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ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties

In A man's Version of the Dating Game, Uncategorized, Violence Against Women, Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties, What is True Love?, women talk on August 18, 2009 at 1:26 am

Hi everyone! I hope your weekend was restful but adventurous.  I would like to share this story with you and ask for your opinions.  I still daydream of a man taking care of me and treating me like the Queen that I am.  I guess I am not the only one that day dreams of such a fairytale ending…

Coyfee signing off…..

 

Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties 

Man took over $400,000 from two New York women

 Rose Marie Anglade is shown at her home in Miramar, Fla., Wednesday, Aug. 12, 2009. A 55-year-old South Florida man allegedly swindled some $400,000 from Anglade and another New York woman he was engaged to at the same time. (AP Photo/Miami Herald, Lillly Echeverria)By Jennifer Kay, Associated Press Writer

The used car salesman seemed just like the big shot teenager Rose Marie Anglade knew in Haiti.

Paul Francois owned his dealership and property in Miami’s Little Haiti, and he parked a fleet of flashy luxury cars in front of a suburban home worth half a million dollars. “I just need someone to get married to,” he crooned to Anglade when the old acquaintances from Port-au-Prince met again in 2007.

She thought their unexpected reunion was just what she needed: Someone to take care of her, as a single mother with a son in the Army and a daughter fresh out of high school.

Instead, police say, Francois took Anglade for everything she had — while he was swindling another Haitian immigrant he had also promised to marry. He allegedly stole some $400,000 from the two New York women.

Francois, 55, of Davie, was being held Thursday on $125,000 bond at the Broward County jail on fraud and theft charges. A lawsuit Anglade filed against Francois in September 2008 also is pending.

Anglade, 50, was overjoyed to see Francois’ mug shot posted online after his arrest Wednesday. His sweet talk had left her penniless and facing eviction from the Miramar house she had bought with him, she said in a phone interview Thursday.

The dental office assistant from the Astoria section of Queens in New York went to Florida on vacation in 2007 to celebrate her daughter’s graduation. She had left Haiti for New York 30 years earlier, and she wanted to see the cultural heart for Haitians in Miami. A stroll through the neighborhood brought her to Francois’ dealership, and she recognized him instantly.

The pair talked by phone every night after Anglade returned to New York. She soon began flying back to Miami every two weeks to be with Francois.

“He told me, ‘I’m going to marry you, you won’t need to go to work,’ because he had the business,” she said. “It was, ‘Honey, honey, honey,’ every day.”

He persuaded her to sell her home and buy a house in Florida from his brother, who was behind on his mortgage, according to the arrest affidavit. Then they opened a joint account, where she deposited more than $287,000 — her savings plus the proceeds from the sale of her New York home.

When Anglade gave Francois a $17,500 check for the mortgage, he deposited it into his own account and then forged her signature on other checks as he emptied their joint account, police said. Anglade said she didn’t know Francois was stealing from her until she bounced a check in October 2007. The bank informed her that the joint account was overdrawn.

“He told me that he moved the money because he was afraid that I wouldn’t like Florida and would take the money back with me to New York,” Anglade said. “He never denied it.”

Anglade also didn’t know that while she was abandoning her life in New York to join Francois, he was wooing another woman.

“He had one week for me and then one week for her,” Anglade said. “He was engaged to both of us.”

Sheila Brissault of Elmont, N.Y., said she was introduced to Francois by his brother, a New York City cab driver, in June 2007. Brissault told authorities that over the phone, Francois claimed to be a real estate agent and persuaded the nurse from Jacmel, Haiti, to come to Florida with $50,000 for a down payment on a home.

When she visited Florida, Francois allegedly persuaded her to apply for a $50,000 line of credit on her New York home and open a joint account with him.

The 43-year-old Brissault, also a single mother with a daughter graduating high school, said she trusted Francois because he produced the right documents and told her he was looking for a wife.

“He kept talking,” she said by telephone from New York. “I thought I would never get married until my daughter graduated, and when I met this man was exactly when my daughter graduated.”

She discovered she had been swindled after Francois asked her to sell her Long Island home. She didn’t, but he had already cleaned out the joint account, according to the arrest affidavit.

Brissault and Anglade told authorities that Francois threatened them each with violence when they demanded he return their money. Anglade said Francois punched her in the face after one confrontation. Brissault said Francois threatened to kill her and her children.

“He’s nice until he gets the money, then immediately he turns into the werewolf,” said Joe Pappacoda, the attorney representing both women.

Francois’ attorney, Leonard Fenn, did not immediately return phone or e-mail messages Thursday.

Anglade and her 20-year-old daughter still live in their foreclosed Florida home, pawning belongings to pay the bills and relying on handouts for grocery money. Anglade is unemployed, and said Francois intended to leave her homeless with no way to support herself.

He sold cars, but he wouldn’t give her one to look for a job, she said.

“He said he loved me so much, he just didn’t want me to go anywhere by myself, so no car for me,” said Anglade . “He said, ‘Oh, honey, those people in Florida are no good.’ He just didn’t want me to talk to no one so I wouldn’t know what was going on with him.”

Copyright 2009 The Associated Press.

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ConversationswitCoyfee presents Strange and Unusual: Man claims his cat downloads porn

In Child abuse, Dog eat your homework? Man claims his cat downloads porn, Uncategorized, women talk on August 9, 2009 at 9:13 am

People in Florida must be on a roll…check out the below story..this is hillarious but serious..the dude needs to be locked up and have the key thrown away..

Coyfee is signing off..

Dog eat your homework? Man claims his cat downloads porn

> Posted by Barbara Hijek on August 7, 2009 07:15 AM

We once worked with a guy who said he was late to work because his cat peed on his alarm clock and shorted it out.

But we like this cat story better.

Keith R. Griffin, 48, of Jensen Beach has a cat.

And you know what that pussy does?

Downloads porn!

So Griffin says.

But cops weren’t convinced.

Instead, they charged Griffin with 10 counts of possession of child pornography after a detective found more than 1,000 child pornographic images on his computer, reports TCPalm.com.

Griffin gave it a good shot.

He told detectives he would leave his computer on and his cat would jump on the keyboard.

And when he returned there will be strange material downloaded.

Griffin was in Martin County Jail in lieu of $250,000 bail.

Maybe the cat is now busy poking friends on Facebook.

This is what we call kitty porn.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Symbol of Unhealed Congo: Male Rape Victims-In Congo

In A Man's Point Of View, Africia, Child abuse, homosexuality, Symbol of Unhealed Congo: Male Rape Victims, Uncategorized, Violence Against Males, women talk on August 8, 2009 at 2:11 pm

This story maybe one of the saddest ones that I have posted in weeks.  The issue of men being raped in a country where homosexuality is such a taboo is heartwrenching.  Please read below..

Coyfee signing off…

 

Symbol of Unhealed Congo: Male Rape Victims

Jehad Nga for The New York Times

Clockwise from top left, Kazungu Ziwa, Shabani Lufuno, Ngabu Bita and Matata Badoda. All are Congolese men who were recently raped and agreed to be photographed. More Photos >

Published: August 4, 2009
GOMA, Congo — It was around 11 p.m. when armed men burst into Kazungu Ziwa’s hut, put a machete to his throat and yanked down his pants. Mr. Ziwa is a tiny man, about four feet, six inches tall. He tried to fight back, but said he was quickly beaten down.

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Jehad Nga for The New York Times

A camp for internally displaced people in Rutshuru. More than 500,000 Congolese have been driven from their homes. More Photos »

The New York Times

For years, eastern Congo has been a reservoir of atrocities. More Photos >

“Then they raped me,” he said. “It was horrible, physically. I was dizzy. My thoughts just left me.”

For years, the thickly forested hills and clear, deep lakes of eastern Congo have been a reservoir of atrocities. Now, it seems, there is another growing problem: men raping men.

According to Oxfam, Human Rights Watch, United Nations officials and several Congolese aid organizations, the number of men who have been raped has risen sharply in recent months, a consequence of joint Congo-Rwanda military operations against rebels that have uncapped an appalling level of violence against civilians.

Aid workers struggle to explain the sudden spike in male rape cases. The best answer, they say, is that the sexual violence against men is yet another way for armed groups to humiliate and demoralize Congolese communities into submission.

The United Nations already considers eastern Congo the rape capital of the world, and Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton is expected to hear from survivors on her visit to the country next week. Hundreds of thousands of women have been sexually assaulted by the various warring militias haunting these hills, and right now this area is going through one of its bloodiest periods in years.

The joint military operations that began in January between Rwanda and Congo, David and Goliath neighbors who were recently bitter enemies, were supposed to end the murderous rebel problem along the border and usher in a new epoch of cooperation and peace. Hopes soared after the quick capture of a renegade general who had routed government troops and threatened to march across the country.

But aid organizations say that the military maneuvers have provoked horrific revenge attacks, with more than 500,000 people driven from their homes, dozens of villages burned and hundreds of villagers massacred, including toddlers thrown into open fires.

And it is not just the rebels being blamed. According to human rights groups, soldiers from the Congolese Army are executing civilians, raping women and conscripting villagers to lug their food, ammunition and gear into the jungle. It is often a death march through one of Africa’s lushest, most stunning tropical landscapes, which has also been the scene of a devastatingly complicated war for more than a decade.

“From a humanitarian and human rights perspective, the joint operations are disastrous,” said Anneke Van Woudenberg, a researcher for Human Rights Watch.

The male rape cases span several hundred miles and possibly include hundreds of victims. The American Bar Association, which runs a sexual violence legal clinic in Goma, said that more than 10 percent of its cases in June were men.

Brandi Walker, an aid worker at Panzi hospital in nearby Bukavu, said, “Everywhere we go, people say men are getting raped, too.”

But nobody knows the exact number. Men here, like anywhere, are reluctant to come forward. Several who did said they instantly became castaways in their villages, lonely, ridiculed figures, derisively referred to as “bush wives.”

Since being raped several weeks ago, Mr. Ziwa, 53, has not shown much interest in practicing animal medicine, his trade for years. He limps around (his left leg was crushed in the attack) in a soiled white lab coat with “veterinaire” printed on it in red pen, carrying a few biscuit-size pills for dogs and sheep.

“Just thinking about what happened to me makes me tired,” he said.

The same is true for Tupapo Mukuli, who said he was pinned down on his stomach and gang-raped in his cassava patch seven months ago. Mr. Mukuli is now the lone man in the rape ward at Panzi hospital, which is filled with hundreds of women recovering from rape-related injuries. Many knit clothes and weave baskets to make a little money while their bodies heal.

But Mr. Mukuli is left out.

“I don’t know how to make baskets,” he said. So he spends his days sitting on a bench, by himself.

The male rape cases are still just a fraction of those against women. But for the men involved, aid workers say, it is even harder to bounce back.

“Men’s identity is so connected to power and control,” Ms. Walker said.

And in a place where homosexuality is so taboo, the rapes carry an extra dose of shame.

“I’m laughed at,” Mr. Mukuli said. “The people in my village say: ‘You’re no longer a man. Those men in the bush made you their wife.’ ”

Aid workers here say the humiliation is often so severe that male rape victims come forward only if they have urgent health problems, like stomach swelling or continuous bleeding. Sometimes even that is not enough. Ms. Van Woudenberg said that two men whose penises were cinched with rope died a few days later because they were too embarrassed to seek help. Castrations also seem to be increasing, with more butchered men showing up at major hospitals.

Last year, Congo’s rape epidemic appeared to be easing a bit, with fewer cases reported and some rapists jailed. But today, it seems like that thin veneer of law and order has been stripped away. The way villagers describe it, it is open season on civilians.

Muhindo Mwamurabagiro, a tall, graceful woman with long, strong arms, explained how she was walking to the market with friends when they were suddenly surrounded by a group of naked men.

“They grabbed us by the throat and threw us down and raped us,” she said.

Worse, she said, one of the rapists was from her village.

“I yelled, ‘Father of Kondo, I know you, how can you do this?’ ”

One mother said a United Nations peacekeeper raped her 12-year-old boy. A United Nations spokesman said that he had not heard that specific case but that there were indeed a number of new sexual abuse allegations against peacekeepers in Congo and that a team was sent in late July to investigate.

Congolese health professionals are becoming exasperated. Many argue for a political solution, not a military one, and say Western powers should put more pressure on Rwanda, which is widely accused of preserving its own stability by keeping the violence on the other side of the border.

“I understand the world feels guilty about what happened in Rwanda in 1994,” said Denis Mukwege, the lead doctor at Panzi Hospital, referring to Rwanda’s genocide. “But shouldn’t the world feel guilty about what’s happening in Congo today?”

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Christian Sex Education: Every Christian’s Favorite Secret Sin-Masterbation

In Every Christian’s Favorite Secret Sin-Masterbation on August 8, 2009 at 1:45 pm

The below topic is such a touchy one that most people will not discuss it, at all.

I must acknowlegde that attempting to live single and not sin is always  now and has been the greatest of challenges.  However most will not accept that masterbation is wrong.  The writer below goes in depth about this subject and I thought it was good reading.  Let me know your opinions on the subject..

Coyfee signing off… 

Every Christian’s Favorite Secret Sin

By Stuart McDonald August 6, 2009 9:30 am

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{Authors Note: This was an intensely personal post for me to write. This is something I have struggled for over 13 years. I feel this topic is taboo in the church but needs to be addressed. This will undoubtedly hit a lot of people the wrong way, but that’s fine. I feel it entirely necessary to share. Be warned, this is a mature topic.}

Christian men and women do it. Some nearly every day. So do teenagers. Singles enjoy it. Married folks do it as well. The elders of the church and pastors might even do it. Yet no one wants to talk about it. Most won’t admit to it. The church rarely addresses it.

I’m talking about masturbation. Yes, that’s right… Christians masturbate. Whether we use a dildo, a blow up doll, a vibrator, or your left and right hand, the result is the same. Anytime we cause ourselves to orgasm in a manner outside of God’s original intent, we sin. This sin, masturbation, has turned into the Christian’s dirty little secret.

Our hands were designed by God to build. But we’ve perverted that purpose to bring us a temporal pleasure. Our hands were not made to beat our bodies or to stimulate ourselves to the point of orgasm, where, as men, we spill our seed, our future family. When we ejaculate, we put our future family in the toilet, on a towel or tissue, or in our pants. In doing so, we say to God,”I don’t value the ability you’ve given me to perpetuate a Godly legacy.” We fail realize there are children who will never have been born all because we wanted to pleasure ourselves.

Most view masturbation as a private sin, done where no one can see. However, as believers, God dwells inside each one of us. Our bodies become His temple. Do you think the Holy Spirit turns a blind eye when we decide to gratify our fleshly urges, lusts, and desires?  Do you think God “takes 5” when we decide to take our 5 fingers and bring ourselves to an orgasm? Absolutely not! He is forced to sit and watch while we sin! Can you imagine how that breaks his heart?

In the Old Testament, you would either die or be cut off from the Presence of God if the sacrifice you presented was damaged or unacceptable. While we no longer bring sacrifices in that manner, because Jesus Christ was the ultimate sacrifice and atonement for our sins, the principle remains the same. We are to “offer our bodies as a living sacrifice, dedicated to God and pleasing to Him.” We’d be foolish to expect God to accept our sacrifice when we’ve chosen to pervert God’s design by violating our own bodies.

And yet, day after day, week after week, we offer the sacrifice of praise and worship with clapping and lifting of our hands. We lay our hands on others during prayer. We hold our Bibles & turn the pages of His Word. We pat, dap, hug & shake hands with our friends; blessing and encouraging them in the Lord. Then we leave our churches, our small group meetings, and go home and pleasure ourselves with those very same hands!

“Who shall ascend the hill of the Lord? Who shall stand in his holy presence? He who has CLEAN HANDS and a pure heart.” How can we have clean hands when they’ve been used to beat ourselves, to defile and demean our own bodies? Our bodies, His dwelling place, are no longer clean. We say our hearts & minds are set towards God, yet behind closed doors, it’s a different story.

The good news is, like every temptation we face, God has made a way of escape. You have to examine when you’re most likely to fall into the trap and avoid those situations at all cost. Identify both your emotional and circumstantial triggers. It could be when you’re lonely, tired, angry, or sad. Maybe it’s late at night flipping through the channels, or surfing the net, when you’re bored. Perhaps it’s after you’ve had a fight with a friend or a long day at work. Whatever the case, it’s crucial to recognize when you’re vulnerable. You need to find accountability with another person of the same sex. You are not the only person facing this issue. If you need to get some software, XXX Church, based in Las Vegas has incredible resources.

Do whatever it takes! You can never fall off the edge if you don’t get close. If you see your emotional and circumstantial triggers arise, quickly turn in the other direction. Please know I am not condemning anyone. I have been there, done that. Literally. It’s only by the grace of God, day by day, that I don’t fall. I am making myself an open book to you.

{Note: Portions of the third paragraph are paraphrased from the “Blinded By the Booty” message, taught by Dr. Bryan E Crute, Destiny Metropolitan Worship Church, 1775 Water Place, Atlanta GA 30339. Scripture references are Romans 12 & Psalm 24}

For more from Stuart McDonald, check out his personal blog and follow him on Twitter

Read more: http://elev8.com/daily-offerings/every-christians-favorite-secret-sin/#ixzz0NYilWqKG

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Man’s Point View: What is True Love?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Dating and the Single Woman, expressing her support for the troops as they prepared to invade Iraq, Forgiveness, Spiritual healing, Uncategorized, What is True Love?, women talk on August 8, 2009 at 11:38 am

Hi Guys and Gals..

I have been pondering the same thing.  This peace submitted by one of my close friends is an interesting topic. LOVE..I must be honest and share that I think I have been chasing it all of my adult life. LOVE..someone to hold me when I am scare..someone to caress me when I am lonely..someone to assure me that all will be well when I am uncertain..someone to be amazed by every inch of me..adoring the very dimples on even my thighs..(I am a big girl) smile..

I have hoped that one day a man will enter my life and be the missing link but until then I live..to the fullest..not down trotten..not angry..not forgetting to every breath as a gift from God. I will live everyday to the absolute fullest..if that MAN never arrives..I will have lived everyday to the absolute extreme..AND Love should it tarry will be a welcome guess in my home…

For now the LOVE of GOD is usual and eternal. He never stops loving us even when we forget that He is there..

Coyfee signing off…

What is True Love?

Posted on August 6, 2009 by theoraclemag

love canvasWhat we could use in the world today more then anything else is love. True love, real love. If mankind had authentic love for one another, war, world hunger, homelessness, abuse, crime and so on would all come to an end. Love begins and ends with GOD. He is the author. It was created by him and out of his nature. When we, as Christians were filled with the Holy Spirit, he gave us the spirit of love as a gift. It is his desire that we share this gift with all that we come in contact with. We are most like GOD when we show love. In truth The Bible records the greatest love story ever written, GOD’s unconditional love for his that sent his “Sun” to die on the cross (John 3:16; 1 John 4:10).

Love is more then attribute of GOD. It is in fact apart of his nature (Dueut. 7:7-8). According to the Bible “GOD is love,” that is he is the personification of love (1 Jn 4:8, 16). This type of love out reaches human understanding (Eph. 3:19). The love of GOD is everlasting (Jer. 31:3), free (Hos. 14:4) sacrificial (Jn 3:16), and enduring to the end (Jn 13:1).

In GOD’s Word there are two different Greek words that mean “to love.” The word phileo means “to have ardent affection and feeling,” a brotherly love. This is why Phillidphia is known as “the city of brotherly love.” The word “agapao” means “to have esteem or high regard”

GOD blessed Each of us with spiritual gifts. Shamefully many of us use these gifts to glorify ourselves. According to 1 Corinthians 13:2 this has nothing to do with love. But then in verse 3 of the same chapter Paul teaches that giving with out true love is pointless. If we give to feed our pride, we are giving in vain!

Remember we said “GOD is love” and love is his nature. 1 Cor. 13: 4-7 list the Characteristics of love which so happen to be the characteristics of GOD. Love “is patient,” meaning it suffers long with people.; no matter the evil and the injury done by a person; no matter the neglect from a loved one, without anger. Love “is kind,” meaning it is good, helpful and giving. It does not hurt. Love does not envy; it does not get Jealous. Love does not boast; does not brag or seek honor or recognition. Love is not proud or arrogant and conceited. It’s not about thinking your better then others. Love is not rude. It is full of order and control. It does not shame itself. Love is not self seeking, meaning its not selfish. It seeks to serve. Love is not easily angered, not ready to take offense. Not “touchy.” Love keeps no record of wrongs, does not consider the wrong suffered. It suffers the evil done to it and forgets it Love does not delight in evil or take pleasure of the sin of others Love rejoices when the truth is rooted and grounded in a person and among all people. Love Protects and bears all things. The Word protects or bears means both to cover all things and to bear up under all things. Love always trusts. It is completely trusting. It accepts and believes the very best about a person Love always hopes; it never stops hoping. It expects the good to eventfully triumph. Love always preserves. The word preserves is a military word meaning to stand against the attack of an enemy. Love is strong and full of fight.

But are you full of Love?

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:(Update)Scorned Women Seek Revenge on Three-Timer-Jailed

In A man's Version of the Dating Game, Child abuse, Scorned Women Seek Revenge on Three-Timer, Uncategorized, Violence Against Women, women talk, Women used Krazy Glue on August 7, 2009 at 5:58 am

Folks, not only is the guy a cheater but also is suspected of abusing a child.  He is a real 5 time looser. Not much to say except thank God he is locked up.  No more pain at his hands..prayerfully…

Coyfee signing off…

 

Man Who Said Women Krazy-Glued His Private Parts Is Arrested

By Associated Press August 6, 2009 9:50 am

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The eastern Wisconsin man who was the victim in a bizarre plot to punish him for disloyalty in a lover’s quadrangle is in jail.

Fond du Lac Police Capt. Steven Klein said Wednesday the 36-year-old Donessa Davis was arrested Tuesday on allegations of child abuse, theft, unlawful phone use and harassment with a death threat in a domestic abuse investigation.

The Fond du Lac County district attorney’s office says no charges have been filed.

A criminal complaint says four women, including the Davis’ wife, were charged in Calumet County last week with being party to false imprisonment after Donessa Davis was tied up and his penis was glued to his stomach at a Stockbridge motel. One of the women was also charged with fourth-degree sexual assault.

Authorities say three of the women were romantically involved with Davis.

 

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Sista-2-Sista Discussion: Is There Anything Wrong With Being a Stripper?

In A Man's Point Of View, Entertainment, Is There Anything Wrong With Being a Stripper?, Uncategorized, women talk on August 6, 2009 at 1:55 pm

Well folks, here’s the discussion for the week. What’s your opinion on the below topic? Talk2Me…

Coyfee signing off….

OPINION: Is There Anything Wrong With Being a Stripper?

By RK Byers August 5, 2009 4:24 pm

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So I’m reading Memoirs of a Geisha and all of a sudden I start thinking, “Gee, if it wasn’t for the tea ceremonies, these chicks would all be…”

I mean, Geishas auction off their virginity to the highest bidder and their main goal is to become the kept woman or mistress of a wealthy danna-or male benefactor. And yet, Geishas are treated with the utmost respect (or so I’ve read) in Japan and they definitely get big props here in the United States.

So, like I said, I started thinking. I wondered what would be the equivalent of a Geisha here in America. Bypassing the obvious, I settled on “stripper”.

Now, I’ve noticed that the reaction on the mentioning of strippers varies from race to race. If you mention strippers around white people, there’s almost always a giddy excitement among the men and a borderline envy of the physical requirements among the women. But if you mention strippers around Black people, the reaction swings between the extremes of lurid enthusiasm and outright contempt-among both sexes.

I wonder why that is.

Chris Rock is one of the top two or three comedians of all-time and when he joked that his sole responsibility as the father of a daughter was to “keep her off the pole” there was so much I KNOW that’s right! laughter going on in the place that you would have sworn that the pole was the worst thing that could happen to a young woman. It was like “crackhead”, “convict” and “ho on a stroll” had never even occurred to the audience as alternatives.

And props to the young Black stripper that came up with the excuse (or explanation) that she was only stripping to pay for school-being in school is to most older Black people more important than the results of schooling. This suggestion had the same paradoxical effect on the Black psyche as the idea of a “holy war”.

Personally, I never liked strip clubs that much because the thought of going to one always struck me as being similar to starving and going to a restaurant with pockets full of cash, then paying just to smell the food.

But I could be wrong. What do you think?

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ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Sandstone Woman Charged with Murdering Daughter

In Sandstone Woman Charged with Murdering Daughter, Uncategorized on August 6, 2009 at 11:04 am
This mom wins the worst mom of the year award. This story is so un-nerving that a mother could kill her own child.  I now see why men frequently compare women to dogs; female dogs sometime kill their own young. 
 
I continue to advocate for safety nets for children of parents of mental illness. When my children were younger I would get upset and not see the good in the social workers that hovered over me.  They were already mothers and had children of their own. They knew how difficult it would be and they were trying to prepare me for the bumps in the road.  I recieved their and now I try to carry the torch to other young mothers. offering advice and support.
 
Please contact your Congressman and tell them Social workers need more funding.  We need them to be able to counsel and support the mothers that maybe in crisis. It is a difficult thing to have to admit that you need help with your child.  It makes a mom feel like a failure.  I know, I felt that way and it was difficult to become confident in my craft(mothering).
 
Coyfee signing off…
8/4/09

Sandstone Woman Charged with Murdering Daughter

by Mike Gainor

Three years after the death of 10-year-old Lakesha Victor, Pine County investigators have mounted a murder case against her mother.

A Sandstone woman Ludusky Sue Hotchkiss, 29, of Sandstone, formerly of Hinckley, has been charged with second-degree murder and three counts of second-degree manslaughter in the death of her 10-year-old daughter on Aug. 20, 2006

Hotchkiss was accused of felony neglect and endangerment for failing to provide her severely-disabled daughter with proper nutrition, health care or supervision, which led directly to her death.

Charges were filed against Hotchkiss in Pine County District Court on July 15.

According to police reports, Pine County Sheriff’s Department deputies were dispatched to a home in Hinckley on the night of Aug. 20, 2006 on a report that a child was not breathing. In the residence, Victor’s body was lying on the sofa next to Hotchkiss. Her arms and legs were stiff, and blood had pooled in the lowest parts of her body, indicating that she had been deceased for some time. Hotchkiss went out to the front lawn where she was “crying and vomiting on the ground,” and told a deputy that her home had been broken into the night before, and now felt “like she was raped too.”

She asked a deputy to take pictures of bruises on her body. When the deputy replied that they had to complete the death investigation first, Hotchkiss left the premises and did not return.

In the Hotchkiss residence

Police determined that four other children, ages ranging from 2 to 11, lived on the premises with Hotchkiss. No other adults lived there.

They learned that Victor had suffered from cerebral palsy, seizure disorder, autism, and had used a feeding tube since 2005. She was not able to talk, and was very limited in other forms of communication.

In the girl’s room, deputies found two bare mattresses on the floor, which was strewn with clothes, dirty dishes and other items. In an autopsy, medical examiners determined that the child had been suffering from pneumonia, malnutrition and dehydration.

They also found a bottle of seizure medication, dated March 18, 2005, with 24 pills inside. Victor was supposed to be receiving this medication twice a day.

Medical records also showed that when the girl was last seen by a doctor on May 9, 2006 she weighed 47 pounds. At the time of her death on Aug. 20, she weighed 31 pounds, a 34-percent weight loss.

Victor was prescribed eight cans of Pediasure a day to maintain her nutrition. Records showed that 116 cases of 24 cans of Peidasure were delivered to the Hotchkiss residence between March 17, 2005 and April 12, 2006, enough for 348 days. However, no Pediasure was ordered or delivered to the Hotchkiss residence in May or June of 2006. Eight cases of Peidasure – enough for 24 days – were delivered on July 7. No Pediasure was delivered in August.

A personal care attendant was supposed to be looking after Victor on the night of her death, but though his timesheet recorded he was working at that time, he admitted he was not there that day. Hotchkiss’ son told police that the attendant was rarely at the house, though the attendant had submitted timesheets purportedly showing he had been working most days. A neighbor reported to police that Hotchkiss had said that she signed off on the attendant’s timesheets, and then she and he split the money he received.

An assessor from Community Alternatives for Disabled Individuals visited Hotchkiss and her daughter on Aug. 17 and noted that the girl was dressed in jeans and a sweatshirt even though the weather was hot. Hotchkiss has repeatedly told investigators that Victor “was fine” on that date, three days before her daughter’s death.

The maximum penalty for second-degree murder is 40 years in prison. The maximum penalty for each of the three second-degree manslaughter charges is 10 years in prison, a $20,000 fine, or both.

Hotchkiss is not in custody at this time. Her first appearance in Pine County Court is scheduled for Sept.29 at 9 a.m.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Strange and Unusual:Man Gets Penis Stuck

In A Man's Point Of View, Man Gets Penis Stuck on August 5, 2009 at 9:37 am

Okay Ladies, it’s okay to laugh..some men will do anything to please their lady..read below..

Coyfee signing off…

 

Man Gets Nut Stuck Around Penis

So last month we broke the story about how one lonely, Viagra induced, Hong Kong resident almost lost his penis trying to make love to a metal bench.

steel nut Man Gets Nut Stuck Around Penis pictureIt would appear the news did not reach one poor Malaysian man, who in an effort to increase his size, put a heavy welding nut on his penis and then accidentally got an erection which almost lead to him losing his penis.

The unnamed welder in his 20’s was attempting to lengthen his penis before his engagement next week by placing a heavy welding nut on then end of his penis in hopes it would stretch him out and make him longer.

During the process he gave himself an erection which caused the nut to become stuck on his penis, forcing him to call for help.

Fire and Rescue arrived on the scene but where unable to assist the man and were forced to take him to the hospital.

nut disaster Man Gets Nut Stuck Around Penis picture

Sultanah Aminah hospital staff had to removed the top layer of his penis in order to get the welding nut off the poor guys penis.

Have to give it to this guy.. he had nuts of steel.

By Sun Tzu on 01-09-2008

ConversationswitCoyfee presents In Black Church:Pastor’s Ex Reveals “Life After The Down Low”

In Black Church, Black Men on Down Low-Pastors, Child abuse, homosexuality, Spiritual healing, Uncategorized, women talk on August 5, 2009 at 12:41 am

This is Coyfee attempting to share about the below subject.  I am not comfortable commentating on this. I will only add that Ingrid is not alone.  It has become as infectious as the Swine Flu.

 

What? Pastors-Men in leadership..taking the innocence away of not only our daughters but our sons also..It is a shame and a disgrace..But what of the women and families that these men (pastors) leave behind to wear the garment of shame..Please pray for the families that are left to pull the shredded fabric together to attempt to design cloaks that will once again cover them..

Coyfee signing off..

Pastor’s Ex Reveals “Life After The Down Low”

By Sheeri Mitchell May 14, 2009 2:39 pm

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Nearly two years ago, Ingrid Michelle was leveled by the shocking truth. Her then-husband of 12 years revealed that he had engaged in oral sex with a young man they both knew. The problem? Apart from being her spouse at the time of the “incident” her husband had been a youth pastor at a thriving church. And the young man? A former member of the flock. After recovering from the initial shock, Ingrid would be confronted with mounting evidence and eyewitness testimony that she had married not only a man who had been living life on the down low, but who was also an accused pedophile.  Shocked and disgusted to her core, Ingrid would have to pick up the pieces of a shattered life and begin again.  It would get much worse before it got better.

Below is her story in her own words:

I’ll never forget May 27th 2007 for as long as I live. Maybe I should, but right now it sticks out like a sore thumb. Contrary to it being the day of the greatest catastrophe in my personal history, the Southern California morning sun was in rare form. It was perfectly warm with a delicious hint of a Sunday breeze. The day started off as any day would. We went to church and came home to enjoy a quiet relaxing afternoon while Bobby grilled ahi tuna, fresh green onions and garlic. The salad that would be birthed was one we had mastered and my mouth watered anticipating the taste. We grubbed as if the last supper and lay around the remainder of the day. Devan tuckered out long before our expected television marathon and Bobby and I nestled into our king sized bed on either side of him with remote in hand to watch our favorite line up – Desperate Housewives and Brothers and Sisters. Just after the credits rolled, Bobby turned the television off. My initial thought was to slide under the covers and turn the lights out but I heard him take a deep breath as if he wanted to say something. I thought nothing of it, but it was when he faced me that things felt a little weird. We had just finished chuckling and trying to figure out who did what on Wisteria Lane and suddenly the mood instantly became serious.

“Okay! I have something to tell you,” he said.

There was a pregnant pause. There was something slightly eerie about this particular silence. It wasn’t anything that I had ever felt. The once smile that graced my face became a little disconcerted. I carefully made eye contact with him. I could feel the palpitations of my heart. His stare was drenched with garden of Gethsemane typed anguish. I knew it was something bad.

“Okay!” He took a deep sigh. “So…I’ve been smoking weed for a while now and I exchanged oral sex with Elliott.”

There it was; a massive head on collision. In the spirit, I could see the carnage as it lay in wake and embarrassed for him, I could no longer gaze his way. My head instantly became a fog as I drifted. It felt like an out of body experience where my entire life seemed to flash before me. I kept thinking to myself, did he just say he and Elliott had sex? Elliott? Elliott? Is this the same Elliott that we once mentored in our youth ministry? The same Elliott who was molested as a young lad and then was subsequently emasculated by his domineering mother? Was this the Elliott that Bobby spoke of? The Elliott whose dancer’s body enticed a number of young girls and had adult women yearning? Was this the same person? ‘Please God!’ I pleaded within me. He was someone that Bobby was supposed to have been keeping accountable to his walk with Christ, particularly as it related to his sexual confusion. Was he saying to me that the very person he led as youth Pastor and mentored, he slept with?

As I tried to wrap my mind around what he had just disclosed about him and Elliott, I kept thinking, ‘damn it!’ This m’fer was in my house somewhere giving and receiving a blow job from a young man that was just shy of being a minor and I’m out in the hot ass sun selling hand-painted t-shirts trying to make a dollar out of fifteen cents while fulfilling our supposed dream. Was he serious? Elliott was supposed to have visited us for a collective visit to see the Dance Theatre, not to be in bed with my husband smoking marijuana together like some out of control high school sex fiend. My head was spinning. I couldn’t think. I stared at the wall for what felt like hours. I couldn’t really grasp what my “husband” had just revealed to me. Was this really happening to me? This was something that I would read about. This was an Ebony article, not my life an Oprah story, not my life. What in the hell was I to do with this…