vanished, Ross sent an expletive-filled text message to Campbell, threatening to leave the boy alone on a train station platform, according to a police search warrant affidavit.

In an interview with the San Francisco Chronicle earlier this month, Ross said he sent the text message in frustration at a time when he planned to break up with Campbell, who is six months pregnant.

The day Hasanni disappeared, Ross said he went to the store’s front entrance to ask Campbell to open the back door, but when he returned to the parking lot, the boy was gone.

Police said they were mystified by how Hasanni could have disappeared from a crowded business district with no witnesses, and bloodhounds were unable to detect the scent of the missing boy outside the shoe shop.

Ross told a television station that he failed a lie detector test, but had cooperated with police “100 percent.”

Attorney John Burris, who has been advising the couple, said Friday he was surprised by their arrest.

“I’m not aware of any hard physical evidence that ties either one into a missing child,” Burris said.

Sherri-Lyn Miller, a volunteer whose company has created T-shirts and fliers during the search for Hasanni, said Friday she’s “stunned” by the couple’s arrests.

“I feel that we need to look for Hasanni even harder for him now,” Miller said. “I’m not going to stop looking for him.”

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point Of View: Why Women Cheat

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Adulterous women, Ask the black man, Dating and the Single Woman, Uncategorized, What is True Love?, Why Women Cheat on August 30, 2009 at 4:20 am

Well folks what do you say? Do you agree with the writer? Why do women cheat? Is it that some women want their cake and to eat it too..

Let me know what you think?

Coyfee signing off

 

A Man’s Response To Why Women Cheat Posted Aug 18

So, I’m reading this article on the ‘Hello Beautiful’ site titled, 3 Reasons Why Women Cheat, and I have decided to give you women some advice based on what I have read:

 Feeling Lonely in a Relationship

Ok, realize that men sometimes go through this as well so it’s not gender based when it comes to feeling lonely. The expectations placed on a man while in a relationship should be discussed as opposed to being expected, ESPECIALLY if your man happens to be popular or very driven when it comes to his career or work. If you are feeling lonely, it is up to you to include him in other activities that he may not normally be involved in where you wouldn’t feel so lonely. Also, keep in mind that, just like women, guys like to hang out with the fellas every now and then, so if your expectations are greater than he is willing to give, then you may have to resort to the infamous female support group! Otherwise, occupy your time with your passion and goals so that way when the two of you DO get up, the time together will be cherished even more while both of you are trying to achieve personal goals and dreams!

 

Feeling Taken for Granted

 As stated above, men go through the motions when feeling like they are also taken for granted. But instead of focusing on the negative, focus on the positive and as with any relationship, whether work, play or friendship, this can be a task. But as with any task, there has to be common ground so that it can be completed to satisfaction! What most women tend to do is focus on their needs and themselves when having a conversation about ‘us’. You also need to be open to hearing and catering to his needs and wants as well so that way BOTH of you can be equally fulfilled! I hate to word it like this but, it has to be a mutually binding agreement so that way no one feels taken for granted, you give a little, I give a little and hopefully, we both benefit greatly!

 

You Are Leading Separate Lives

Well, as with anything in life, you grow, sometimes together, sometimes apart. It should be the focus of both partners to extend themselves to each other so that way both of you are still on the same page when it comes to a common bond which should be love. We can’t help who we are or who we become based on life experiences and what most women (and men!) don’t understand is that it is BECAUSE of you that he decides to take another direction in life, whether negative or positive. We should make each other stronger but at times, we tend to get weak out of being used to being with the one we are with, so we can and do get complacent. So, communication may be the most important tool in this situation so you can understand what the other is going through in order to want to stay in each others live! You can lead a separate, yet together life if both parties are getting what they want out of it, specifically on an emotional level. But you MUST discuss it with each other!

 

Revenge Can Be Bittersweet

This is definitely a hard thing for women and ESPECIALLY men! Since society accepts cheating men more than they accept cheating women, we, as men, are distraught when we find out that our woman has cheated, even if we were caught first. Hey, don’t blame us; society has made it acceptable for us to get away with cheating! Nonetheless, if it’s within a marriage, when you take your vows, you said for better or for worse, so you must remember that when you do find out as we, as men, have to think along the same lines. As far as a lover, I would say it should be based on what is transpiring in the relationship as to why the cheating was done and if it can be, not only forgiven, but placed aside for the good of the relationship.

 

The Ego Needs Stroking

As far as ego, I can safely say that the male ego is more robust than a woman’s ego, so we are at a disadvantage when it comes to that, especially if we are attractive or have a status or have money or have all three! Women are always eyeing us, trying to get our attention and with the slightest bit of neglect from you, make it easier to submit to the desires of a woman who is obviously trying to give us the goods. So, if anything, if our egos need stroking, guess what, something else of ours will get the stroking.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Police suspect murder-suicide in Arizona family’s death

In Child abuse, Police suspect murder-suicide in Arizona family's death, Uncategorized, Violence Against Males, Violence Against Women, women talk on August 10, 2009 at 4:02 am

Well my dear friends we are back to the old and popular. Murder and suicide. Life is so precious why take anothers and why take your own?

Coyfee signing off…..

 

Police suspect murder-suicide in Arizona family’s death

updated 2:12 p.m. EDT, Fri August 7, 2009

(CNN) — Police in Scottsdale, Arizona, said Friday that they don’t know why a man fatally shot his two young sons and a woman believed to be his wife before turning the gun on himself. The bodies had been in the family’s rental home for several days before they were discovered Thursday afternoon, police spokesman Dave Pubins said in a statement. An out-of-state relative told police that the family had been out of touch and asked them to check the residence, Pubins said.

 

The father was identified Friday morning as Russell Gilman, 48, and the woman was tentatively identified as his wife, Stacey, Pubins said. He said a definite identification of the woman, thought to be 45 years old, was expected after an autopsy. The boys, who were not named, were ages 3 and 7, Pubins said. A second police spokesman, Mark Clark, told CNN affiliate KNXV-TV that a note and a weapon were found in the home, but he didn’t elaborate.

 

“They seemed to be very normal people, other than being quiet, no explanation, really,” neighbor Wayne Lehsten said. He added that the four never participated in neighborhood activities like block parties. “They kept to themselves,” he said. “We would greet them once in a while as we saw him take the children to school.” Pubins called the deaths “a tragic event” and said there was nothing to show that anyone outside the home was involved. A neighbor, who identified herself as Carrie, said she saw the commotion and police cars as she drove to her house. “I have children, and that makes me sad,” she told CNN affiliate KTVK-TV3. “This is the kind of a community — these few blocks here — [where] people are very friendly. There are potlucks and Halloween get-togethers, so why couldn’t they reach out to somebody?”

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:OPD Arrests Mom of 5-year-old that was Shot Accidentally

In Child abuse, OPD Arrests Mom of 5-year-old that was Shot Accidentally, Uncategorized, women talk on August 9, 2009 at 10:25 am

Another child has been injured. This time a little girl has been shot accidentally from a gun that was kept in her home. Her mom has been arrested and bail was set.  It seems that the child is doing better but we need to know how the other child got the weapon..if in fact that is how the child was shot.  No one seemed to know at the time of the accident..Please pray for the family and the children..

Coyfee signing off…

Arkeisha PerezThe mother of a 5-year-old girl who was shot accidentally at an Orlando apartment complex has been arrested, police said Wednesday.

Arkeisha Perez, 26, was charged with aggravated child abuse, allowing a minor access to a weapon with injury and unsafe storage of a firearm, police said. Her other children were placed with relatives.

Exactly what happened is unclear. The girl’s father, Jarvis Sims, told reporters that another child may have shot her. That could not be confirmed.

Jazyire Emery Sims, 5, who is in critical condition, was standing near the front door of her mother’s home at Willow Bend Apartments when a bullet pierced her body about 11 p.m. Tuesday, police said.

After the shooting, the girl’s mother and uncle began to drive her to the hospital. But after a few miles, they flagged down an Orange County deputy on Hiawassee Road at Ironwood Drive, police Lt. Darryl Braunskill said.

An ambulance was called to the intersection and took the child to the hospital. She was taken into emergency surgery and was recovering Wednesday at Arnold Palmer Hospital for Children.

When Jazyire is released, she will be placed in a foster home, Department of Children and Families spokeswoman Carrie Hoeppner said.

Perez was brought from the hospital to Orlando police headquarters, questioned for two hours and arrested about 4 p.m., police said. She was booked into the Orange County Jail with bail set at $2,700.

Few residents were outside at the complex Wednesday morning. Some men surveyed the door to the apartment where the child was shot, even as large cockroaches crawled on the walls and the pavement nearby.

“It’s too close to home,” said Alnisa Jackson, 22, who lives with her children and their father in the building next door to where the girl was shot. “It’s not safe.”

Jackson’s 3-year-old daughter often played with the injured child.

Another neighbor, Anthony Miles, sat outside his apartment smoking cigarettes. He was home Tuesday night when the police arrived but didn’t hear the gunshot.

“I was at home, and I heard the cops,” Miles said. “Then someone knocked on my door and said the baby’s been shot.”

Miles said the apartment complex is dangerous, and he tries not to go outside at night.

“Right now is the safest time to be outside,” he said. “I’m scared to come outside at night. It’s just a bad neighborhood.”

Investigators are trying to determine how many people were in the apartment when the shooting occurred. Jazyire has three siblings. A judge Wednesday ordered them placed with a relative, Hoeppner said. One of the children was home when Jazyire was shot. The other two were with a family member.

Witnesses at the apartment complex have not provided any leads in the case, Braunskill said.

“We don’t have any suspects,” Braunskill said. “You got people in the apartment complex and something happened. They have to have some sort of idea of what happened or saw what was going on at the apartment.”

He said the lack of cooperation from witnesses is frustrating.

“It hinders us from doing our job and puts the general public at risk,” Braunskill said. “We’ve got one or more subjects that has hit a 5-year-old girl with a bullet, and they are out there running around with a firearm.”

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Strange and Unusual: Man claims his cat downloads porn

In Child abuse, Dog eat your homework? Man claims his cat downloads porn, Uncategorized, women talk on August 9, 2009 at 9:13 am

People in Florida must be on a roll…check out the below story..this is hillarious but serious..the dude needs to be locked up and have the key thrown away..

Coyfee is signing off..

Dog eat your homework? Man claims his cat downloads porn

> Posted by Barbara Hijek on August 7, 2009 07:15 AM

We once worked with a guy who said he was late to work because his cat peed on his alarm clock and shorted it out.

But we like this cat story better.

Keith R. Griffin, 48, of Jensen Beach has a cat.

And you know what that pussy does?

Downloads porn!

So Griffin says.

But cops weren’t convinced.

Instead, they charged Griffin with 10 counts of possession of child pornography after a detective found more than 1,000 child pornographic images on his computer, reports TCPalm.com.

Griffin gave it a good shot.

He told detectives he would leave his computer on and his cat would jump on the keyboard.

And when he returned there will be strange material downloaded.

Griffin was in Martin County Jail in lieu of $250,000 bail.

Maybe the cat is now busy poking friends on Facebook.

This is what we call kitty porn.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:(Update)Scorned Women Seek Revenge on Three-Timer-Jailed

In A man's Version of the Dating Game, Child abuse, Scorned Women Seek Revenge on Three-Timer, Uncategorized, Violence Against Women, women talk, Women used Krazy Glue on August 7, 2009 at 5:58 am

Folks, not only is the guy a cheater but also is suspected of abusing a child.  He is a real 5 time looser. Not much to say except thank God he is locked up.  No more pain at his hands..prayerfully…

Coyfee signing off…

 

Man Who Said Women Krazy-Glued His Private Parts Is Arrested

By Associated Press August 6, 2009 9:50 am

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The eastern Wisconsin man who was the victim in a bizarre plot to punish him for disloyalty in a lover’s quadrangle is in jail.

Fond du Lac Police Capt. Steven Klein said Wednesday the 36-year-old Donessa Davis was arrested Tuesday on allegations of child abuse, theft, unlawful phone use and harassment with a death threat in a domestic abuse investigation.

The Fond du Lac County district attorney’s office says no charges have been filed.

A criminal complaint says four women, including the Davis’ wife, were charged in Calumet County last week with being party to false imprisonment after Donessa Davis was tied up and his penis was glued to his stomach at a Stockbridge motel. One of the women was also charged with fourth-degree sexual assault.

Authorities say three of the women were romantically involved with Davis.

 

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Teacher’s Pet: Queens Teacher Pleads Guilty to Rape

In Child abuse, Queens teacher pleads guilty to rape, Uncategorized, women talk on August 6, 2009 at 12:15 pm

Folks! She is getting off real easy. If she was a man ..we would be screaming unfairness..

Coyfee signing off

 

 

Queens teacher pleads guilty to rape

BY Brendan Brosh
DAILY NEWS WRITER

Wednesday, August 5th 2009, 11:48 AM

Anderson for News Schoolteacher Melissa Weber was charged with having sex with her 14-yr-old student. 

A Queens public school teacher pleaded guilty to second-degree rape charges Tuesday for having sex with a 14-year-old student.

Melissa Weber, 28, was sentenced to time served, 10 years probation and has to register as a sex offender for the next 20 years.

The social studies teacher had sex with the male student seven times in an empty second-floor classroom at Middle School/Intermediate School 8 in Jamaica between April 13 and May14.

The romps all occurred between 3p.m. and 6 p.m.

Weber, who cried during the hearing, agreed to give up her teaching license and enter sex-offender treatment.

The victim’s mother, who was a member of the Parent Teacher Association, was tipped off about the trysts.

The mother inspected her son’s cell phone and found hundreds of calls and text messages from Weber on it, with the last one reading, “Erase your phone.”

“She said she was remorseful,” said Weber’s lawyer, Donald Vogelman, who blamed his client’s behavior on a dysfunctional upbringing. “She accepted responsibility for what she did.”

The family agreed to the plea deal because they didn’t want the teenager to have to testify in a lengthy court case, prosecutors said. Weber, from West Babylon, L.I., is also barred from all social networking sites frequented by minors.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Sandstone Woman Charged with Murdering Daughter

In Sandstone Woman Charged with Murdering Daughter, Uncategorized on August 6, 2009 at 11:04 am
This mom wins the worst mom of the year award. This story is so un-nerving that a mother could kill her own child.  I now see why men frequently compare women to dogs; female dogs sometime kill their own young. 
 
I continue to advocate for safety nets for children of parents of mental illness. When my children were younger I would get upset and not see the good in the social workers that hovered over me.  They were already mothers and had children of their own. They knew how difficult it would be and they were trying to prepare me for the bumps in the road.  I recieved their and now I try to carry the torch to other young mothers. offering advice and support.
 
Please contact your Congressman and tell them Social workers need more funding.  We need them to be able to counsel and support the mothers that maybe in crisis. It is a difficult thing to have to admit that you need help with your child.  It makes a mom feel like a failure.  I know, I felt that way and it was difficult to become confident in my craft(mothering).
 
Coyfee signing off…
8/4/09

Sandstone Woman Charged with Murdering Daughter

by Mike Gainor

Three years after the death of 10-year-old Lakesha Victor, Pine County investigators have mounted a murder case against her mother.

A Sandstone woman Ludusky Sue Hotchkiss, 29, of Sandstone, formerly of Hinckley, has been charged with second-degree murder and three counts of second-degree manslaughter in the death of her 10-year-old daughter on Aug. 20, 2006

Hotchkiss was accused of felony neglect and endangerment for failing to provide her severely-disabled daughter with proper nutrition, health care or supervision, which led directly to her death.

Charges were filed against Hotchkiss in Pine County District Court on July 15.

According to police reports, Pine County Sheriff’s Department deputies were dispatched to a home in Hinckley on the night of Aug. 20, 2006 on a report that a child was not breathing. In the residence, Victor’s body was lying on the sofa next to Hotchkiss. Her arms and legs were stiff, and blood had pooled in the lowest parts of her body, indicating that she had been deceased for some time. Hotchkiss went out to the front lawn where she was “crying and vomiting on the ground,” and told a deputy that her home had been broken into the night before, and now felt “like she was raped too.”

She asked a deputy to take pictures of bruises on her body. When the deputy replied that they had to complete the death investigation first, Hotchkiss left the premises and did not return.

In the Hotchkiss residence

Police determined that four other children, ages ranging from 2 to 11, lived on the premises with Hotchkiss. No other adults lived there.

They learned that Victor had suffered from cerebral palsy, seizure disorder, autism, and had used a feeding tube since 2005. She was not able to talk, and was very limited in other forms of communication.

In the girl’s room, deputies found two bare mattresses on the floor, which was strewn with clothes, dirty dishes and other items. In an autopsy, medical examiners determined that the child had been suffering from pneumonia, malnutrition and dehydration.

They also found a bottle of seizure medication, dated March 18, 2005, with 24 pills inside. Victor was supposed to be receiving this medication twice a day.

Medical records also showed that when the girl was last seen by a doctor on May 9, 2006 she weighed 47 pounds. At the time of her death on Aug. 20, she weighed 31 pounds, a 34-percent weight loss.

Victor was prescribed eight cans of Pediasure a day to maintain her nutrition. Records showed that 116 cases of 24 cans of Peidasure were delivered to the Hotchkiss residence between March 17, 2005 and April 12, 2006, enough for 348 days. However, no Pediasure was ordered or delivered to the Hotchkiss residence in May or June of 2006. Eight cases of Peidasure – enough for 24 days – were delivered on July 7. No Pediasure was delivered in August.

A personal care attendant was supposed to be looking after Victor on the night of her death, but though his timesheet recorded he was working at that time, he admitted he was not there that day. Hotchkiss’ son told police that the attendant was rarely at the house, though the attendant had submitted timesheets purportedly showing he had been working most days. A neighbor reported to police that Hotchkiss had said that she signed off on the attendant’s timesheets, and then she and he split the money he received.

An assessor from Community Alternatives for Disabled Individuals visited Hotchkiss and her daughter on Aug. 17 and noted that the girl was dressed in jeans and a sweatshirt even though the weather was hot. Hotchkiss has repeatedly told investigators that Victor “was fine” on that date, three days before her daughter’s death.

The maximum penalty for second-degree murder is 40 years in prison. The maximum penalty for each of the three second-degree manslaughter charges is 10 years in prison, a $20,000 fine, or both.

Hotchkiss is not in custody at this time. Her first appearance in Pine County Court is scheduled for Sept.29 at 9 a.m.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Essex County Corrections officer kills Herself and Her baby

In Baby Is killed by His Mother, Child abuse, Essex County corrections officer kills herself and her baby, Uncategorized, Violence Against Women, women talk on August 5, 2009 at 9:28 am

Domestic Violence on the reverse…Essex County corrections officer kills self and her baby

Coyfee signing off…

Essex County corrections officer kills self and her baby

 by James Queally/The Star-Ledger Tuesday August 04, 2009, 5:30 AM

 

NEWARK — An Essex County corrections officer shot and critically injured her boyfriend, then held police at bay for nearly two hours until turning the gun on her infant son, fatally wounding the baby before killing herself Monday afternoon, authorities said. Kelly R. McKenith, 39, of Newark, was pronounced dead at 5:48 p.m. at University Hospital just minutes after her 4-month-old son, Kaire McKenith, was pronounced dead from a single gunshot wound to the chest, said Paul Loriquet, a spokesman for the Essex County Prosecutor’s Office. Andrew Mills/The Star-Ledger Woman cries at the scene where an Essex County Corrections Officer Kelly McKenith shot and killed her 4-month-old son, and herself in the city’s south ward.

 

 McKenith, who was hired by the Essex County Corrections Office in February 2005 and worked at the county jail in Newark, shot her boyfriend Louis Goosby, 28, three times, striking him at least once in the leg and grazing his ear, Loriquet said. Goosby remained in critical but stable condition Monday night at the Newark hospital. Authorities and neighbors believe Goosby is the baby’s father. “This is a tragic day for the city. We’ve lost a child. We’ve lost our child,” Mayor Cory Booker said during a press conference less than an hour after the shooting, which took place at McKenith’s two-story home on Huntington Terrace in the city’s South Ward. “This is a senseless act of violence.” N.J. Department of Corrections Louis GoosbyPolice Director Garry McCarthy said police responded to reports of a dispute at the Huntington Terrace home around 3:45 p.m. When officers arrived, Goosby told them he had jumped out of a second-story window to escape an assault from his girlfriend, McCarthy said. McKenith barricaded herself inside the house with the baby, forcing police to establish a perimeter and set up a mobile command post, McCarthy said.

 

 Over the next hour, a police negotiatior made contact several times with McKenith, who agreed to surrender and bring the baby out, unharmed, as soon as she got dressed. But around 5:20 p.m. police heard gunfire from inside the house. When officers entered, they found both mother and son suffering from gunshot wounds. McKenith apparently fired two shots, striking the child once in the chest before shooting herself in the head, said police Detective Todd McClendon, a spokesman. Both victims were taken to University Hospital, where they later died. Neighbors screamed when they heard what had happened. One woman collapsed in tears in the middle of the street. “Tell me this is a dream,” one neighbor said. Andrew Mills/The Star-Ledger Newark Police Director Garry McCarthy, center, Essex County Executive Joseph N. DiVincenzo, Jr. and Newark Mayor Cory Booker, right, walk away from the scene where an Essex County Corrections Officer Kelly McKenith shot and killed her 4-month old son, Kaire McKenith, wounded her boyfriend and took her own life in Newark. McCarthy and Essex County Executive Joseph N. DiVincenzo Jr. said they believed the gun McKenith used was her service weapon, issued by the county corrections department.

 

DiVincenzo said McKenith had an exemplary work record, leaving supervisors and colleagues to grasp for answers. “She was a good employee, and she did her job well at our correctional center,” he said. “There was nothing she was ever written up on. She followed procedures. It’s just a terrible, terrible tragedy. What made her flip? What made her snap? Nobody can understand how something like this could have happened.” DiVincenzo said McKenith had recently returned from maternity leave. Internal affairs investigators were exploring the possibility McKenith met Goosby while he was an inmate at the county jail. Goosby has a record that includes convictions for drug-dealing, weapons possession and death by auto. DiVincenzo said investigators would seek to match up the dates to determine whether Goosby was in the county lockup while McKenith worked there. “It’s something that has to be looked at,” the county executive said. According to state Department of Corrections records, Goosby was released from prison in June 2006 after serving time for a weapons conviction stemming from a December 2003 incident. Newark officials talk about Kelly McKenith who killed her baby and herself Goosby spent two days in the Essex County Jail in January, though it was not immediately clear whether he was in the same area as McKenith or if the two ever came in contact. Goosby had passed through the jail at least four other times dating to 1998, but all of those cases were before McKenith began her job in 2005. Al Ortiz, the jail’s acting director, said it’s possible the two knew one another long before McKenith came to work at the jail. “She may have known him before, during and after,” he said.

 

South Ward Councilman Oscar James, who lives on Schuyler Avenue, a block away from the shooting, was within earshot during the final moments leading up to McKenith’s suicide. “You could hear the baby crying,” James said, shaking his head. “It was pretty disturbing.” Marcus Nunn was visiting his aunt on Huntington Terrace when he heard several shots from the direction of McKenith’s two-story brick face home. Moments later, he said, he saw a man in a white shirt walk across Hawthorne, his shirt blood-soaked. A family friend, who only identified himself as “Zak,” said McKenith was a lifelong Newark resident who always made a point of staying out of trouble. “She never had a record, never did nothing,” he said. “She didn’t drink, she didn’t smoke. Kelly was a good girl. All her life, she was a good girl.” Officials are still trying to determine what led up to today’s dispute, but Booker promised a thorough investigation and said the city needed answers following what he described as a “truly heinous act.” “When you lose a child,” he said, “you lose a piece of your city.” Staff writers Mark Mueller and Rohan Mascarenhas contributed to this report.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents In Black Church:Pastor’s Ex Reveals “Life After The Down Low”

In Black Church, Black Men on Down Low-Pastors, Child abuse, homosexuality, Spiritual healing, Uncategorized, women talk on August 5, 2009 at 12:41 am

This is Coyfee attempting to share about the below subject.  I am not comfortable commentating on this. I will only add that Ingrid is not alone.  It has become as infectious as the Swine Flu.

 

What? Pastors-Men in leadership..taking the innocence away of not only our daughters but our sons also..It is a shame and a disgrace..But what of the women and families that these men (pastors) leave behind to wear the garment of shame..Please pray for the families that are left to pull the shredded fabric together to attempt to design cloaks that will once again cover them..

Coyfee signing off..

Pastor’s Ex Reveals “Life After The Down Low”

By Sheeri Mitchell May 14, 2009 2:39 pm

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Nearly two years ago, Ingrid Michelle was leveled by the shocking truth. Her then-husband of 12 years revealed that he had engaged in oral sex with a young man they both knew. The problem? Apart from being her spouse at the time of the “incident” her husband had been a youth pastor at a thriving church. And the young man? A former member of the flock. After recovering from the initial shock, Ingrid would be confronted with mounting evidence and eyewitness testimony that she had married not only a man who had been living life on the down low, but who was also an accused pedophile.  Shocked and disgusted to her core, Ingrid would have to pick up the pieces of a shattered life and begin again.  It would get much worse before it got better.

Below is her story in her own words:

I’ll never forget May 27th 2007 for as long as I live. Maybe I should, but right now it sticks out like a sore thumb. Contrary to it being the day of the greatest catastrophe in my personal history, the Southern California morning sun was in rare form. It was perfectly warm with a delicious hint of a Sunday breeze. The day started off as any day would. We went to church and came home to enjoy a quiet relaxing afternoon while Bobby grilled ahi tuna, fresh green onions and garlic. The salad that would be birthed was one we had mastered and my mouth watered anticipating the taste. We grubbed as if the last supper and lay around the remainder of the day. Devan tuckered out long before our expected television marathon and Bobby and I nestled into our king sized bed on either side of him with remote in hand to watch our favorite line up – Desperate Housewives and Brothers and Sisters. Just after the credits rolled, Bobby turned the television off. My initial thought was to slide under the covers and turn the lights out but I heard him take a deep breath as if he wanted to say something. I thought nothing of it, but it was when he faced me that things felt a little weird. We had just finished chuckling and trying to figure out who did what on Wisteria Lane and suddenly the mood instantly became serious.

“Okay! I have something to tell you,” he said.

There was a pregnant pause. There was something slightly eerie about this particular silence. It wasn’t anything that I had ever felt. The once smile that graced my face became a little disconcerted. I carefully made eye contact with him. I could feel the palpitations of my heart. His stare was drenched with garden of Gethsemane typed anguish. I knew it was something bad.

“Okay!” He took a deep sigh. “So…I’ve been smoking weed for a while now and I exchanged oral sex with Elliott.”

There it was; a massive head on collision. In the spirit, I could see the carnage as it lay in wake and embarrassed for him, I could no longer gaze his way. My head instantly became a fog as I drifted. It felt like an out of body experience where my entire life seemed to flash before me. I kept thinking to myself, did he just say he and Elliott had sex? Elliott? Elliott? Is this the same Elliott that we once mentored in our youth ministry? The same Elliott who was molested as a young lad and then was subsequently emasculated by his domineering mother? Was this the Elliott that Bobby spoke of? The Elliott whose dancer’s body enticed a number of young girls and had adult women yearning? Was this the same person? ‘Please God!’ I pleaded within me. He was someone that Bobby was supposed to have been keeping accountable to his walk with Christ, particularly as it related to his sexual confusion. Was he saying to me that the very person he led as youth Pastor and mentored, he slept with?

As I tried to wrap my mind around what he had just disclosed about him and Elliott, I kept thinking, ‘damn it!’ This m’fer was in my house somewhere giving and receiving a blow job from a young man that was just shy of being a minor and I’m out in the hot ass sun selling hand-painted t-shirts trying to make a dollar out of fifteen cents while fulfilling our supposed dream. Was he serious? Elliott was supposed to have visited us for a collective visit to see the Dance Theatre, not to be in bed with my husband smoking marijuana together like some out of control high school sex fiend. My head was spinning. I couldn’t think. I stared at the wall for what felt like hours. I couldn’t really grasp what my “husband” had just revealed to me. Was this really happening to me? This was something that I would read about. This was an Ebony article, not my life an Oprah story, not my life. What in the hell was I to do with this…