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ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson’s Home

In Entertainment, Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson's Home, Uncategorized on August 28, 2009 at 1:03 pm

Hello Folks..I have unpacking..my family and I moved out of the state..So I pray all has been well with everyone..

I am truly not suprised that illegal drugs were found..I am however disappointed that his family was not able to intervene to save him..

Coyfee signing off…

 

Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson’s Home

By Howard Breuer

Originally posted Thursday August 27, 2009 07:20 PM EDT

Michael Jackson Photo by: Carlo Allegri / Getty
Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson's Home | Michael Jackson

Marijuana and numerous empty drug bottles were found by police officers at Michael Jackson’s home shortly after he died, according to search warrants unsealed on Thursday.

Two bags of marijuana, a bottle of temazepam (used to treat sleeplessness), empty bottles of the sedatives lorzaepam and diazepam were discovered during the search. They also found four other empty pill bottles with no indication as to what may have been in them.

Detectives were concerned that, when Jackson died, he had “received injection of an unknown medication, prior to his death,” the warrants say. Other documents revealed that Jackson’s doctor, Conrad Murray, had been giving the singer the anesthetic propofol intravenously.

The search warrants were served on June 29, four days after the singer was pronounced dead at UCLA Medical Center, where Murray was less than forthcoming. Murray, according to documents, left the hospital “against the objections of the investigating officers” and they were not able to talk with him in the days that followed.

The warrant also says that, on the day of Jackson’s death, as investigators were at the house, “family members of the decedent notified Los Angeles County Coroner’s Assistant Chief Ed Winter that they had located a quantity of tar heroin in [Jackson’s] bedroom on the second floor of the residence. Winter notified LAPD detectives of the found evidence.” There is no mention in the warrant if the evidence really turned out to be heroin.

Winter told PEOPLE on Thursday that he cannot discuss the evidence or say when the results of Jackson’s autopsy will be revealed.

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ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point View: What is True Love?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Dating and the Single Woman, expressing her support for the troops as they prepared to invade Iraq, Forgiveness, Spiritual healing, Uncategorized, What is True Love?, women talk on August 8, 2009 at 11:38 am

Hi Guys and Gals..

I have been pondering the same thing.  This peace submitted by one of my close friends is an interesting topic. LOVE..I must be honest and share that I think I have been chasing it all of my adult life. LOVE..someone to hold me when I am scare..someone to caress me when I am lonely..someone to assure me that all will be well when I am uncertain..someone to be amazed by every inch of me..adoring the very dimples on even my thighs..(I am a big girl) smile..

I have hoped that one day a man will enter my life and be the missing link but until then I live..to the fullest..not down trotten..not angry..not forgetting to every breath as a gift from God. I will live everyday to the absolute fullest..if that MAN never arrives..I will have lived everyday to the absolute extreme..AND Love should it tarry will be a welcome guess in my home…

For now the LOVE of GOD is usual and eternal. He never stops loving us even when we forget that He is there..

Coyfee signing off…

What is True Love?

Posted on August 6, 2009 by theoraclemag

love canvasWhat we could use in the world today more then anything else is love. True love, real love. If mankind had authentic love for one another, war, world hunger, homelessness, abuse, crime and so on would all come to an end. Love begins and ends with GOD. He is the author. It was created by him and out of his nature. When we, as Christians were filled with the Holy Spirit, he gave us the spirit of love as a gift. It is his desire that we share this gift with all that we come in contact with. We are most like GOD when we show love. In truth The Bible records the greatest love story ever written, GOD’s unconditional love for his that sent his “Sun” to die on the cross (John 3:16; 1 John 4:10).

Love is more then attribute of GOD. It is in fact apart of his nature (Dueut. 7:7-8). According to the Bible “GOD is love,” that is he is the personification of love (1 Jn 4:8, 16). This type of love out reaches human understanding (Eph. 3:19). The love of GOD is everlasting (Jer. 31:3), free (Hos. 14:4) sacrificial (Jn 3:16), and enduring to the end (Jn 13:1).

In GOD’s Word there are two different Greek words that mean “to love.” The word phileo means “to have ardent affection and feeling,” a brotherly love. This is why Phillidphia is known as “the city of brotherly love.” The word “agapao” means “to have esteem or high regard”

GOD blessed Each of us with spiritual gifts. Shamefully many of us use these gifts to glorify ourselves. According to 1 Corinthians 13:2 this has nothing to do with love. But then in verse 3 of the same chapter Paul teaches that giving with out true love is pointless. If we give to feed our pride, we are giving in vain!

Remember we said “GOD is love” and love is his nature. 1 Cor. 13: 4-7 list the Characteristics of love which so happen to be the characteristics of GOD. Love “is patient,” meaning it suffers long with people.; no matter the evil and the injury done by a person; no matter the neglect from a loved one, without anger. Love “is kind,” meaning it is good, helpful and giving. It does not hurt. Love does not envy; it does not get Jealous. Love does not boast; does not brag or seek honor or recognition. Love is not proud or arrogant and conceited. It’s not about thinking your better then others. Love is not rude. It is full of order and control. It does not shame itself. Love is not self seeking, meaning its not selfish. It seeks to serve. Love is not easily angered, not ready to take offense. Not “touchy.” Love keeps no record of wrongs, does not consider the wrong suffered. It suffers the evil done to it and forgets it Love does not delight in evil or take pleasure of the sin of others Love rejoices when the truth is rooted and grounded in a person and among all people. Love Protects and bears all things. The Word protects or bears means both to cover all things and to bear up under all things. Love always trusts. It is completely trusting. It accepts and believes the very best about a person Love always hopes; it never stops hoping. It expects the good to eventfully triumph. Love always preserves. The word preserves is a military word meaning to stand against the attack of an enemy. Love is strong and full of fight.

But are you full of Love?

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Fairy-Tale: Gulf War penpals get married after Facebook encounter 19 years later

In 13-year-old Jaime Benefit wrote a letter addressed to "Any Soldier" during the Persian Gulf War, A Man's Point Of View, Dating and the Single Woman, expressing her support for the troops as they prepared to invade Iraq, Nearly two decades ago, Uncategorized, women talk on August 6, 2009 at 12:33 pm

Ladies, miracles still happen. Read below..I thought some joy was needed in light of all the violence we see in today’s society.  Kinda makes me still hope a little for Mr. Right..or Mr. Wrong with a change of heart..smile…

Coyfee signing off…

 

Gulf War penpals get married after Facebook encounter 19 years later

BY Stephanie Gaskell
DAILY NEWS STAFF WRITER

Tuesday, August 4th 2009, 12:42 PM

Jaime Benefit and Jeremy Clayton met as pen pals during the 1991 Persian Gulf War. 

They reconnected this year over Facebook and were married July 15 on the beach in Charleston, S.C. They reconnected this year over Facebook and were married July 15 on the beach in Charleston, S.C.

 

It started with a letter – and ended in a wedding.

Nearly two decades ago, 13-year-old Jaime Benefit wrote a letter addressed to “Any Soldier” during the Persian Gulf War, expressing her support for the troops as they prepared to invade Iraq.

The letter made its way to Pfc. Jeremy Clayton, a 19-year-old soldier from Charleston, S.C., who was serving with the 3rd Armored Cavalry Regiment.

The two became pen pals, writing back and forth about sports, high school and their families.

“Just stuff to keep their minds off of what was going on and keep their spirits up,” said Benefit, 32.

After the war ended, the two stopped writing, but Benefit always wondered what happened to Clayton.

“I’d always kept his letters,” she said. “I had them wrapped in a red-white-and-blue ribbon.”

Earlier this year, she searched his name on Facebook and sent him a short note: “Were you in Desert Storm?”

Clayton, 38, now out of the Army, saw the message and had one reaction: “Shock and awe.”

“I just knew I had to find out what she was doing,” he recalled.

The two agreed to meet in March, and their fate was sealed.

“It took my breath,” Clayton said of seeing his one-time pen pal in the flesh. “I was actually shaking and I’m a pretty strong man. I just said to myself, ‘You have to do whatever you can to make sure you spend the rest of your life with this woman.'”

Clayton proposed not long after, and the two got married July 15 in a simple ceremony on the beach in Charleston.

“It was fate that I got her letter,” he said. “And her finding me 19 years later was fate.”

The Internet may have brought the newlyweds together, but they still rely on good old pen and paper to keep their bond strong.

“She writes me notes every morning and puts them in my lunch,” he said.

sgaskell@nydailynews.com

ConversationswitCoyfee presents In Black Church:Pastor’s Ex Reveals “Life After The Down Low”

In Black Church, Black Men on Down Low-Pastors, Child abuse, homosexuality, Spiritual healing, Uncategorized, women talk on August 5, 2009 at 12:41 am

This is Coyfee attempting to share about the below subject.  I am not comfortable commentating on this. I will only add that Ingrid is not alone.  It has become as infectious as the Swine Flu.

 

What? Pastors-Men in leadership..taking the innocence away of not only our daughters but our sons also..It is a shame and a disgrace..But what of the women and families that these men (pastors) leave behind to wear the garment of shame..Please pray for the families that are left to pull the shredded fabric together to attempt to design cloaks that will once again cover them..

Coyfee signing off..

Pastor’s Ex Reveals “Life After The Down Low”

By Sheeri Mitchell May 14, 2009 2:39 pm

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Nearly two years ago, Ingrid Michelle was leveled by the shocking truth. Her then-husband of 12 years revealed that he had engaged in oral sex with a young man they both knew. The problem? Apart from being her spouse at the time of the “incident” her husband had been a youth pastor at a thriving church. And the young man? A former member of the flock. After recovering from the initial shock, Ingrid would be confronted with mounting evidence and eyewitness testimony that she had married not only a man who had been living life on the down low, but who was also an accused pedophile.  Shocked and disgusted to her core, Ingrid would have to pick up the pieces of a shattered life and begin again.  It would get much worse before it got better.

Below is her story in her own words:

I’ll never forget May 27th 2007 for as long as I live. Maybe I should, but right now it sticks out like a sore thumb. Contrary to it being the day of the greatest catastrophe in my personal history, the Southern California morning sun was in rare form. It was perfectly warm with a delicious hint of a Sunday breeze. The day started off as any day would. We went to church and came home to enjoy a quiet relaxing afternoon while Bobby grilled ahi tuna, fresh green onions and garlic. The salad that would be birthed was one we had mastered and my mouth watered anticipating the taste. We grubbed as if the last supper and lay around the remainder of the day. Devan tuckered out long before our expected television marathon and Bobby and I nestled into our king sized bed on either side of him with remote in hand to watch our favorite line up – Desperate Housewives and Brothers and Sisters. Just after the credits rolled, Bobby turned the television off. My initial thought was to slide under the covers and turn the lights out but I heard him take a deep breath as if he wanted to say something. I thought nothing of it, but it was when he faced me that things felt a little weird. We had just finished chuckling and trying to figure out who did what on Wisteria Lane and suddenly the mood instantly became serious.

“Okay! I have something to tell you,” he said.

There was a pregnant pause. There was something slightly eerie about this particular silence. It wasn’t anything that I had ever felt. The once smile that graced my face became a little disconcerted. I carefully made eye contact with him. I could feel the palpitations of my heart. His stare was drenched with garden of Gethsemane typed anguish. I knew it was something bad.

“Okay!” He took a deep sigh. “So…I’ve been smoking weed for a while now and I exchanged oral sex with Elliott.”

There it was; a massive head on collision. In the spirit, I could see the carnage as it lay in wake and embarrassed for him, I could no longer gaze his way. My head instantly became a fog as I drifted. It felt like an out of body experience where my entire life seemed to flash before me. I kept thinking to myself, did he just say he and Elliott had sex? Elliott? Elliott? Is this the same Elliott that we once mentored in our youth ministry? The same Elliott who was molested as a young lad and then was subsequently emasculated by his domineering mother? Was this the Elliott that Bobby spoke of? The Elliott whose dancer’s body enticed a number of young girls and had adult women yearning? Was this the same person? ‘Please God!’ I pleaded within me. He was someone that Bobby was supposed to have been keeping accountable to his walk with Christ, particularly as it related to his sexual confusion. Was he saying to me that the very person he led as youth Pastor and mentored, he slept with?

As I tried to wrap my mind around what he had just disclosed about him and Elliott, I kept thinking, ‘damn it!’ This m’fer was in my house somewhere giving and receiving a blow job from a young man that was just shy of being a minor and I’m out in the hot ass sun selling hand-painted t-shirts trying to make a dollar out of fifteen cents while fulfilling our supposed dream. Was he serious? Elliott was supposed to have visited us for a collective visit to see the Dance Theatre, not to be in bed with my husband smoking marijuana together like some out of control high school sex fiend. My head was spinning. I couldn’t think. I stared at the wall for what felt like hours. I couldn’t really grasp what my “husband” had just revealed to me. Was this really happening to me? This was something that I would read about. This was an Ebony article, not my life an Oprah story, not my life. What in the hell was I to do with this…

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Ask The Black Man:Can A Woman Be In Love With Two Different Men?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Ask the black man, Polyamory - Open Relationships, Uncategorized, women talk on August 5, 2009 at 12:15 am

Greetings..

Here’s an age old topic, that’s sure to stir some discussion.  TBM was recently asked if “Can a woman Be In Love With Two Different Men?”. What do you think? I personally think it is possible and not just based on sexual attraction.  I think in life we as people need different things from different people but saying that mouthful. Should we(women) establish and maintain a relationship with two different men? Well please tell me how you feel about this topic..I thought it might lessen the week long blahs for those of us that continue to sadden by continued violence against our children.

This is Coyfee signing off…Now to the “Ask The Black Man”

Can A Woman Be In Love With Two Different Men?

Posted Aug 3

Dear Blackman,

Can a woman be in love with two different men? -LT

 The Blackman: Hi LT, That circumstance would be a rare one but I believe anything is possible in life. I feel that you can have love for two people but can only be in love with one person. It’s very important to have a clear distinction of your feelings, not only in love but in lust. For example, some people think that they may be in love with someone but it is only pure sexual attraction. When the sexual attraction wears off then they feel they are not “in love” with that person anymore. It was never love in the first place. In conversations that I’ve had with many women, I’ve found that in regards to relationships their emotions get very wrapped up in a person that they are involved with (as anyone’s emotions should), so I would see it being difficult to have those same emotions towards two people at the same time. I think you can be in love with someone and can be extremely compatible with someone else. One must be clear on their feelings and what being “in love” really is. I feel being in love with two men at the same time is a very rare occurrence. That’s my 99 Cents worth. TBM

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point Of View: Exploring The Concepts of Polyamory – Open Relationships

In A Man's Point Of View, Polyamory - Open Relationships, Uncategorized, women talk on August 4, 2009 at 10:35 am

Would you Consider an Open Marriage? What’s Your Opinion? Do you Think it’s Wrong? How do You feel?

Salutations!

I have new topics just bubbling around in my head to share with you. The one for today is: Would you consider an open marriage

I was reading a part of a bio from JujuMama.  I will read almost anything even if I don’t agree with it.  So as I read her bio..she shared her story about how she made peace with the idea of her husband’s choice and eventually hers.

An open marriage ..well the road to this new type of relationship seemed bumpy almost not possible but her husband was very persistent.  He had a soo much love that he wanted to share it with another as well with the promise that it would not take away from his love for her.  Check out her story ..it’s quite interesting..

So after reading that story I knew I had to find out what the men I knew felt about this subject. So I went deep undercover and began my research..One of my friends, we will call him ‘T’ for short.  T was not even open to his wife flirting with other mens. Calm down ladies I am not saying that I agree or disagree with him.  However, I was joking around with one of my male friends and so I thought he would be my test subject.  Of course he has no idea that he is..shhhhs – Don’t tell, okay. 

Is it wrong to share your husband/wife with a secondary partner? Well I was honestly shocked that a man (member of the male species) would not like the idea of having sex with multiple women in the open. He stated that it would not be good to live this lifestyle with his wife knowing and he definitely would agree to his wife having a secondary partner.  I had to know more so I push a little more.  I wanted to know why not? I mean most married men have cheated at least once on their wife.  He remarked that it wouldn’t be the same if she(his wife) knew.

Well that was shocking but when I asked what if your wife wanted to embrace the lifestyle?  Well that was a definite NO. NO. No…No. So ladies, if your going to marry a guy like this …You won’t be able to have two men for if that’s your flavor..

Now if you have a personality that you have hidden from your girlfriend/boyfriend or fiance.  Now’s the time to discuss it with your partner before you solidify the arrangement.  Most people have two personalities and some are hard to hide? Well it takes a long time to share all of yourself with anyone..

Tell me your opinions about this topic? Talk2Me..

This is Coyfee signing off…..

 

 

 

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Scorned Women Seek Revenge on Three-Timer

In Scorned Women Seek Revenge on Three-Timer, Uncategorized, women talk, Women used Krazy Glue on August 2, 2009 at 11:19 am

Ladies and gentle the cost of infedility is growing higher and higher. In some cases the lost of life and in others embarassing bonding(Krazy glued) taking place. The below story is one that at first seems comical but after I got up off the floor and stopped laughing. I realized that someone’s heart was broken in fact, four women’s hearts were broken.  This man really should offer careful thought to what made him crush the hopeful hearts of these four women. I know someone is wondering why do I continue to count four when the report only states that there were three women. I have chosen to included his wife. Oh yes, she is the one who told the other women.

This is Coyfee signing off….

 

Scorned Women Seek Revenge on Three-Timer

Police Say Women Attacked Man, Applied Krazy Glue to Sensitive Parts

By ANDREA CANNING
Aug. 1, 2009

If you mess with one scorned woman, you’re bound to get burned. If you mess with two, things could really get ugly. Share Three women allegedly attack man who dated each of them while he was married. But what happens when you mess with three? An unidentified married Wisconsin man who was dating three women at the same time found out the hard way that it can only mean trouble.

 

After finding out that the same Casanova had been courting them all simultaneously, Michelle Belliveau, Wendy Sewell and Therese Ziemann allegedly lured the man to a local motel room to seek revenge. Police say Ziemann kicked off the plan, convincing the man to voluntarily agree to be bound and blindfolded with the promise of a massage. But instead, police say, she cut off his underwear and sent a text message to the other women to enter the room. Related Cold Feet Cost Hubby-to-Be $150kWATCH: Broken Heart Means Big PaydayWATCH: Man Pays for Bout of Cold Feet District Attorney:

 

Women Conspired to Allegedly Attack “This wasn’t a spur of the moment type of event in that all of the participants in the complaint and in the information provided were part and parcel of this plan,” said Ken Krantz, the district attorney of Calumet County, Wis. When the women came into the room, they allegedly attacked him and applied Krazy Glue to sensitive body parts. Reports show that they asked the victim which woman he loved more, which one he wanted to grow old with, slapped him in the face and then said, “Can you handle that?” The man was finally released after he started screaming, and police say the women fled with his cell phone, wallet and car. So, how did the trio find out about each other? Police say it was the man’s wife who informed them of the love quad.

 

According to the Appleton Post-Crescent newspaper, an arrest warrant was issued Friday for Tracy M. Hood-Davis, the victim’s wife, who also faces a charge of being a party to false imprisonment.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Finding Hope: A Homeless Community Under A Bridge

In Homeless Women, Living without Money, PROVIDENCE, R.I.'s Homeless community underneath a bridge, Uncategorized, women talk on July 31, 2009 at 2:32 pm

This story seems like the fate of many Americans. When both partners loose their jobs and they extend their savings a shelter maybe the next downward step.  I have wondered why the utilities are aloud to rise. Why is the cost of gas allowed to rise? Food to rise in cost? Tuition to rise? Basically everything has been allowed to rise in cost and price accept aid to families. The below community is organized and has a written code of conduct. Should the government recognize communities like this one? Should these communities get stimulus money to help its members get back on their feet? Talk2Me..tell me how you feel

Coyfee signing off….

  

Finding Shelter and Community Under a Bridge

Published: July 30, 2009

Timothy Webb, 49, left, and Bruce, 59, live in a tent city, dubbed Camp Runamuck in Providence under an overpass stretch of Route 195 that is scheduled for demolition. More Photos >

Nicole Bengiveno/The New York Times

Stephanie Proulx, 19, above, washing her hair near the camp’s bathroom. Residents of the tent city, who obey a written compact and vote on issues concerning them, share tasks and usually gather for supper at 6 p.m. More Photos »

The chief emerges from his tent to face the leaden morning light. It had been a rare, rough night in his homeless Brigadoon: a boozy brawl, the wielding of a knife taped to a stick. But the community handled it, he says with pride, his day’s first cigar already aglow.

By community he means 80 or so people living in tents on a spit of state land beside the dusky Providence River: Camp Runamuck, no certain address, downtown Providence.

Because the two men in the fight had violated the community’s written compact, they were escorted off the camp, away from the protection of an abandoned overpass. One was told we’ll discuss this in the morning; the other was voted off the island, his knife tossed into the river, his tent taken down.

The chief flicks his spent cigar into that same river. There is talk of rain tonight.

Behind him, the camp stirs. Other tent cities have sprung up recently around the country, but Rhode Island officials have never seen anything like this. A tea kettle sings.

A heavily pierced young person walks by without picking up an empty plastic bottle, flouting the camp compact that says everyone will share in the labor. The compact may be as impermanent as this sudden community by the river, but for now it is binding. The chief speaks, the bottle is picked up.

The chief, John Freitas, is 55, with a gray beard touched by tobacco rust. He did prison time decades ago, worked for years as a factory supervisor, then became homeless for all the familiar, complicated reasons.

Layoffs, health problems, a slip from apartment to motel room. His girlfriend, Barbara Kalil, 50, lost her job as a nursing-home nurse, and another slip, into the shelter system. A job holding store-liquidation signs beside the highway allowed for a climb back to a motel, but it didn’t last.

Weary of shelters, the couple pitched a pup tent in Roger Williams Park, close to a plaque bearing words Williams had used to describe this place he founded: “A Shelter for Persons in Distress.” But someone complained, so Mr. Freitas set off again in search of shelter. The March winds blew.

Down South Main Street he went, past the majestic court building and the upscale seafood restaurant, over a guardrail to a gravelly plot beneath a ramp that once guided cars toward Cape Cod. Foul-smelling and partially hidden, a place of birds and rodents, it was perfect.

He and Ms. Kalil set up camp with another couple in early April. Word of it spread from the shelters to Kennedy Plaza downtown, where homeless people share the same empty Tim Hortons cup to pose as customers worthy of visiting that doughnut chain’s restroom. The camp became 10 people, then 15, then 25. No children allowed.

“I was always considered the leader, the chief,” Mr. Freitas says. “I was the one consulted about ‘Where should I put my tent?’ ”

By late June the camp had about 50 people. But someone questioned the role of Mr. Freitas as chief, so he stepped down. Arguments broke out. Food was stolen.

“There was no center holding,” recalls Rachell Shaw, 22, who lives with her boyfriend in a tidy tent decorated with porcelain dolls. “So everybody voted him back in.”

The community also established a five-member leadership council and a compact that read in part: “No one person shall be greater than the will of the whole.”

It is now late afternoon in late July, a month after nearly everyone signed that compact. The community remains intact, though the very ground they walk on says nothing is forever. Here and there are the exposed foundations of fish shacks that lined the river long ago.

Some state officials recently stopped by to say, nicely but firmly, that everyone would soon have to leave. The overpass poses the threat of falling concrete, and is scheduled for demolition. The officials have shared the same message with a smaller encampment across the river.

For now, a game of horseshoes sends echoing clanks, as outreach workers conduct interviews and raindrops thrum the tent tops. The chief lights another cigar and walks the length of the camp to tell residents to batten down, explaining its structure as he goes.

Here at the end, nearest the road, are the tents of young single people and substance abusers; this way, rescue vehicles won’t disrupt the entire compound.

Here in the center are a cluster of couples, including two competing for the nicest property, with homey touches like planted flowers. Here too are the food table, the coolers, the piles of donated clothes — what can’t be used will be taken by camp residents to the Salvation Army — and the large tent of the chief. Plastic pink flamingos stand guard.

Farther on, the recycled-can area (the money is used for ice and propane); the area for garbage bags that will be discreetly dropped in nearby Dumpsters at night; and, behind a blue tarp hung from the overpass, a plastic toilet. The chief says the shared task of removing the bags of waste tends to test the compact.

Finally, near some rocks where men go to urinate, live a gay couple and some people who drink hard. Timothy Webb, 49, who says he used to own a salon in Cranston called Class Act, cuts people’s hair here. Then, at night, he and his partner, Norman Trank, 45, sit at a riverside table, a battery-operated candle giving light, the moving waters suggesting mystery.

“It’s what you make of it,” Mr. Trank says.

Dark clouds have brought night early to Providence. Heavy drops thump against tarp. Water drips from the overpass, onto the long table of food.

In the last couple of hours the chief has resolved a conflict about tarp distribution, hugged a pregnant woman who mistakenly thought she had been kicked off the island, conferred with outreach workers and helped with dinner preparations. He is also thinking about tomorrow.

Tomorrow, an advance party for the chief will leave to claim another spot across the river that turns out not to be on public property. Many in the camp will decide it’s time to move on anyway, to a spot under a bridge in East Providence. Camp Runamuck will begin its recession from sight and memory.

At least tonight there is a communal dinner: donated chicken, parboiled and grilled; donated corn on the cob; donated potatoes. People line up with paper plates.

The rain falls harder, pocking the river’s gray surface, surrounding the dark camp with a sound like fingers drumming in impatience. The chief hears it, but what can he do? He finishes his dinner and lights another cigar.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s version of The Dating Game

In A man's Version of the Dating Game, Christian Carter, Dating and the Single Woman, How to successfully date, Uncategorized, women talk on July 25, 2009 at 1:56 am

Hello Ladies!

I have the newest email from Chrisitian Carter. He speaks about the type of men that we attract. I must be honest that I often feel like this alot. I could be in a room with 100 guys. They could all be from different backgrounds all good guys except one. I would be drawn to that one.  So I am checking out what he has to say. Well I must admit it can’t hurt..So check it out and let us know about your successes…

This is Coyfee signing off…

Stop Attracting The Wrong Men

Tired of being single and not having the kind
of love in your life you know is possible?

How would you like to hear about the quickest
and easiest way to meet a great guy, know that
he’s truly good “relationship material” for you,
and start a new relationship that could end up
being the one that lasts forever?

If you’re looking to finally find the right kind
of man, while at the same time making sure you
end your own pattern of wasting your time with
all the wrong guys… then it’s time you made
good use of your energy. The very best way to
find and attract the right man to you starting
today is right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FindingLoveOnline Hey, 

 I’m going to throw out a few
situations that come up with men that you might
be wondering how to handle.

    Then I’m going to show you what to do in
these situations.

    Let’s get started…

    Here are some of the most common questions,
statements, and scenarios that women I’ve talked
to and helped in my seminars and programs talk
about…

    See if you identify with any of these:

-“I don’t have a problem meeting men, but I
seem to attract all the WRONG GUYS. Why is this?”

-“I’ve been hurt before, and I don’t feel like
getting back out there and dating again. How do
I get myself to a place where I can open up to
a man again and go about this?”

-“I’d love to be with a great guy and enjoy a
close and loving relationship… but there don’t
seem to be any good single guys around. Where can
I meet a genuinely good guy?”

-“The moment I finally do see or meet a great
guy, I get nervous and uncertain and I don’t
really know what to do or say to get his
attention and interest. What should I do, and
how do I know if a guy is interested?”

-“I’ve heard that other women have met their
boyfriends or husbands online, but online dating
is not for me.” Or… “I tried online dating and
it didn’t work for me.”

    Let’s get right to the first scenario and
the question that goes along with it-

Scenario #1:

    “I don’t have a problem meeting men, but I
seem to attract all the WRONG GUYS. Why is this?”

    If I had a nickel for every time a woman
shared this experience with me… then I’d be
VERY well off.

    The fascinating part is that almost every
woman who shares this experience seems to believe
she’s one of the only “unlucky” women around
who has this problem.

    Meanwhile… TONS of other women have this
exact same problem of dating all the “wrong
men.”

    What’s going on here?

    Let’s break the situation down and take a
closer look.

    I’ll start from the very beginning…

    You meet a guy, you feel a strong level of
chemistry and connection for him, and you get
involved with him.

    Then comes your first mistake-

    Only AFTER THE FACT, once you’ve already
become sexual and intimate with him, do you
start to find out who he REALLY IS and what
he REALLY WANTS-

    He wants his “freedom.”

    Or…

    He’s not looking for a “serious relationship”
right now.

    Or…

    “It’s not you, it’s him. He’s just not ready.”

    Of course, hearing this AFTER you’ve already
spent time with a man, become intimate, and grown
more and more ATTACHED to him is a total WHACK
upside the head for you.

    I’m betting at least one of these reasons a
man can give for NOT wanting to be with you
sounds strangely familiar.

    If you’ve had this happen to you with a man,
and perhaps had it happen more than once… the
question is how come this kind of thing is so
common with men?

    How come a man will PULL AWAY even when you
really hit it off and there’s a great relationship
right in front of you both?

    And why do so many men so often use these same
“excuses”?

    Is it because men really and truly are
AFRAID OF RELATIONSHIPS?

    Or is there something else going on?

    Something a little deeper than a man suddenly
pulling away out of fear, or for no good reason
at all.

    I’m going to suggest to you that there is
in fact something else going on at a deeper level.

    The best place to start is to address the
idea or belief that way too many men are afraid
of relationships.

    I have a very different perspective on this
than you might have heard before.

    I DON’T believe that men are afraid of real
relationships.

    Not at all.

    I believe that men simply don’t care much
about relationships until they feel and experience
that intense flood of EMOTIONS that takes over
their body and mind.

    And that flood of feelings and emotions that
takes over a man’s thoughts and desires, and is
capable of literally causing a man to do a
complete 180 degree turn away from his prior
wants and beliefs, is commonly referred to as
ATTRACTION.

    Of course, when I’m talking about this kind
of powerful and transformative force… I’m not
just talking about your run of the mill “Physical
Attraction.”

    A man can experience that 3 times a day
simply by laying eyes on a woman.

    This kind of Physical Attraction has very
little to do with WHY a man will want a REAL
RELATIONSHIP with a woman (although it is also a
necessary component).

    In other words, there’s something else a man
must experience with a woman that goes DEEPER
than just that PHYSICAL ATTRACTION.

    And if you don’t know what this other thing
is, how it works, and how to create it inside a
man once you’re getting to know each other and
“dating”… then it’s going to be VERY DIFFICULT
for a close, loving, and lasting relationship to
come together.

    To put it bluntly, without this “other level
of attraction”… a man just isn’t going to feel
it for you in a way that will have him pursuing
you for more and wanting to get even closer to
you.

    Instead, he’ll simply be satisfied with
spending time here and there with you on a
“casual” basis… and he won’t have much interest
or desire to get much closer to you in love and
a relationship.

    This is how a man works.

    If he doesn’t FEEL IT with you… then no
amount of TALKING to him about opening up or
COMMITTMENT is going to move things along.

    In fact, if you try and talk your way into
a relationship with a man “logically”… odds
are it’s going to completely BACKFIRE and he’s
going to become increasingly DISTANT and
eventually pull away altogether.

    You’ve seen this happen before.

    Don’t keep making the same mistake so many
other women make trying to CONVINCE a man to
engage in a relationship… when the only way
a man truly gets involved and STAYS with a woman
is when the emotional experiences he’s having
with a woman (the deeper attraction) tells him
that this is the one woman for him.

    Luckily, if you don’t have the right man in
your life right now, and you don’t know how
this “other attraction” works, I’ve got some
very GOOD NEWS…

    I’ve taken the time to put together an entire
in-depth program that shows you what this “other”
deeper and more intense and lasting attraction
is… and I show you exactly how it works and
how to create it with the man in your life.

    You can learn all about that “other attraction”
that will keep a man both physically AND
emotionally bonded to you and get free tips on
how this works right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA 

    And if you’re single and just starting off
with “dating” and meeting new men… it’s a
whole different situation than when you’re
already with a man and you want to take the
attraction and connection between you to the
next level.

    In that case, you need to know how to find,
identify, and capture the RIGHT MAN’S attention
and interest… and then you need to know how
the dating process works with a man.

    Once you learn all this, moving from first
meeting to the first few dates to a growing
and thriving relationship becomes easy… as
you know all the steps along the way and can
easily move from one to the next with the man
in your life.

    Don’t let the common “traps” that other women
fall into with dating get in your way.

    For the ultimate guide to meeting a great
guy and getting things started off right, and
to get to the very bottom of the things that
keep getting in your way of creating a truly
loving and lasting relationship from the start…
you need to check out my “Meeting The One”
program.

    In the letter I’ve written with all the
details and samples from this program, I share
the single most important thing you need to
know as a single woman dating a man that will
INSTANTLY TURN OFF the right man and cause him
to suddenly pull away.

    If you don’t know what this is, and why so
many women make this same mistake, then you’re
bound to keep messing things up and pushing the
man who could be the right one for you away.

    Go to the link below to learn this, along
with exactly what it is you can say and do that
will quickly have a man knowing you’re “the one”
for him and carrying your relationship forward
in a fun and easy way for you.

    Don’t wait. Go here now:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne 

    Oh… and if you’re single and having
a hard time meeting good guys…

    Then I want to share with you the absolute
quickest and easiest way to find a great guy,
make sure he’s true “relationship material”,
and start to connect with him on a deeper level
right away.

    It’s right here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/FindingLoveOnline

 

 

 

 

 

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point Of Veiw

In Adulterous women, Ask the black man, Forgiveness, Uncategorized, women talk on July 25, 2009 at 12:11 am
Good Morning folks!
 
This is Coyfee. I have been busy seeking out interesting topics for our discussions. I think the one below posted by theblackman is a great start. I would love to know how guys feel about the below story. How would you handle it if it were you? Would you still be able to remain in a marriage like the one described below?
 
We are all aware that the Bible instructs married men and women to only commune with one another. So we know what the christian concept is, however, what has caused this beautiful black successful woman to stray from her vows? What has created this unfillable void in her that has pushed her into this lifestyle? Will her husband be able to remain in their marriage? Many times it is the woman that is the one being cheated on, not this time.
 
Guys tell our readers your opinions on this topic?
That’s it for now..Coyfee signing off…Much Luv To Ya!!!
 
Talk to me let me know how you really feel? Talk2Me..We want your comments…

 

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I Am A Young,Newlywed Wife That Cheats On My Loving Husband. Please Help.

Dear TBM,

I am a newly wed (I have been married about two months) and from the outside it seems like I have it all. I am 22 years old. I just graduated college and getting ready to enter law school. I am beautiful,successful, and just bought a new house. You name it, and I’ve got it; But yet still I am unhappy. I have been to therapy, counseling, etc… I’ve read self help books, and I meditate. There is still a void which leads to my problem. To fill this void, I tend to seek male attention, and then have affairs. I love my husband, but I can not seem to stop sleeping with other men. I know it’s wrong. I know better but I do it anyway. Can you give me some advice on this?

-Candy

The Blackman:

Hi Candy,

I find this interesting scenario because you always hear about the husband cheating on the wife and now you are hearing about the wife cheating on the husband. I am not trying to point you out but wives cheating on husbands is just as commonplace in marriage and it is not because their husband cheated on them.

My first thought is to know what your relationship is like with your father. Sometimes when a relationship between a father and daughter is not good and the daughter may feel not accepted by her father, they tend to try to fill that void with other men. So getting attention from men and satisfying them is a common way to try and fill that void. It is only temporary so that is why a woman will go from one man to the next.

Another possibility is timing. You are 22 years old. You are young and perhaps you are just not ready to settle down. You may truly love your husband but you may not be ready for marriage. Women can want to sow their wild oats as well. You just not might not be ready for a commitment.

You should really look into the situation with your husband and ask yourself these questions.. Does he give you enough attention? Does he please you sexually? Does he really make you happy? If all of these answers are yes, then I would say then you may not be ready to be in a committed situation. If the answers are no, then that is the reason why you are trying to fill the void because there are elements missing in your relationship. You would need to figure out if you both could really move forward together and you should be upfront with him about your feelings.

The last thing possibility could be that if this is just a sexual thing. If you are fully content with your husband but you just like to have sex with other people at times then you may want to look at the option of an open marriage. Some couples have a great relationship/marriage but they just like to be physical with other individuals at times. Nothing more than that. Both parties really have to be on the same page for that.

Definitely figure out what it is and be honest with yourself about it. If this happening two months into a marriage this is only going to get worse, cause drama, and people will get their feelings hurt in which one of those people could be you.

Good luck with your situation.

TBM