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ConversationswitCoyfee presents Sista2Sista’s Discussion Of The Week:Do Black Men Like Their Women Larger?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Do Black Men Like Their Women Larger?, Uncategorized, women talk on August 30, 2009 at 5:02 am

This is Coyfee..I want to know what’s your opinion ..black men talk to me..

I must admit the world gives double imagines all the time, but what do the men say? Is thick In and Thin the has been Or is Thin in and Thick over way too quick..here is my body shot..sporting my African derriere.  I tried some of everything to get rid of it..now it seems like having what your momma gave you is in…You tell me..

 tammie body shot

Opinion: Do Black Men Like Their Women Larger?

 By Hello Beautiful August 27, 2009 4:52 pm (from thegrio.com)

 I posed this question on a social networking site recently. The aftermath was like watching people running from a burning building as if their hair were on fire. Most of the responses were of the “good luck with that” variety, as if the next move was to wait for a last minute pardon from the governor before the firing squad commenced to carry out the sentence.

 

The reason for some of my own hesitation in weighing in on a subject like this is obvious. Just as the black women come in a variety of hues and hair types, they also are a mix of skinny and voluptuous – the thin and the thick – not so easily or quickly defined. Nor can the dating or marrying preferences of African-American men be easily placed into a nice neat box.

 

 Poll a brother on the street and he might be just as likely to prefer a slim sister as one with, as they say, some junk in her trunk. Serena Williams: “My Thighs Are Too Big” Still, there’s no question that the average African-American woman is likely to adopt India.Arie’s credo that she just “ain’t built like a supermodel.” And if the biggest part of sexiness is self-confidence, then the black woman’s allure to the black man needs no explanation. The black woman exudes self-assuredness. Since her arrival here from Africa centuries ago, the black woman has been comfortable in her skin, content to live her life large, usually more literally than figuratively.

 In many cases, because the African-American woman bore the responsibility – often alone – for keeping her family intact, she had little time to take care of herself. Even if that lifestyle wasn’t – or nowadays, isn’t – a choice, we’re nonetheless seeing the effects in higher reported incidents of obesity and related complications, including diabetes and heart disease, within the black community. This week’s news that the American Heart Association added sugar, along with salt and cholesterol, to the list of things to watch out for will not go over well in many black kitchens. While there are legitimate health reasons for wondering if bigger is really better over the long term, those concerns haven’t kept many black women from straying from the ideal European-American body aesthetic that is widely portrayed in the media circles. You need only look at the way two of the world’s top female tennis players, Maria Sharapova and Serena Williams, are viewed to get a feel for the chasm of difference in how body beauty is perceived in the black and white communities. Sharapova, a Russian émigré and winner of three Grand Slam singles titles, is 6-foot-2, thin and blonde. Twice, she was the most searched for athlete in the world through Yahoo! and she is a favorite of the overwhelmingly white fanboy sports blogosphere. Williams is likewise tall, at 5ft 10″, but as author Marita Golden points out in her book, “Don’t Play in the Sun: One Woman’s Journey Through the Color Complex,” “Serena is compact, muscular [and] built for the game she dominates.”

 

“And,” continues Golden, “any discussion of Serena Williams has to begin with her backside, her black, her African, derriere. That’s my backside, that’s the backside of so many black women, and Serena ain’t trying to hide it, camouflage it or do anything but flaunt it.” Serena’s not alone, nor should she be. You won’t catch women like Tyra Banks or Oprah Winfrey or Queen Latifah squeezing into size 2 or 4 dresses. Yet their visibility and beauty are unquestioned. Indeed, I appreciate the fact that my wife not only isn’t built like a supermodel, but loves me, a man who not only has junk in the trunk, but groceries all over the car.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson’s Home

In Entertainment, Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson's Home, Uncategorized on August 28, 2009 at 1:03 pm

Hello Folks..I have unpacking..my family and I moved out of the state..So I pray all has been well with everyone..

I am truly not suprised that illegal drugs were found..I am however disappointed that his family was not able to intervene to save him..

Coyfee signing off…

 

Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson’s Home

By Howard Breuer

Originally posted Thursday August 27, 2009 07:20 PM EDT

Michael Jackson Photo by: Carlo Allegri / Getty
Marijuana Found at Michael Jackson's Home | Michael Jackson

Marijuana and numerous empty drug bottles were found by police officers at Michael Jackson’s home shortly after he died, according to search warrants unsealed on Thursday.

Two bags of marijuana, a bottle of temazepam (used to treat sleeplessness), empty bottles of the sedatives lorzaepam and diazepam were discovered during the search. They also found four other empty pill bottles with no indication as to what may have been in them.

Detectives were concerned that, when Jackson died, he had “received injection of an unknown medication, prior to his death,” the warrants say. Other documents revealed that Jackson’s doctor, Conrad Murray, had been giving the singer the anesthetic propofol intravenously.

The search warrants were served on June 29, four days after the singer was pronounced dead at UCLA Medical Center, where Murray was less than forthcoming. Murray, according to documents, left the hospital “against the objections of the investigating officers” and they were not able to talk with him in the days that followed.

The warrant also says that, on the day of Jackson’s death, as investigators were at the house, “family members of the decedent notified Los Angeles County Coroner’s Assistant Chief Ed Winter that they had located a quantity of tar heroin in [Jackson’s] bedroom on the second floor of the residence. Winter notified LAPD detectives of the found evidence.” There is no mention in the warrant if the evidence really turned out to be heroin.

Winter told PEOPLE on Thursday that he cannot discuss the evidence or say when the results of Jackson’s autopsy will be revealed.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties

In A man's Version of the Dating Game, Uncategorized, Violence Against Women, Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties, What is True Love?, women talk on August 18, 2009 at 1:26 am

Hi everyone! I hope your weekend was restful but adventurous.  I would like to share this story with you and ask for your opinions.  I still daydream of a man taking care of me and treating me like the Queen that I am.  I guess I am not the only one that day dreams of such a fairytale ending…

Coyfee signing off…..

 

Wedding Con Victim Has Long Island Ties 

Man took over $400,000 from two New York women

 Rose Marie Anglade is shown at her home in Miramar, Fla., Wednesday, Aug. 12, 2009. A 55-year-old South Florida man allegedly swindled some $400,000 from Anglade and another New York woman he was engaged to at the same time. (AP Photo/Miami Herald, Lillly Echeverria)By Jennifer Kay, Associated Press Writer

The used car salesman seemed just like the big shot teenager Rose Marie Anglade knew in Haiti.

Paul Francois owned his dealership and property in Miami’s Little Haiti, and he parked a fleet of flashy luxury cars in front of a suburban home worth half a million dollars. “I just need someone to get married to,” he crooned to Anglade when the old acquaintances from Port-au-Prince met again in 2007.

She thought their unexpected reunion was just what she needed: Someone to take care of her, as a single mother with a son in the Army and a daughter fresh out of high school.

Instead, police say, Francois took Anglade for everything she had — while he was swindling another Haitian immigrant he had also promised to marry. He allegedly stole some $400,000 from the two New York women.

Francois, 55, of Davie, was being held Thursday on $125,000 bond at the Broward County jail on fraud and theft charges. A lawsuit Anglade filed against Francois in September 2008 also is pending.

Anglade, 50, was overjoyed to see Francois’ mug shot posted online after his arrest Wednesday. His sweet talk had left her penniless and facing eviction from the Miramar house she had bought with him, she said in a phone interview Thursday.

The dental office assistant from the Astoria section of Queens in New York went to Florida on vacation in 2007 to celebrate her daughter’s graduation. She had left Haiti for New York 30 years earlier, and she wanted to see the cultural heart for Haitians in Miami. A stroll through the neighborhood brought her to Francois’ dealership, and she recognized him instantly.

The pair talked by phone every night after Anglade returned to New York. She soon began flying back to Miami every two weeks to be with Francois.

“He told me, ‘I’m going to marry you, you won’t need to go to work,’ because he had the business,” she said. “It was, ‘Honey, honey, honey,’ every day.”

He persuaded her to sell her home and buy a house in Florida from his brother, who was behind on his mortgage, according to the arrest affidavit. Then they opened a joint account, where she deposited more than $287,000 — her savings plus the proceeds from the sale of her New York home.

When Anglade gave Francois a $17,500 check for the mortgage, he deposited it into his own account and then forged her signature on other checks as he emptied their joint account, police said. Anglade said she didn’t know Francois was stealing from her until she bounced a check in October 2007. The bank informed her that the joint account was overdrawn.

“He told me that he moved the money because he was afraid that I wouldn’t like Florida and would take the money back with me to New York,” Anglade said. “He never denied it.”

Anglade also didn’t know that while she was abandoning her life in New York to join Francois, he was wooing another woman.

“He had one week for me and then one week for her,” Anglade said. “He was engaged to both of us.”

Sheila Brissault of Elmont, N.Y., said she was introduced to Francois by his brother, a New York City cab driver, in June 2007. Brissault told authorities that over the phone, Francois claimed to be a real estate agent and persuaded the nurse from Jacmel, Haiti, to come to Florida with $50,000 for a down payment on a home.

When she visited Florida, Francois allegedly persuaded her to apply for a $50,000 line of credit on her New York home and open a joint account with him.

The 43-year-old Brissault, also a single mother with a daughter graduating high school, said she trusted Francois because he produced the right documents and told her he was looking for a wife.

“He kept talking,” she said by telephone from New York. “I thought I would never get married until my daughter graduated, and when I met this man was exactly when my daughter graduated.”

She discovered she had been swindled after Francois asked her to sell her Long Island home. She didn’t, but he had already cleaned out the joint account, according to the arrest affidavit.

Brissault and Anglade told authorities that Francois threatened them each with violence when they demanded he return their money. Anglade said Francois punched her in the face after one confrontation. Brissault said Francois threatened to kill her and her children.

“He’s nice until he gets the money, then immediately he turns into the werewolf,” said Joe Pappacoda, the attorney representing both women.

Francois’ attorney, Leonard Fenn, did not immediately return phone or e-mail messages Thursday.

Anglade and her 20-year-old daughter still live in their foreclosed Florida home, pawning belongings to pay the bills and relying on handouts for grocery money. Anglade is unemployed, and said Francois intended to leave her homeless with no way to support herself.

He sold cars, but he wouldn’t give her one to look for a job, she said.

“He said he loved me so much, he just didn’t want me to go anywhere by myself, so no car for me,” said Anglade . “He said, ‘Oh, honey, those people in Florida are no good.’ He just didn’t want me to talk to no one so I wouldn’t know what was going on with him.”

Copyright 2009 The Associated Press.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Ask The Black Man:Can A Man Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex?

In A Man's Point Of View, A man's Version of the Dating Game, Ask the black man, Black Church, Can A Man Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex?, How to successfully date, Uncategorized, What is True Love?, women talk on August 15, 2009 at 1:18 am

Good morning! I hope your week is progressing in a productive manner.. I have a old topic with a new spin for discussion..Waiting until marriage. Does anyone do that anymore? It’s sort of hard when there is so much divorce and maybe having other men/women to compare your new lover to is the root of the problem.  You tell me..

Below the Black Man addresses a young woman who has chosen to wait to have sex until married ..Let’s see what he has to say about this spicy topic…

Have a great weekend..

Coyfee signing off….

 

Can A Man Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex?

Posted Aug 13

Hello Blackman, I am a 21-year-old African American Christian woman who is saving herself for marriage. Quite frankly, I feel like I am one of the last of a dying breed of excellent women. It seems to be hard to find a good black man who appreciates me for who I am. What man wants to deal with a girl who won’t satisfy his sexual needs until after marriage? CD

 

The Blackman: Hi CD, I think the way society is designed these days it is tough to find that match. It is not impossible though. Just like anything else, once you find something great you should cherish it. Society has transformed a lot throughout the years where pre-marital sex is not looked at as taboo anymore. In some ways it has helped certain situations and in other cases it has not. For example it has stopped some people from getting married and realizing that lust was the premise of their relationship. On the flip side it has made someone overlook a person that they would overall be compatible with but since pre-marital sex was not in the equation, they looked past the person. The age of when people get married has changed as well.

 

Nowadays it is common for people to get married in their 30’s, unlike in the past most people were married with children in their 20’s. Sex has become a big emphasis in our society, rather than religion where premarital sex is forbidden. This factor makes it tougher for people to abstain until marriage. A majority of the things that you see in the multimedia platform of our society has a sexual innuendo to it. Another makes it difficult in your case because the men in your age range are going through their sexual prime so they may not be looking to settle at that point of their lives.

 

Look at yourself as a diamond in the ruff and be open to receiving a gem for a lifetime partner. There are men out there that will respect the fact you want to save yourself for marriage and will see your value beyond sex. Since you are a Christian woman, a good place to look for man who will value that is at Church. That’s not saying that you can’t find men elsewhere that will honor that but they can relate where you are coming from. Be patient and you will find someone that will appreciate you. Good Luck, TBM

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Employment Monthly:Can you find this woman a job?

In Employment Advice, Employment Monthly:Can you find this woman a job?, Uncategorized, women talk on August 13, 2009 at 11:56 pm

We in the Americas must work together, that being said. If anyone has retail management positions in the Pennsylvania area please contact me and I will contact Ms. Ortega. 

 

 I have been out of work for about as long.  I did obtain a small retail position for a fraction of my regular salary.  I myself was not able to obtain unemployment benefits because the company lied during the unemployment hearing.  They were more organized having defeated countless claimers and I was not expecting them to deny the the claim. 

 

How have we lived this long..I returned to school as a full time student.  My sons got jobs and we begin to live life very different.  Now, we did have a time when I was not able to keep the electric on.  I was loaned a electric generator which we used for a couple of months..the landlord was completely evil. The house was so cold that we nearly froze to death when we had electric but when the utility company cut the electric we had to sleep in our clothes to keep warm. 

  

When I obtained the part part time position we relocated. Now I am share this because while the country fights over healthcare I pray that people began to realize that this country status affects everyone.  I am a single mother who greatly depends on the support for my children’s fathers, yes fathers(2) LOL.. When they can’t find work then my family gets screwed several times over. 

I know that life will not be this difficult for ever but it is one that I can not wait to put behind me.

So I ask you to ponder these things: When the American people are jobless why does the rent go up? Why are the utilities allowed to be increased? Why are the gas prices allowed to be increased when many people are having to make longer commutes in idle traffic which cost them more in regard to the amount of fuel they would normally use to commute to work?  Why doesn’t the local government place a cap on rental cost?

In my humble college town/city of Tallahassee Florida; the rent is ridiculous.  For the apartment that I have now ..the one bedroom is over 600.00 dollars a month..any extras..nope the pool is always closed..the complex itself has numerous water leaks(which the tenants pay for in rental fees) the place is a mess.  However, because college students need places to live and most are from other states their parents must pay the ridiculous rates..What about families? Rent for me is near a 1000.00; we have exhausted all of our savings and are now just trying to relocate again..Now lastly the utilites are extremely high also..so if you can scrape the rent then the utilities will definitely empty your bank account.

 

Coyfee signing off..but as I leave you think about the above things…

 

My unemployment benefits ran out

These 5 have been unemployed so long enough they exhausted their unemployment insurance – just like half a million Americans about to face the same fate. How did it happen, and how do they cope without a weekly check?

Mary Ortega

Mary Ortega

Unemployed since: May 2008Benefits expired: July 2009

Filed in: Pennsylvania

Age: 42

I was working as a store manager at a women’s retailer called The Pink Turtle before the whole chain shut down. We did everything we could — we cut employees’ hours, slashed pricing — but I was laid off in May 2008 when the store closed.

I figured I’d be out of work for three to six months, max. Early in my career I’d been laid off, and it never lasted longer than that. I applied for unemployment, and I received the maximum $528 a week before taxes.

Soon I realized how tough of a road I had ahead of me. Headhunters were telling me how online job posts receive 1,000 resumes. Another big blow came when my partner, Craig, was laid off from Blue Cross/Blue Shield a few months later. He recently found a job in Lancaster, Pa., so he’s commuting three hours a day.

I think about what would have happened if Craig and I hadn’t moved in together. I probably could have scraped by being single — but if you’re living someplace where cost of living is higher, you’re in a tough bind.

Our savings are exhausted, and it’s going to be very tight for the next 45 days. If I don’t find a job before that, I truly don’t know what I’m going to do. I’m grateful for the checks I’ve received for the past year, but I just wish I could keep getting them somehow.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy: Police suspect murder-suicide in Arizona family’s death

In Child abuse, Police suspect murder-suicide in Arizona family's death, Uncategorized, Violence Against Males, Violence Against Women, women talk on August 10, 2009 at 4:02 am

Well my dear friends we are back to the old and popular. Murder and suicide. Life is so precious why take anothers and why take your own?

Coyfee signing off…..

 

Police suspect murder-suicide in Arizona family’s death

updated 2:12 p.m. EDT, Fri August 7, 2009

(CNN) — Police in Scottsdale, Arizona, said Friday that they don’t know why a man fatally shot his two young sons and a woman believed to be his wife before turning the gun on himself. The bodies had been in the family’s rental home for several days before they were discovered Thursday afternoon, police spokesman Dave Pubins said in a statement. An out-of-state relative told police that the family had been out of touch and asked them to check the residence, Pubins said.

 

The father was identified Friday morning as Russell Gilman, 48, and the woman was tentatively identified as his wife, Stacey, Pubins said. He said a definite identification of the woman, thought to be 45 years old, was expected after an autopsy. The boys, who were not named, were ages 3 and 7, Pubins said. A second police spokesman, Mark Clark, told CNN affiliate KNXV-TV that a note and a weapon were found in the home, but he didn’t elaborate.

 

“They seemed to be very normal people, other than being quiet, no explanation, really,” neighbor Wayne Lehsten said. He added that the four never participated in neighborhood activities like block parties. “They kept to themselves,” he said. “We would greet them once in a while as we saw him take the children to school.” Pubins called the deaths “a tragic event” and said there was nothing to show that anyone outside the home was involved. A neighbor, who identified herself as Carrie, said she saw the commotion and police cars as she drove to her house. “I have children, and that makes me sad,” she told CNN affiliate KTVK-TV3. “This is the kind of a community — these few blocks here — [where] people are very friendly. There are potlucks and Halloween get-togethers, so why couldn’t they reach out to somebody?”

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Las Vegas boy, 11, dies after mom’s car gets stuck for days in blistering Death Valley

In Lost In Las Vegas-equals Death, Uncategorized, women talk on August 9, 2009 at 10:44 am

This is a real tragedy. A mother and her son are heading for a fun in the sun day and she gets lost.  Her end result is the death of her son..Please pray for this family…

Coyfee is signing off….

  

 

Las Vegas boy, 11, dies after mom’s car gets stuck for days in blistering Death Valley

KEN RITTER Associated Press Writer
6:21 PM CDT, August 7, 2009
LAS VEGAS (AP) — An 11-year-old boy died in the intense heat of Death Valley National Park after he and his mother became stranded in one of the world’s most inhospitable areas and survived for several days on bottled water, Pop-Tarts and cheese sandwiches, authorities said Friday.

Alicia Sanchez, 28, was found severely dehydrated and remained hospitalized in Las Vegas a day after being found with her dog, her dead son and a Jeep Cherokee buried up to its axles in sand.

She told rescuers in California‘s San Bernardino County that her son Carlos died Wednesday, days after she fixed a flat tire and continued into Death Valley, relying on directions from a GPS device in the vehicle.

“It’s in about as remote and isolated an area as you can find,” Death Valley National Park Chief Ranger Brent Pennington told The Associated Press. “How she got to that point, I don’t know.”

Pennington said Sanchez was found by a ranger who followed tire tracks off a dirt road into the Owlshead Mountains near the China Lake Naval Air Station, just inside the southwest corner of the vast national park near the California-Nevada state line. The park covers an area nearly the size of Connecticut.

Summer temperatures commonly run above 120 degrees in Death Valley, with the average daytime August temperature about 113. The high temperature Tuesday and Wednesday was 111, with a low of 96 early Tuesday.

An autopsy on the boy is scheduled for next week, but foul play was not suspected in his death, San Bernardino County sheriff’s spokeswoman Cindy Beavers said.

The family’s pet dachshund survived the ordeal and was being cared for by San Bernardino County sheriff’s deputies, said Sgt. Tim Lotspeich, a deputy who assisted in the rescue about 20 miles east of the remote town of Trona, Calif. Trona is about 140 miles northeast of Los Angeles.

Officials said Sanchez and her son set out last Saturday with a case of 24, 16-ounce bottles of water and food on what was to be an overnight camping trip.

There were conflicting reports about when they became stranded. The San Bernardino County coroner’s office said it was Monday; Pennington and San Bernardino County sheriff’s officials said it was last Saturday.

By all accounts, no one reported them missing until Wednesday.

“We got multiple calls about 5 p.m. on Wednesday from family members concerned that they hadn’t heard from her,” Pennington said. “They said they received a text message Aug. 1 that said she was out in the desert changing a flat tire.”

Las Vegas Police Officer Bill Cassell, a department spokesman, would not release a missing persons report. He said investigators checked the woman’s apartment in Las Vegas and began coordinating a search with San Bernardino County sheriff’s officials.

Pennington said an air and ground search was launched at dawn Thursday, and the woman and her son’s body were found about 11 a.m.

He said a park ranger followed tire tracks on a dirt road into the desert, and at one point passed an abandoned tire and rim and water bottle.

The ranger found Sanchez waving for help outside the vehicle, which Pennington said apparently hit an underground animal den and became badly stuck in the sand. The boy’s body was inside the Jeep.

Sanchez was taken to Sunrise Hospital and Medical Center in Las Vegas, about 130 miles east of Trona. Hospital spokeswoman Ashlee Seymour said the woman was in fair condition but could not be interviewed.

Sanchez told authorities she couldn’t get a cell phone signal, and even hiked to the top of a peak to try. Authorities said the pair had no maps and quickly consumed the food and water they brought.

Pennington said cellular service is spotty and global positioning satellite directions can be unreliable on unmaintained roads and open desert in and around Death Valley.

“A GPS does not replace a map, a compass, checking in at the visitor center and letting people know where you’re going to be,” Pennington said.

He said searchers mistakenly looked late Wednesday for Sanchez in campgrounds in the Panamint Mountains, based on family members’ reports that she planned to camp in free sites and visit the Scotty’s Castle attraction in the far northeast corner of the vast national park.

The chief ranger said family members in the Midwest described Alicia Sanchez as a nurse who recently moved to Las Vegas and was working at a Las Vegas hospital. He said she had been due to work Wednesday evening.

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Associated Press staff writer Gillian Flaccus in Tustin, Calif., contributed to this report.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Strange and Unusual: Man claims his cat downloads porn

In Child abuse, Dog eat your homework? Man claims his cat downloads porn, Uncategorized, women talk on August 9, 2009 at 9:13 am

People in Florida must be on a roll…check out the below story..this is hillarious but serious..the dude needs to be locked up and have the key thrown away..

Coyfee is signing off..

Dog eat your homework? Man claims his cat downloads porn

> Posted by Barbara Hijek on August 7, 2009 07:15 AM

We once worked with a guy who said he was late to work because his cat peed on his alarm clock and shorted it out.

But we like this cat story better.

Keith R. Griffin, 48, of Jensen Beach has a cat.

And you know what that pussy does?

Downloads porn!

So Griffin says.

But cops weren’t convinced.

Instead, they charged Griffin with 10 counts of possession of child pornography after a detective found more than 1,000 child pornographic images on his computer, reports TCPalm.com.

Griffin gave it a good shot.

He told detectives he would leave his computer on and his cat would jump on the keyboard.

And when he returned there will be strange material downloaded.

Griffin was in Martin County Jail in lieu of $250,000 bail.

Maybe the cat is now busy poking friends on Facebook.

This is what we call kitty porn.

ConversationswitCoyfee presents Strange and Unusual:people displaying gas station rage

In Uncategorized on August 9, 2009 at 9:03 am

This one will surely bring a smile to your face..the clerk get’s hit because the gas pump doesn’t work…to hot and gas is too expensive..people displaying gas station rage…

Coyfee signing off….

 

Go ahead and gas up. But you’re taking your life in your hands

> Posted by Barbara Hijek on August 4, 2009 05:30 AM

Be careful when you fill up at the gas pump. It’s hot and folks are pumped.

A Circle K clerk in Daytona Beach told the 911 dispatcher a customer hit him in the head with a squeegee.

Lawrence_toby.jpg

A customer also called 911.

“We just pulled up and he grabbed one of the car squeegees and went after the guy working in the store,” a witness told a dispatcher.

When Volusia County sheriff’s deputies arrived, the clerk told them that the man was upset after he prepaid for $10 of gas and the fuel pump failed to work.

The clerk said the man had gotten $1.03 worth of gas and offered to give him back $9, but the man demanded a full refund.

The clerk said a physical altercation ensued and displays were knocked over. The man left, but returned with a squeegee and hit the clerk in the head with it, the clerk said, reports ClickOrlando.com.

Deputies found Lawrence Toby at the scene. Fueled with anger.

All over $1.03 of gas.

Just when you thought it was safe to pump again, here comes James Van Pilkinton, 56, from
Pelham, Ala.

Pilkinton was annoyed at being asked to move his car out of the way at a Crestview gas pump.

A man said he’d asked the other man to move his car if he was done pumping gas and he responded, “Get out of my face,” according to the suspect’s arrest report.

So he pulled out the gas pump nozzle and sprayed the man in the chest, left arm, groin and facial area, reports the Northwest Florida Daily News.

When the victim called the suspect a “fat (expletive),” the other man reached into his vehicle, stating he had a gun and was going to shoot the victim.

Police pulled the suspect over near Duke Field and searched his car. On the floorboard, where he had reached for a weapon, the officer found a hatchet and a knife.

And we think Miami’ is rough?

Photo: Lawrence Toby, Local 6 in Orlando

ConversationswitCoyfee presents A Tragedy:Symbol of Unhealed Congo: Male Rape Victims-In Congo

In A Man's Point Of View, Africia, Child abuse, homosexuality, Symbol of Unhealed Congo: Male Rape Victims, Uncategorized, Violence Against Males, women talk on August 8, 2009 at 2:11 pm

This story maybe one of the saddest ones that I have posted in weeks.  The issue of men being raped in a country where homosexuality is such a taboo is heartwrenching.  Please read below..

Coyfee signing off…

 

Symbol of Unhealed Congo: Male Rape Victims

Jehad Nga for The New York Times

Clockwise from top left, Kazungu Ziwa, Shabani Lufuno, Ngabu Bita and Matata Badoda. All are Congolese men who were recently raped and agreed to be photographed. More Photos >

Published: August 4, 2009
GOMA, Congo — It was around 11 p.m. when armed men burst into Kazungu Ziwa’s hut, put a machete to his throat and yanked down his pants. Mr. Ziwa is a tiny man, about four feet, six inches tall. He tried to fight back, but said he was quickly beaten down.

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Jehad Nga for The New York Times

A camp for internally displaced people in Rutshuru. More than 500,000 Congolese have been driven from their homes. More Photos »

The New York Times

For years, eastern Congo has been a reservoir of atrocities. More Photos >

“Then they raped me,” he said. “It was horrible, physically. I was dizzy. My thoughts just left me.”

For years, the thickly forested hills and clear, deep lakes of eastern Congo have been a reservoir of atrocities. Now, it seems, there is another growing problem: men raping men.

According to Oxfam, Human Rights Watch, United Nations officials and several Congolese aid organizations, the number of men who have been raped has risen sharply in recent months, a consequence of joint Congo-Rwanda military operations against rebels that have uncapped an appalling level of violence against civilians.

Aid workers struggle to explain the sudden spike in male rape cases. The best answer, they say, is that the sexual violence against men is yet another way for armed groups to humiliate and demoralize Congolese communities into submission.

The United Nations already considers eastern Congo the rape capital of the world, and Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton is expected to hear from survivors on her visit to the country next week. Hundreds of thousands of women have been sexually assaulted by the various warring militias haunting these hills, and right now this area is going through one of its bloodiest periods in years.

The joint military operations that began in January between Rwanda and Congo, David and Goliath neighbors who were recently bitter enemies, were supposed to end the murderous rebel problem along the border and usher in a new epoch of cooperation and peace. Hopes soared after the quick capture of a renegade general who had routed government troops and threatened to march across the country.

But aid organizations say that the military maneuvers have provoked horrific revenge attacks, with more than 500,000 people driven from their homes, dozens of villages burned and hundreds of villagers massacred, including toddlers thrown into open fires.

And it is not just the rebels being blamed. According to human rights groups, soldiers from the Congolese Army are executing civilians, raping women and conscripting villagers to lug their food, ammunition and gear into the jungle. It is often a death march through one of Africa’s lushest, most stunning tropical landscapes, which has also been the scene of a devastatingly complicated war for more than a decade.

“From a humanitarian and human rights perspective, the joint operations are disastrous,” said Anneke Van Woudenberg, a researcher for Human Rights Watch.

The male rape cases span several hundred miles and possibly include hundreds of victims. The American Bar Association, which runs a sexual violence legal clinic in Goma, said that more than 10 percent of its cases in June were men.

Brandi Walker, an aid worker at Panzi hospital in nearby Bukavu, said, “Everywhere we go, people say men are getting raped, too.”

But nobody knows the exact number. Men here, like anywhere, are reluctant to come forward. Several who did said they instantly became castaways in their villages, lonely, ridiculed figures, derisively referred to as “bush wives.”

Since being raped several weeks ago, Mr. Ziwa, 53, has not shown much interest in practicing animal medicine, his trade for years. He limps around (his left leg was crushed in the attack) in a soiled white lab coat with “veterinaire” printed on it in red pen, carrying a few biscuit-size pills for dogs and sheep.

“Just thinking about what happened to me makes me tired,” he said.

The same is true for Tupapo Mukuli, who said he was pinned down on his stomach and gang-raped in his cassava patch seven months ago. Mr. Mukuli is now the lone man in the rape ward at Panzi hospital, which is filled with hundreds of women recovering from rape-related injuries. Many knit clothes and weave baskets to make a little money while their bodies heal.

But Mr. Mukuli is left out.

“I don’t know how to make baskets,” he said. So he spends his days sitting on a bench, by himself.

The male rape cases are still just a fraction of those against women. But for the men involved, aid workers say, it is even harder to bounce back.

“Men’s identity is so connected to power and control,” Ms. Walker said.

And in a place where homosexuality is so taboo, the rapes carry an extra dose of shame.

“I’m laughed at,” Mr. Mukuli said. “The people in my village say: ‘You’re no longer a man. Those men in the bush made you their wife.’ ”

Aid workers here say the humiliation is often so severe that male rape victims come forward only if they have urgent health problems, like stomach swelling or continuous bleeding. Sometimes even that is not enough. Ms. Van Woudenberg said that two men whose penises were cinched with rope died a few days later because they were too embarrassed to seek help. Castrations also seem to be increasing, with more butchered men showing up at major hospitals.

Last year, Congo’s rape epidemic appeared to be easing a bit, with fewer cases reported and some rapists jailed. But today, it seems like that thin veneer of law and order has been stripped away. The way villagers describe it, it is open season on civilians.

Muhindo Mwamurabagiro, a tall, graceful woman with long, strong arms, explained how she was walking to the market with friends when they were suddenly surrounded by a group of naked men.

“They grabbed us by the throat and threw us down and raped us,” she said.

Worse, she said, one of the rapists was from her village.

“I yelled, ‘Father of Kondo, I know you, how can you do this?’ ”

One mother said a United Nations peacekeeper raped her 12-year-old boy. A United Nations spokesman said that he had not heard that specific case but that there were indeed a number of new sexual abuse allegations against peacekeepers in Congo and that a team was sent in late July to investigate.

Congolese health professionals are becoming exasperated. Many argue for a political solution, not a military one, and say Western powers should put more pressure on Rwanda, which is widely accused of preserving its own stability by keeping the violence on the other side of the border.

“I understand the world feels guilty about what happened in Rwanda in 1994,” said Denis Mukwege, the lead doctor at Panzi Hospital, referring to Rwanda’s genocide. “But shouldn’t the world feel guilty about what’s happening in Congo today?”